娜塔莉·鲍恩Brookshire

Natalie Bowen Brookshire在母性，采用，爱和光

由katie hintz-zambrano撰写

下午3:00

11/28/17

当一个人遇到旧金山的花卉设计师时娜塔莉·鲍恩Brookshire，“完美”这个词来到了脑海中。她举办完美的派对（在她身上田园诗般的工作室花园)，创造出完美的花卉杰作(这是一个小小的证明这里和这里)，有一个完美的美丽Instagram Feed.和一个图片完美的家（在下面的幻灯片中看到），被同样的画面完美的三重奏，她的丈夫Seth和女儿，周五，1.但是，众所周知，完美是一个神话。娜塔莉对她当前生活的道路并没有没有苦难和痛苦。在这里，她向我们展示了她的住所，仔细地对她漫长的母塑性的友好，这在一年前的情绪领养中有效。

有关纳塔利的更多信息，请务必查看我们的触摸视频关于她收养孩子和生育困难的经历。

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Seth, is an architect and he designed it. He has lived here 14 years and I’ve lived here 6 years."">: “我的丈夫,赛斯他是一位建筑师，是他设计的。他在这里住了14年，我在这里住了6年。”

: “我们的家是一个不典型的旧金山住宅的现代庭院。装饰是折衷的，自然的，并为我们家的干净设计增加了柔软。”

: “我们可能用得最多的是家庭娱乐室，因为它毗邻厨房，但自从星期五之后，我们几乎使用了所有的房间。她让我们以一种新的方式重新发现了我们的家。”

: “我的理念是，把我真正喜欢的东西、让我想起我们旅行和共同兴趣的东西带进来。不要忘记编辑和轮换。”

: “我的哲学是只有我们所爱的东西，这也是为了孩子的东西。虽然我喜欢游戏室的想法，但我喜欢星期五和我们在房子的每个房间里享受她的玩具和东西。我们有her things in each major room and put them away at night. I know that as she gets older we’ll have more and more of her things in our home, however I would like it to look as if a child lives in our home, not that we live in a playroom."

Kamperett dress. Friday wears vintage. ">: 娜塔莉戴A.Kamperett.裙子。星期五穿着葡萄酒。

: “我喜欢生活在一个城市，这意味着我们有多样性，每时每刻都有各种各样的人。而且，周五有很多不同的地方可以去，甚至不是专门为孩子准备的。我们经常去博物馆，还会在要塞漫步大自然。”

: “今年，我在旧金山生活了20年。虽然我无法想象生活任何地方，你永远不会知道。我永远不会知道。我可以看到我们靠近旧金山，略微北头移动。我梦想着在这个国家举起培养我的女儿和yet I love city life so much. I think of all the decisions that life brings us, and I’m not feeling pressed to make this one. Come back and ask me when it is time to think more about schools."

Pizzetta 211 for family date night, The Podolls for shopping for both of us, The Mill for meeting a friend for tea, Souvla for a quick lunch, and The Presidio for a walk."">: “星期五也是我所处的到来，这也是为了吃饭，玩耍和购物。我最喜欢的地方自从她有她以来只有略微修改，但我知道他们将来会更多。我们最喜欢的亨德斯Pizzetta 211适合家庭日期之夜，的Podolls为我们俩买东西，这个工厂和朋友一起喝茶，Souvla.吃个快餐，然后校长散步。”

Homework designed it for Friday. And Susan's love and adoration of my baby girl fills the space and I can feel her when I am in it. I showed Susan a wallpaper that I loved and she ran with it. I only told her that I wanted to use as many pieces that we already had and add what she thought we needed. What Susan created is truly a sanctuary of sweetness. I wanted it to feel feminine without being overly girly and I feel that the black backdrop of the wallpaper grounds it." ">: “星期五的房间是我的梦想室。亲爱的朋友苏珊在家工作为星期五设计。和苏珊的爱情和崇拜我的宝贝女孩填补了空间，当我进入它时，我就能感受到她。我展示了我爱的壁纸，她跑了。我只告诉她，我想用我们已经拥有的多个作品，并添加了她所需要的东西。什么苏珊创造的是真正的甜蜜庇护所。我希望它感到女性不太少女，我觉得壁纸的黑色背景。“

Evoke the Spirit in Sayuilta when we were on a trip a month before Friday’s birth. When I look at it I think of a time of anticipation and daydreaming. We also have a Frida Kahlo doll made by a friend and a baby blanket my husband's 99-year-old grandmother made for us before she passed away just moths before Friday was born. I feel as if every single thing we have in the room is connected to a place or a person dear to us. And, of course, I can feel Susan’s love and magical design touch all around us when we are in there."">: “壁纸是我最喜欢的元素。当我走进房间时，我看到它，它每次都会让我感觉好。周五被它作为一个婴儿迷住了。我们使用了我们已经拥有的沙发和摇椅，我们已经拥有的沙发和摇椅来自我丈夫的客户的礼物，这对自己的方式感到特别。我有一个流苏悬挂和一个我从中获得的串珠唤起精神在周五孩子出生前一个月，我们去萨尤尔塔旅行。当我看到它的时候，我想到了期待和白日梦的时刻。我们还有一个朋友做的弗里达·卡罗(Frida Kahlo)娃娃和一条婴儿毯，是我丈夫99岁的祖母在周五出生前的几个月去世前给我们做的。我觉得房间里的每一件东西都与我们所爱的地方或人息息相关。当然，当我们在那里的时候，我能感受到苏珊的爱和神奇的设计触感。”

: “未知。克服挑战。为了能够以一种让我感到自信和自豪的方式出现在我的女儿面前，我要致力于自己。”

When An Elephant Falls In Love, An Awesome Book of Love!, My Wild Family, and Everybody Needs A Rock. Bottom shelf, left to right: The Complete Book of Flower Fairies, Flora and the Flamingo, Up in the Garden and Down in the Dirt, Little People, Big Dreams: Maya Angelou, and Little People Big Dreams: Coco Chanel. ">: 星期五的收藏品也包括一些我们最喜欢的孩子的头衔！顶部架子，左右：当一头大象坠入爱河，一本令人敬畏的爱之书!，我的野生家庭，和人人都需要一块石头．底架，左右：完整的花仙子书，弗洛拉和火烈鸟，上在花园下在泥土里，《小人物，大梦想》:玛雅·安吉罗，和《小人物大梦想》:可可·香奈儿．

: “未知。一定的挑战。潜在的遗憾。在一个极其昂贵的城市里，我感到经济上受到了限制。”

: “我没有图标，但我确实觉得我学会了，我的灵感来自我见面的每个母亲。我常常倾向于拥有年长的孩子的女性，而我很感激他们的广阔观点。”

The Danish Way of Parenting on my bedside but have not cracked it yet. My main resource has been to poll people that I know whose experiences and children I admire, and then do what they are doing."">: “很长时间以来，我一直避免看任何与母亲有关的东西，直到现在我才真正拥抱和接触到外面的世界资源。我喜欢看《母亲》，因为网站上的女性与我有共鸣，并且有一系列的观点。我有一份丹麦的育儿方式在我的床边，但还没有打开它。我的主要资源是调查我认识的人，他们的经历和孩子让我钦佩，然后做他们正在做的事情。”

many of my peers had babies (mainly girls, too) at the same time. We have an unofficial mother’s group and I realize there may be some life-long friendships being formed already." ">: “我的家人和朋友给了我强大的支持。我姐姐住在旧金山湾区，我妈妈住在北加州，她们经常来陪我度过周五，在我需要的时候给予我额外的支持。今年我去另一个州参加活动时，我的母亲和我一起旅行，这真是一份美妙的礼物。周五出生的时候正好是六周的时间许多我的同龄人都同时生了孩子(主要也是女孩)。我们有一个非官方的母亲团体，我意识到可能已经建立了一些终生的友谊。”

: “我想出这个名字是在一次难忘的旅行中，当时我和丈夫在西雅图圣胡安群岛的周五港。当我们与周五的生母的联系成为正式的配对时，我们就在那次旅行中，所以这个名字将我们与一段非常甜蜜和温柔的时光联系在了一起。这个名字还包含了一些周五生母的名字，我发现这是另一层含义。她的中间名，维奥拉，是一种我们都喜欢的名字。后来我们发现，‘星期五’的意思是‘小苍兰’，这是另一种在春天盛开的花。”

Mansur Gavriel bucket bag (!), a friend's gift to Friday to celebrate the finalization of her adoption. ">: mini-estMansur Gavriel桶包（！），朋友送给星期五的礼物，以庆祝她采用的最终确定。

: “我总是知道我想成为一名母亲，这个清晰度有助于引导我，当我击中死东时成为一个。”

Petit Pehr pom pom hamper. ">: 一个Petit Pehr.pom pom阻碍。

Sleepi Crib by Stokke. ">: 白色斯托克的《睡眠婴儿床》(Sleepi Crib)．

: “我的丈夫和我丈夫开始在星期五出生前五年来婴儿。立即被证明是一些道路街区。在未来三年里，我去了几个生育医生，针灸，Naturopath，玛雅腹部按摩，initiatives of different types, and countless other forms of doctors and healers. Meanwhile, everyone I knew seemed to be getting pregnant whether trying or not. After finding out that an egg donor was our best chance at me conceiving, we decided to just sit with it all for a while. Adoption is something we both had interest in and my husband and I decided to move forward and learn more about adoption and went to a meeting at an agency and then had a meeting with an attorney we had heard of from several people. After those meetings we both knew so clearly that we were going to adopt and it was going to happen and we would be parents. It was exactly nine months between that meeting and the day our baby was born. I know that this process is not quick for many, so I see that as a gift we were given after waiting for what feels like a long time. I know others wait much longer, so it is not lost on me. I will always have my birth story, it just happens that I was not the one giving birth."

: “1.照顾好自己。做你需要做的事情来连接到满足你的来源。搜索或深化连接。2.找到你的某人或某事来支持你。3.找到幽默，找到网点，找到乐趣。在艰难时期，你在这里和那里需要救济。“

For more on this topic, check out Mother's piece on Helping A Friend Through Infertility. ">: "1. Don’t tell them about your cousin/sister/friend who went through it and what they did. Everyone’s experience is different and this can cause a person to feel more isolated and less understood. 2. Don’t tell them to relax. Or to stop thinking about it. Or just go away for the weekend with their partner. 3. Don’t feel hurt if they don’t come to your kid's birthday party or your baby shower. It’s hard to explain how painful events like these can be and what they can bring up. 4. Be mindful of child-centric and motherhood topics of conversation in their company, even if it is the only thing going on in your life."
想了解更多关于这个话题的信息，请查看母亲的文章通过不孕症帮助朋友．

: “我家里的很多人都是被收养的，所以这似乎是组建家庭的一个很好的选择。我一直都想要怀孕，我必须经历这段经历，同时也为自己没有怀孕而悲伤。我觉得自己的身体非常排斥我，但这与我如何与我的女儿相处无关。当我们决定不孕不育的治疗已经走到了尽头时，我们花了一些时间去适应、处理和感受。在参加了一个关于收养的会议之后，我们都精神焕发，兴奋不已，从那天起就再也没有回头。当我们的恐惧出现时，我们直视它们，并不断克服它们。我们心里知道，我们在通往女儿的道路上。而且,我们。收养不是我的B计划，也不是我的安慰奖。很明显，这对我来说意味着什么，我很感激能有这样的荣幸。”

: "Friday’s birth mother lives in a different state, so we flew out close to the time we thought she would give birth. The day she was induced was earlier than expected and we called my husband and told him to get on the first flight he could get on. We got him on the last seat on the last flight that would get him here in time. He took a cab two hours from the airport directly to the hospital and arrived in time. I was with Friday’s birth mom through the entire labor and delivery. When the moment came that Friday would be born the nurse asked me where I wanted to stand and I said next to her birth mom, so I could be close to her. My baby was being born and I was there for that, yet I was also there for her birth mom. When Friday was born they let my husband cut the cord and I got to hold her first. She was then passed to my husband and then I handed her to C (Friday’s birth Mom). It was a moment we all shared and that is a bittersweet time. It is joy and loss and happiness and grief all together. What I felt most, was connected. Both to my baby, my husband, and C. Following the birth we spent every day with C until we flew home when Friday was 10 days old."

: “1.了解更多信息。问一下他们最近通过的人，他们如何启动这个过程。2.借鉴你的恐惧和工作。最有可能这些是关于你自己而不是通过它。通过进程而不是害怕困扰。3.接受它是一个漫长而宣传的过程充满了文书工作和社会工作者，以及各种各样的报告，并测试被击倒的人轻松敲门不必做。接受那个和唐’t let your frustration with that get in your way. 4. Forget all of your ideas about an ideal pregnancy. This is your child, but it is not your pregnancy."

my fears. I’ve been working on looking at what scares me and breaking that down, rather than running from them, and my world has changed. I also think that my husband and I have really grown together, even when times are hard. I feel like an adult, I’ll tell you that. The gift that adoption brought me is all the layers and relationships and beauty that becomes from this experience. I truly love Friday’s birth mother and wake up each day wanting to be the best person I can because she chose me to raise her child. I feel an intense connection to the idea that becoming a mother is not at all how I thought I would get there and yet when I reflect I think how perfect it is. I found my little angel and the people and experiences I collected along the road are an added bonus."">: “就像这么多人一样，我用控制斗争。回想起来，这种经验已经改变了我看待我的控制方式以及这影响结果的方式。采用的过程给了我一个深刻的课程，看看我的恐惧并完全实现了深刻的教训那。他们是我的恐惧。我一直在努力看看害怕我并打破那个下来，而不是从他们跑步，而我的世界已经改变了。我也认为我的丈夫和我真的在一起成长，即使时间很难。我觉得是一个成年人，我会告诉你的。采用给我的礼物是从这种体验中成为所有的层数和关系和美丽。我真的爱星期五的母亲，每天醒来，想要成为我能成为最好的人，因为她选择我抚养她的孩子。我觉得与成为母亲的想法的强烈联系并不是我以为我会以为我会到达那里，但是当我反思时，我认为它是多么完美。我发现了我的小天使和我沿着这条路收集的人民和经验是一个额外的奖金。“

: “我是在北加州的一个小镇上长大的，主要是由我的母亲抚养，在我童年的大部分时间里，她都是单亲妈妈。我姐姐比我大将近10岁，所以现在回想起来，我童年的大部分时间都是在单亲家庭度过的，直到我母亲嫁给了我继父，他的五个孩子中有两个搬来和我们住。我的一些童年时光是在乡村度过的，在那里我学会了如何拥有强大的想象力和享受自然，尽管我渴望城市生活。”

Georgia vase. ">: 乔纳森阿德勒的标志性格鲁吉亚的花瓶．

: “我妈妈看上去很放松，但我知道她是故意的，同时一点也不放松。她强调礼貌，我也希望如此。我们在这样一个房子里长大，感觉我和姐姐是这个家的一部分，但不是这个家的主人。我们生活在一个成人的世界里，我们不是宇宙的中心。我认为这是体验真实世界的好方法。”

: “你要知道，与睡眠有关的一切都将发生变化，这会是一场斗争，所以你要尽你所能照顾好自己，要知道这段时间会过去的。”要求你所需要的，然后当它给你的时候接受它。屏蔽掉所有建议，除了你的请求。每个人都想告诉你“应该”做什么，如果有什么事情让你很纠结，比如睡觉或吃饭，那你就可以敞开心扉，主动提出你的意见，这些意见本意是好的，但在当时往往不会让你感到支持。如果可以的话，找个清洁工。外卖。如果你有伴侣，不要忘记他们，每天看着他们的眼睛，告诉他们你爱他们。”

: 美丽的三人组。

: “我们从中西部地区到达家乡，星期五出生，在选举前不到48小时。就像该国的其他地方一样，我们被惊呆了，我们在进入婴儿泡沫后立即处理。我们会邀请朋友们谁在选举后悲伤，抱着宝宝并获得一点喘息的时刻。自从现在正在谈论的选举和冥想的问题以来，这很多都会到了表面。周五是美国的混血族女性，我们的工作是她的父母要从平等直言不讳。“

: “我的生活方式和婚姻的方法是从来没有海岸，并使我们掌握卓越标准。我的丈夫和我的丈夫和我的关系优先顺序，让时间互相努力。我们彼此友好，不同每天挑战我们的方式，但通过这些挑战挑战，使我们都更具活力的人。我发现它发现它是“一天一天”真的有助于。如果我有美好的一天......我做了什么为了使它好？如果我有一个糟糕的一天......明天是另一天！我的丈夫和我很幸运能够保持联系并导航每次作为一个团队。我觉得这是我最黑暗的银色衬里之一days as I know this is not the experience many couples have. My husband’s support helped me get through the rough road getting here and now it has helped me continue my business while raising our daughter."

: “这个问题的答案就在未来。”

floral designer. I started my business 14 years ago and have never looked back since."">: “我是一个花卉设计师．我14年前开始创业，从那以后就没有回头过。”

: "I feel a strong invigoration around my business right now. I just started putting time in my calendar to work on the business, which feels so good. I don’t check my email or look at Instagram or do anything until that hour is over. I find that it is a very productive, juicy time. I’m inspired by knowing something new and big is around the corner."

Reformation dress. Friday wears vintage. ">: 娜塔莉戴A.改革裙子。星期五穿着葡萄酒。

: “我以一种全新的方式利用时间。许多母亲会告诉你她们更有效率，我也同意。和很多人一样，当我周五不在或者不上班的时候，我也会感到内疚。这是一个恶性循环。我试图通过提醒自己，周五看到我创造、联系和贡献，会有很大的积极影响，来对抗这种情绪。”

: 小短袜。和天鹅绒灯笼裤。我们死。

: “现在我已经是一个母亲了，我想回馈更多，因为我想告诉我的女儿如何利用她的职业去帮助别人。我的母亲在她的一生中一直都是自愿的，我觉得现在是我做志愿者的时候了。我总是可以用时间作为借口，但我也相信我们会为最重要的事情腾出时间。”

: “我没有休产假。我有我自己的生意，没有我，它就无法运转。我的紧张感立刻改变了，但我很确定我是在查看来自医院的电子邮件。”

: 在楼上的走廊里的叶茂盛，轻浸的角落。

: “绝对!我曾希望，有了孩子后，我能弄清楚工作的轻重缓急，知道该怎么做，事实的确如此。”

Free People top and Oak and Fort skirt. ">: 娜塔莉戴A.自由的人顶部和橡木和堡垒裙子。

: "My dream is to make my business become a brand. I’m putting energy into making connections with businesses and people I love right now. Flowers will always be my life, yet I am headed towards a pivot. I feel more invigorated about my business now than I have in a very long time and I see this 100% due to being a mother. I’ve just completed my first year of doing both and I feel that I did not just survive, I thrived."

: Peek-a-boo时间。

Minted. ">: 仙人掌印花尾镜薄荷．

: “我的个人风格是雅致的波西米亚风格。我是第四代加州人，我的血液中流淌着对这个州和生活方式的热爱。我无法摆脱它，我也没有尝试过。自从有了星期五之后，我就不再那么努力了，更努力地尝试我的风格。我选择了一条漂亮的裙子，而不是一套完美的套装。这是关于简单性的，但也是关于模式的。我疲惫的一天最爱的就是红色唇膏，我希望它永远不会过时。”

Converse high-tops or my my Freda Salvadors. For clothes, I love a jumpsuit and a white pair of jeans."">: ”我的鞋匡威高帮鞋还是我的弗雷达萨尔瓦多．对于衣服，我喜欢连身衣和一双白牛仔裤。“

Sarah Becker. I am currently loving the Laurel products along with Vintner’s Daughter oil. For makeup I love the Ilia Cheek, which was a gift from my sister-in-law, and a saturated lipstick. I love natural products and reserve my non-natural lip love for Tom Ford and NARS. I’m also a fan of the doTERRA oils, especially now that I have a baby, and a mid-day spritz of Tata Harper Hydrating Floral Essence." ">: “我是关于我的皮肤。我很幸运能够拥有常规面部莎拉贝克尔．我目前正在爱这个月桂树产品与酿造葡萄酒的人的女儿油。为了化妆我喜欢伊利亚脸颊这是我嫂子送的礼物，还有一支饱和的口红。我喜欢天然的产品，保留我对非天然嘴唇的爱汤姆·福特和nar．我也是一个粉丝doTERRA油尤其是现在我有了孩子，中午还喷了点塔塔哈珀水合花卉精华．"

: “没有自我照顾我解开。我每次都会为我做点什么，因为我为家庭做了什么，因为我是我的两次我去了一个在里昂街道楼梯上教授的室外酒吧课程。我试试和not miss those classes and on a good and very rare week I’ll get one more class in. I go early in the morning when my husband is in bed and can snuggle Friday, so it is the least impact on him and does not require a sitter to do so. I meditate daily and in this season of life I only sit for 10 minutes a day. Lately, I’ll get up early before everyone in the house is up to guarantee that I get that time. If I don’t do it then, it will not happen. I make dinner most nights, but our dinners have become very simple. Nutrition is very important to me, so making our food is something that I prioritize."

: "I’ve always prioritized my 'me time,' so now that Friday is here and my time is always with her, I realized how much time I did and still do take for myself. In fact, I often want much more even though I take more time than a lot of women I know. I have decided to feel proud of the time and not selfish. I struggle to see how women, especially mothers, can function without nurturing themselves. Once a week, and sometimes more, I do something for myself whether it is acupuncture or a session with my life coach. Lately, once a week I will go out in the evening, sometimes when Friday is asleep and sometimes before. I manage to take this time by having a husband who has always spent time with our baby and also having a sitter about 12-ish hours a week."