公平地说，他试图出现。在最初的几个星期里，他上班迟到了几个小时，这样我就可以在长时间的喂食后有时间睡觉。他会在7点后带杰克下楼，看电视上的体育节目，我会休息到9点或10点。这足以让我至少睡个懒觉urvive the day. There were also some fun times when he really showed up. Like when he would use Jack like a puppet and have him dance across our table, controlling his limbs and grooving to the tunes.
But overall, I was very alone. I felt like it was up to me the way he hoped it could be up to me, not because I wanted to, but because I didn’t feel like I had a choice.
That part of motherhood bootcamp, the divide in our relationship, was almost equally hard when I had the space to acknowledge it. At first, I felt like it was my responsibility to bring Jack to peace because I was the creator, the mother, the vessel. I was the food supply; we were connected internally, and there will always be a piece of him inside of me for the rest of my life. It felt like he was more mine and as a mother, I had a stronger superpower to make it better.
My strongest memory is when I was lying in bed one morning. My mother-in-law was downstairs watching Jack for a moment in a brave attempt to allow me some time to take a nap.
While she was downstairs doing her part to soothe him, I lay in bed and thought, If I don’t wake up, I’ll be okay.
It’s not that I wished to die, but that I had a beautiful life, and I would be okay if it were time to cash in my chips. I was tired. Beyond tired, I was exhausted, and there was no rejuvenation in sight. The birth literally tore me in half and now I had stitches deep within me, holding me together.
They discovered six weeks after the birth that I had been stitched up wrong. Like a sweatshirt whose zipper was only half aligned, they discovered this constant source of pain for me that I shrugged off and attributed to post-delivery pain. It made it impossible to sit down, not that Jack allowed it anyway.
When they discovered my raw, exposed tissue, they singed my tissue with liquid nitrate to kill my nerve endings, and even still, the raw sensitivity persisted. It was so physically and emotionally demanding that I didn’t think I had anything left. I was ready.
In similar moments, but with a hint more energy, I was driven to search for support: “Reasons for colic,” “food sensitivity,” “pain after childbirth,” “postpartum depression,” and “new parent coping.” I can’t remember all the browser history, but every moment I had off, I was searching for answers. Some searches I knew were terrible, but I typed them anyway. I searched for words like “frustrated,” “helpless,” and “giving up.” It didn’t matter the search, I rarely found anything of substance, but I did come upon a quote by Miranda July that made me cry because of how fitting it is:
“If you were wise enough to know that this life would consist mostly of letting go of things you wanted, then why not get good at the letting go, rather than the trying to have?” These exotic revelations bubbled up involuntarily and I began to understand that the sleeplessness and vigilance and constant feedings were a form of brainwashing, a process by which my old self was being molded, slowly but with a steady force, into a new shape: a mother. It hurt. I tried to be conscious while it happened, like watching my own surgery. I hoped to retain a tiny corner of the old me, just enough to warn other women with. But I knew this was unlikely; when the process was complete, I wouldn’t have anything left to complain with, it wouldn’t hurt anymore, I wouldn’t remember.
People would say that at three months it gets better. Some were bold enough to say six months, and then there were the heartless ones that said around a year. I was living on an hourly basis. Make it through this hour, and maybe the next could have relief.
We would do squats. We would drop our knees and hold him close and something about the motion would quiet his screams. Hundreds of squats, up and down all day. It turned into a method of evaluating how hard the night was. “Tonight was a 157-squat kind of night, tonight was only 86 squats.” It was the expectation that my husband would trade off with me when he could handle it. He wanted our roles to be balanced. He wanted to help, but regularly he couldn’t.
Each time I assumed more of the load than he did, he let me. I’d do the soothing for as long as I could bear, and my times went from double to triple his. And as I did more, I knew more, I was growing thicker skin and learning faster.
“Why is he crying?” He’d ask in desperation.
I never knew, but I had come to understand what we needed to try. “Did you check his diaper?”
“Yes, and I tried to feed him, but he won’t take a bottle.”
“He just ate 30 minutes ago.” I knew he saw me feed him, it felt dumbfounding. “Maybe rub his stomach, do his leg presses. Maybe he has gas.”
“What’s wrong with him?” he meant on a bigger scale.
“Nothing is wrong with him.” The question annoyed me. I had heard it too much and I was already done asking.
“Something is wrong with him.”
“He has colic. What else is there to say?”
“But why doesn’t it stop?” He pleaded. You can’t fix this, I wanted to scream. It just is!
Maybe that was the mother’s instinct, understanding faster. It took a long time, but eventually I became relatively accustomed to the screaming and soon, acceptance hit, I felt resentment that my husband couldn’t step up to the situation the way I had. I didn’t acknowledge my role, enabling the very situation I resented.
The craziest part was that by month four, I started to want another one. It wasn’t a conscious choice; it had to be biological. There wasn’t a single ounce of me that could handle another. I hadn’t even healed from the birth yet. But there was something in me that was ready. Something else that was growing. I loved him. Even though he never smiled, even though he couldn’t interact, even though the majority of his life was screaming or sleeping, it was enough. And even in my ugliness, there was still something more beautiful about life. That part of me that went through bootcamp was now strong. He was my everything. I had become a mom.
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马里兰州的母亲尼基·奥塞·巴雷特（Nikki Osei Barrett）是个忙碌的女人，尤其是最近。除了照顾她的三个孩子，她还是奥塞公共关系的创始人（一家针对各种时尚、美容和生活方式品牌的精品公关机构）、District Motherhued（一家503（c）（3）非盈利的DC area millennial moms of color）和Momference（一场全面的会议）[…；]
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马里兰州的母亲Nikki Osei Barrett是个忙碌的女人，尤其是最近。除了照顾她的三个孩子，她&（8217；他是Osei公关公司（一家针对各种时尚、美容和生活方式品牌的精品公关机构），地区母系色彩（a 503（c）（3）DC地区的非营利组织（千禧一代彩色妈妈）和为黑人母亲举行的一次全面会议，和现在的她&8217；这也是一个新诞生的孩子’；他是个书的作者
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为我妈妈的服装设计风格。&8220；我妈拿走了我所有的钱！他们为小女孩准备了最可爱、最时尚的服装和配饰。我最近买的东西was their Jia Romper.” Jia Romper, $30, Style Me Momma.
Play Pits Deodorant. “I switched to natural deodorant at the end of 2019 and I swear by Play Pits, which is a Black-owned, mom-owned natural deodorant brand, created for kids. They also have an adult line. My son Nick and I both use Play Pits and it keeps us dry and smelling fresh, even in the dead of summer!” Family Combo Pack, $19.80, Play Pits.
Lashes. “I just learned how to apply strip lashes myself! Lashes are essential to my daily look, and my go-to’s are Camara AUnique Beauty lashes. Her faith-based lash line features lashes specifically named after iconic women from the Bible with an intent to make their stories relatable to what visionary, faith-focused women do everyday.” Lashes, $25, Camara AUnique Beauty.
Exercise. “Exercise is how I decompress. I enjoy lifting and cardio, but my current exercise of choice is step aerobics via Extreme Step. I go to classes and also step at home with Coach DG on YouTube.” Get Fit With DG via YouTube.
Go-To Fragrances. “I love a good scent; right now I’m wearing Maison Franics Kurkdijan and Philosophy Grace Ballet Rose.” Maison Franics Kurkdijan Satin Mood Eau de Parfum, $300, Neiman Marcus. Amazing Grace Ballet Rose Eau de Parfum, $62, Ulta.
The Bible App. “I’m a believer, and there’s absolutely no way I could get through the day without my morning word and scriptures to lean on. The Bible app has a verse of the day format that’s kind of like an Insta story, featuring different pastors from across the globe, devotionals, and a closing prayer. It’s how I start the day, and I check my Bible app throughout the day for reinforcement and encouragement.” YouVersion.com/the-bible-app
Wakati Reactivating Conditioning Mist. “This keeps Faye’s and Nick’s hair moisturized, and makes detangling and styling breezy without weighing the hair down. It’s the only product I use on their hair (besides shampoo).” Wakati Conditioning Mist, $12.19, Target.
Ami Colé Products. “My new favorite beauty brand is Ami Colé. It’s a clean beauty brand created with melanin women in mind. The brand’s Skin Enhancing Tint is fabulous! It’s perfect for summertime when it’s too damn hot for a full beat (although, I’m here for a full face when the temps drop). The founder, Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye, is a Glossier alum, and she was in her bag when she created this formulation. The finish is satiny smooth, with subtle dewy glisten. Ami Colé nailed no makeup, makeup.” Skin-Enhancing Tint, $32, Ami Colé.
SheaMoisture Baby Lotion. “This is yet another product we were introduced to at The Momferece. It smells amazing, and it’s all that I use on Faye Faye!” SheaMoisture Raw Shea Chamomile & Argan Oil Baby Lotion, $7.99, Target.
Relaxing With Lavender. “I love the scent of lavender, and at the end of a long stressful day I like to light lavender-scented candles and soak with Dr. Teal’s Lavender Epsom salt.” Dr Teals Lavender Epsom Salt, $4.89, Target.
Huggies Natural Care Wipes. “These are the only wipes I use on Faye Faye. They’re thick enough to clean off sticky faces and hands, and are unscented and gentle enough to use on more delicate areas.” Huggies Natural Care Baby Wipes 3-Pack, $12.48, Amazon.
FENDI Carryall & Kicks. “I carry my FENDI tote daily. I purchased it right after I had my daughter, (Fancy) Faye, in 2019. I had a traditional diaper bag, but I wanted a large, elevated tote to carry my baby essentials in. Paired with my matching FENDI sneakers, and I look cool, polished, and put together for my daily errands.” FENDI Glazed Fabric Calfskin Tote, $1305, Fashionphile. FENDI Rockoko Knit Sneakers, $870, Neiman Marcus.
Carmex Lip Balm. “I keep 2 to 3 Carmex Classic Lip Balms in my purse at all times. This balm soothes, heals, and moisturizes lips better than anything else.” Carmex Classic Lip Balm Medicated Tube, $4.89 for 4-Pack, Target.
DMV Mom Crew. “I co-founded District Motherhued with my good sis, Simona Noce Wright, in 2016. We’ve created the ultimate community for Black, millennial moms, and I’d be lost without my mom squad and #DMVMomTribe.” @districtmotherhued and @missnocepr on Instagram.
Jesus Calling. “I love the Jesus Calling devotional by Sarah Young. It’s a 365-day devotional, and too many times to count each day the scripture and message was relevant to exactly what I was going through at the time.” Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence, written by Sarah Young, $7.53, Amazon.
Mommy & Me Style. “Call me corny, but I love coordinating outfits with my children. I’ve been doing this for over 15 years (before Instagram was a thing and you could document it!). My house might look like a tornado blew through it, but when we step out, our outfits will be coordinated!”
For more Mother Essentials, peep our past columns with Blair Paysinger of Post 21, Idia Lanlokun of Ola & Mide, Karam Kim of Bluecut aprons, children’s authors Evan Sargent and Joanna Ho, Eli Yonas of Toki Mats, Shaina Kerrigan of Molly J., Jenna Levine of LINNÉ botanicals, Eunice Byun of Material, and Sandra Lin of Kiwi Co.
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学步儿童他们’；你真可爱。当然，考虑到他们经常给父母带来的痛苦，他们需要这样做。从大发脾气到公然违抗家规，这些小人物都喜欢按我们的按钮。而且它不’；不要停止所谓的&8220；可怕的二人组”；对一些孩子来说“；可怕的三”；变成我们一位朋友所说的“；f*ck it fours.&8221；为了帮助应对这些艰难时刻，我们点击了Brigette Maas，一位注册游戏治疗师，在爱荷华州的Council Bluffs与儿童及其家庭一起工作。在这里，三个孩子的母亲为我们的工具箱装满了普通幼儿/小“的可能解决方案；大孩子”；难题。看看下面她蹒跚学步的行为提示
试试贴纸&；宋。Maas，她为自己的儿子寻求帮助’；她说，有人建议她开始制作一个贴纸图表“我打印了一个盘子，让他在试新t时在盘子上贴上食物标签hings,” she explains. She and her family also now sing a silly song in which each member picks up a piece of food and sings about it: “This is the way we smell our food (sniff sniff…smell the food), this is the way we kiss our food (so it has to touch their mouth), this is the way we chomp our food (act like an animal and be dramatic).” If your kid spits out his food? Maas says don’t sweat it. At least he tried it. (For more tips on dealing with picky eaters, click here!)
Focus on Connecting. “A lot of early childhood research shows kids act out when they have a need to connect with us, prove they are capable, need to be challenged/stimulated more, or they feel like things are too chaotic and need help soothing (a nap, a snack, taking deep breaths, taking space away from everyone, running, jumping, playing, listening to music, hugs, etc.),” says Maas. “I love this list of 30 Joyful Ways to Connect with Your Child in Under 10 Minutes by Sue Lively.”
Keep Reading. There are plenty of great books for parents that help them navigate this tricky time. Maas likes 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12, 1-2-3 Magic For Kids, Parenting From The Inside Out, Discipline: The Brazelton Way, Touchpoints: Birth to Three, and Touchpoints: Three to Six.
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盘子、餐具和餐巾纸。如果你选择手指食物，你不一定需要盘子或餐具，但如果有一个特定的盘子（包括蛋糕）你非常想吃，Apaliski建议使用自己的盘子、餐具和餐巾纸，或购买真正可堆肥的。这意味着它们没有闪光、光泽或奇特的纹理或图案（纸制品上的任何塑料涂层意味着它们不能回收或堆肥）。寻找可堆肥的纸张或竹子选项（我们喜欢这些乐趣彩虹纸杯而不是所谓的“；可堆肥塑料。”；Apaliski使用了这些可堆肥塑料https://amzn.to/3CThdTr“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”>forks，板材https://amzn.to/3xSS07T“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”“>餐巾纸在过去。诀窍是找到一些表示可堆肥的东西，因为这个词有一个与“有机”一词非常相似的法律定义。她解释道。所以忘掉所有其他词（可生物降解的、植物基的、马铃薯制品等）阿帕利斯基说，要坚持只使用可堆肥的材料。”；
装饰物。立即关闭气球。它们不仅有可能最终进入海洋，而且用来炸毁气球的氦是一种有限的资源，最近出现了短缺。与其使用气球，不如选择一种可以在一年后取出的气泡机三年。在试用了许多选项后，Apaliski说：https://amzn.to/37Tun4t“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”>泡泡机是最好的、最持久的！至于其他装饰，请考虑寻找（在Craigslist或Buy Nothing论坛上）或购买布条和其他可以继续使用的布、纸或木制装饰（Etsy has a treasure trove of options). Avoid buying items that feature the “number” of each birthday, so that they are evergreen. Once you have a small box of reusable birthday decor (and maybe the spare #7 candle), you can offer it up to other parents who have birthdays coming up, encouraging them to reuse and buy less. Also: consider flowers as decoration, small potted plants (that you might give as take-home gifts), and DIY leaf confetti if you’re crafty!
Activities. For smaller kids, the bubble machine and park equipment might be enough! Meanwhile, investing in a singer, storyteller, magician, superhero, band, or bubble person is a great way to support local performers in your community. Renting things—like a bounce house or inflatable costumes—is also a good choice, as are classic board games, egg hunts, playing sports, pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey, etc.
Gifts. Second-hand toys—especially for young kids—are a great idea. Same goes for gifting an experience, durable wooden toys that you’ll pass down, a gift card to a local shop, or even wrapping up library books! (Copy this wise mama of three’s idea here!)
Attendee Gifts. Instead of a plastic bag filled with tiny plastic toys that inevitably end up in a landfill, Apaliski suggests gifting your attendees a book (from the aforementioned book exchange), flower or veggie seeds, paper bags of homemade popcorn, a gift certificate to a local eatery, scoop shop, or store, or a tiny mason jar filled with DIY play-doh. Check out Apaliski’s favorite (and easy) play-doh recipe—which can even double as an activity to do at the party!
Gift Wrap. When wrapping gifts for your kid’s (or another kid’s) birthday, think about packaging that can be recycled or reused. Cloth bags and wrapping is a solid choice—check out Etsy’s furoshiki section or make your own from napkins and other textiles found at thrift stores or estate sales. Or find a 100% recyclable wrap, like newspaper or simple Kraft paper, that you can jazz up with colored pencil designs. Similar to plates and cups, you want to avoid gift wrapping with glitter, shine, etc. Of course, if you are gifted flashy paper or bows, hang on to them to wrap a future gift. As we know, there’s always another birthday around the corner.
Not ready to throw a party just yet? Check out these tips for How To Celebrate Your Kids’ Birthday in Lockdown.
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山顶咖啡&马克杯。&8220；咖啡不仅是我的必需品，也是我日常生活的一部分hing warm and creamy waiting for me gets me out of bed each morning. Hilltop’s breakfast sandwich is an added bonus when I go to one of the locations.” Hilltop Coffee, $18, and Mug, $23, Hilltop.
Good Moms Podcast. “I am an introvert and enjoy my quiet time, so in the car I ofter don’t even realize I’m not playing any music. But when I want to listen to something, this is my go-to. The hosts are great moms and women and talk about things I often would never even think about.” GoodMomsBadChoices.com.
Vaseline. “We have these hidden all over our house, in every bag, and in both cars. We use it for a number of things like chapstick, diaper rash, and lotion.” Vaseline Healing Jelly Cocoa Butter, $8.96, Amazon.
Pattern Hair Products. “Figuring out the right product for curly hair is a long journey. I’m very happy to have figured out what works for me and my daughter. Pattern makes hair care one less thing on my mind—and they also have a subscription!” Pattern Hair Products, $24 and up, Pattern by Tracee Ellis Ross.
Art. “Art is something else I have to have in my life. This artwork is bomb because it doubles as a puzzle. Art keeps me going and inspires every area of my life.” Three Fine Art Puzzle, $90, Post 21.
Peloton Bike. “Working out is essential, and I really love how immersive the Peloton classes are. Another great thing is that they have other classes like yoga, so it does double duty.” Peloton Bike, $1,895, Peloton.
Lashes. “It may seem silly, and also costly. However, I’ve found through the traditions of pregnancy, 4th trimester, and Covid, this small thing has helped me continue to feel like myself. Waking up and looking a bit more pulled together has been a saving grace to my mental health.”
Adidas Slides. “I wear these daily and year around, because Los Angeles. I have two pair, and I’m waiting for them to bring back the green and tan so my life can be complete.” Adilette Slides, $45, Adidas.
Henry Masks. “I love the design of these, they are so breathable and easy to clean. The best part is it’s a subscription, so I don’t have to think about it. They also have a kids’ sizes!” Neutral Masks 4-Pack, $49.95, Henry.
Sunscreen. “Another life necessity. This one we love because it doesn’t leave any white residue.” Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30, $18.99, Black Girl Sunscreen.
Marble Candle. “Small luxuries throughout the house/day have really proved to change my whole mood.” Marble Refillable Candle, $68, Post 21.
Mom Hoodie. “A mom tribe is just soooo crucial, and mine is strong! This brand is from my mom tribe and promotes mom tribes.” Somebody’s Mama Hoodie, $130, Mindfulfee.
Family Calendar. “A personal calendar is obviously important, but as the kids get older the family calendar has become just as important. We have a shared email so we can add to a shared calendar on our phones, and also now have this physical option—first to keep the images, and secondly because when I can see what’s coming I can plan for it.” Modern Wall Calendar, $39, Artifact Uprising.
Night Prayer Routine. “We have a prayer that we say all together every night, and then both my kids get a chance to share what’s on their heart. This really centers me each night and shows me what they are thinking about. I smile each time and know I’m making my ancestors proud.”
Portable Charger. “I 100% will forget to charge my phone, so I try and keep this with me. I like this one because it can go directly into the wall, because I will forget to charge this as well.” Lezchi Portable Power Bank, $39.99, Amazon.
A Husband Who Understands. “Last, but certainly not least, my husband has been essential to my motherhood journey. He knows what me and the kids need before we need it, and does so many things without being asked.”
For more Mother Essentials, peep our past columns with Idia Lanlokun of Ola & Mide, Karam Kim of Bluecut aprons, children’s authors Evan Sargent and Joanna Ho, Eli Yonas of Toki Mats, Shaina Kerrigan of Molly J., Jenna Levine of LINNÉ botanicals, Eunice Byun of Material, and Sandra Lin of Kiwi Co.
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