“现在是6:30。”我的眼睛里满是泪水,但我试图掩饰这种原始的情绪,所以我一边说话一边拨弄着尿布。我喉咙里的高尔夫球是当我试图控制住自己的真实想法以便能够进行富有成效的谈话时的感觉。
“我在办公室里被一些事情缠住了。”
“工作6点结束,对吗?”他自己经营自己的公司,所以即使是在下午6点晚些时候对close进行验证,在我的产假期间也感觉很优雅。
对不起,我不知道该告诉你什么。”
在中世纪的货架上,每六点过一分钟都是一个缺口。我无法忍受额外的分钟,我没有为额外的分钟做好准备。
“想让我去拿晚餐吗?”听到他的提问,我感到心不在焉。
不,我不想让你出去。你刚到家。
“天哪,我很抱歉。”他的语气不是抱歉。他的语气是压力、沮丧和烦恼的混合。“你想用完吗?我们可以点菜。”我解释为他不想一个人呆在家里,哪怕15分钟。
“你能等他一分钟吗?我得坐下,我好痛。”
“好吧,让我把外套放下,很快去洗手间。”他看到我崩溃了。他的反应让我觉得我对一个正常的期望是不公平的。对我来说,这是一个正常的期望,工作到很晚,放下外套,上厕所。在正常情况下,这是正常的期望,但这些时候是例外。
操你,上厕所。他在我腿上尖叫当我坐在马桶上的时候。当我去的时候,我正在擦血和缝线。我一天9个小时都没有拿到&“;让我就&”;。但是我没有说。他终于回家了。我已经超越了我通常的对话,公然说6:30太晚了。实践教会我一次只拿一件东西,我没有时间我不想面对争论。我已经处理够了,我不想让它打到风扇上。
他的卫生间休息时间证明有助于我集中思想。当他回来时,我重申了我的观点。“我知道工作很重要。我知道你的事业才刚刚开始,但如果你6点下班,你应该在6点10分之前回家。如果你真的需要留下来,我需要你在6点之前告诉我。”我当时在发抖。我想要同情。我想要理解。但现在,我想要改变。
我明白了。”他一针见血地说。
公平地说,他试图出现。在最初的几个星期里,他上班迟到了几个小时,这样我就可以在长时间的喂食后有时间睡觉。他会在7点后带杰克下楼,看电视上的体育节目,我会休息到9点或10点。这足以让我至少睡个懒觉urvive the day. There were also some fun times when he really showed up. Like when he would use Jack like a puppet and have him dance across our table, controlling his limbs and grooving to the tunes.
But overall, I was very alone. I felt like it was up to me the way he hoped it could be up to me, not because I wanted to, but because I didn’t feel like I had a choice.
That part of motherhood bootcamp, the divide in our relationship, was almost equally hard when I had the space to acknowledge it. At first, I felt like it was my responsibility to bring Jack to peace because I was the creator, the mother, the vessel. I was the food supply; we were connected internally, and there will always be a piece of him inside of me for the rest of my life. It felt like he was more mine and as a mother, I had a stronger superpower to make it better.
My strongest memory is when I was lying in bed one morning. My mother-in-law was downstairs watching Jack for a moment in a brave attempt to allow me some time to take a nap.
While she was downstairs doing her part to soothe him, I lay in bed and thought, If I don’t wake up, I’ll be okay.
It’s not that I wished to die, but that I had a beautiful life, and I would be okay if it were time to cash in my chips. I was tired. Beyond tired, I was exhausted, and there was no rejuvenation in sight. The birth literally tore me in half and now I had stitches deep within me, holding me together.
They discovered six weeks after the birth that I had been stitched up wrong. Like a sweatshirt whose zipper was only half aligned, they discovered this constant source of pain for me that I shrugged off and attributed to post-delivery pain. It made it impossible to sit down, not that Jack allowed it anyway.
When they discovered my raw, exposed tissue, they singed my tissue with liquid nitrate to kill my nerve endings, and even still, the raw sensitivity persisted. It was so physically and emotionally demanding that I didn’t think I had anything left. I was ready.
In similar moments, but with a hint more energy, I was driven to search for support: “Reasons for colic,” “food sensitivity,” “pain after childbirth,” “postpartum depression,” and “new parent coping.” I can’t remember all the browser history, but every moment I had off, I was searching for answers. Some searches I knew were terrible, but I typed them anyway. I searched for words like “frustrated,” “helpless,” and “giving up.” It didn’t matter the search, I rarely found anything of substance, but I did come upon a quote by Miranda July that made me cry because of how fitting it is:
“If you were wise enough to know that this life would consist mostly of letting go of things you wanted, then why not get good at the letting go, rather than the trying to have?” These exotic revelations bubbled up involuntarily and I began to understand that the sleeplessness and vigilance and constant feedings were a form of brainwashing, a process by which my old self was being molded, slowly but with a steady force, into a new shape: a mother. It hurt. I tried to be conscious while it happened, like watching my own surgery. I hoped to retain a tiny corner of the old me, just enough to warn other women with. But I knew this was unlikely; when the process was complete, I wouldn’t have anything left to complain with, it wouldn’t hurt anymore, I wouldn’t remember.
People would say that at three months it gets better. Some were bold enough to say six months, and then there were the heartless ones that said around a year. I was living on an hourly basis. Make it through this hour, and maybe the next could have relief.
We would do squats. We would drop our knees and hold him close and something about the motion would quiet his screams. Hundreds of squats, up and down all day. It turned into a method of evaluating how hard the night was. “Tonight was a 157-squat kind of night, tonight was only 86 squats.” It was the expectation that my husband would trade off with me when he could handle it. He wanted our roles to be balanced. He wanted to help, but regularly he couldn’t.
Each time I assumed more of the load than he did, he let me. I’d do the soothing for as long as I could bear, and my times went from double to triple his. And as I did more, I knew more, I was growing thicker skin and learning faster.
“Why is he crying?” He’d ask in desperation.
I never knew, but I had come to understand what we needed to try. “Did you check his diaper?”
“Yes, and I tried to feed him, but he won’t take a bottle.”
“He just ate 30 minutes ago.” I knew he saw me feed him, it felt dumbfounding. “Maybe rub his stomach, do his leg presses. Maybe he has gas.”
“What’s wrong with him?” he meant on a bigger scale.
“Nothing is wrong with him.” The question annoyed me. I had heard it too much and I was already done asking.
“Something is wrong with him.”
“He has colic. What else is there to say?”
“But why doesn’t it stop?” He pleaded. You can’t fix this, I wanted to scream. It just is!
Maybe that was the mother’s instinct, understanding faster. It took a long time, but eventually I became relatively accustomed to the screaming and soon, acceptance hit, I felt resentment that my husband couldn’t step up to the situation the way I had. I didn’t acknowledge my role, enabling the very situation I resented.
The craziest part was that by month four, I started to want another one. It wasn’t a conscious choice; it had to be biological. There wasn’t a single ounce of me that could handle another. I hadn’t even healed from the birth yet. But there was something in me that was ready. Something else that was growing. I loved him. Even though he never smiled, even though he couldn’t interact, even though the majority of his life was screaming or sleeping, it was enough. And even in my ugliness, there was still something more beautiful about life. That part of me that went through bootcamp was now strong. He was my everything. I had become a mom.
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母亲必需品:妮基·欧西·巴雷特
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马里兰州的母亲尼基·奥塞·巴雷特(Nikki Osei Barrett)是个忙碌的女人,尤其是最近。除了照顾她的三个孩子,她还是奥塞公共关系的创始人(一家针对各种时尚、美容和生活方式品牌的精品公关机构)、District Motherhued(一家503(c)(3)非盈利的DC area millennial moms of color)和Momference(一场全面的会议)[…;]
邮报Mother Essentials:Nikki Osei Barrett最早出现在母亲
马里兰州的母亲Nikki Osei Barrett是个忙碌的女人,尤其是最近。除了照顾她的三个孩子,她&(8217;他是Osei公关公司(一家针对各种时尚、美容和生活方式品牌的精品公关机构),地区母系色彩(a 503(c)(3)DC地区的非营利组织(千禧一代彩色妈妈)和为黑人母亲举行的一次全面会议,和现在的她&8217;这也是一个新诞生的孩子’;他是个书的作者
正好赶上黑色母乳喂养周(8月25日至8月31日),Nikki已经透露了她即将出版的书的封面,胸部再见,她与Cyana Riley合著的断奶故事(没有太大区别。这本书是为了帮助妈妈和蹒跚学步的孩子们从母乳到奶杯的过渡而写的,它讲述了Nikki如何在22个月的长时间母乳喂养后给她最小的女儿Faye断奶的真实故事胸部再见是第一款以断奶为主题的儿童&8217;这本书是由黑人女性写的,和第一部描写黑人主要人物的书
下面,Nikki向我们介绍了让她从婴儿湿巾、咖啡到美容必备品的产品和习惯。
倩碧护肤品。&8220;我的皮肤保养率相对较低,而倩碧三层皮肤系统(适用于普通皮肤到混合皮肤)保持我的皮肤清洁无瑕疵三层皮肤系统,32.50美元,芬太尼起动器套装。&8220;我也喜欢芬太尼皮肤起子套装。这款润肤霜含有SPF,使用起来很顺畅,表面光洁Fenty皮肤启动&8217;r套$40,丝芙兰
< < /EM> < /P> < P> <强>去裸唇膏。< /强>和8220;我目前选择的lippie是熔岩蛋糕中的NYX黄油光泽。一个好的裸体色调可以让你从早到晚都保持清醒NYX黄油光泽,$5,Keurig K-Mini单杯咖啡豆咖啡机,69.99美元,有意义的蜡烛。&8220;我喜欢在办公室和家里点蜡烛。Lindsey创造了可爱、专横的蜡烛,闻起来很棒,让你在可爱的阶段保持动力,比如,‘;大客户’;和‘;已付发票’;正如该品牌所说,;这些不仅仅是蜡烛。他们’;重新转变心态<蜡烛,
25美元https://shop.lindseycreated.com/“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”>Lindsey创建了
为我妈妈的服装设计风格。&8220;我妈拿走了我所有的钱!他们为小女孩准备了最可爱、最时尚的服装和配饰。我最近买的东西was their Jia Romper.” Jia Romper, $30, Style Me Momma.
Play Pits Deodorant. “I switched to natural deodorant at the end of 2019 and I swear by Play Pits, which is a Black-owned, mom-owned natural deodorant brand, created for kids. They also have an adult line. My son Nick and I both use Play Pits and it keeps us dry and smelling fresh, even in the dead of summer!” Family Combo Pack, $19.80, Play Pits.
Lashes. “I just learned how to apply strip lashes myself! Lashes are essential to my daily look, and my go-to’s are Camara AUnique Beauty lashes. Her faith-based lash line features lashes specifically named after iconic women from the Bible with an intent to make their stories relatable to what visionary, faith-focused women do everyday.” Lashes, $25, Camara AUnique Beauty.
Exercise. “Exercise is how I decompress. I enjoy lifting and cardio, but my current exercise of choice is step aerobics via Extreme Step. I go to classes and also step at home with Coach DG on YouTube.” Get Fit With DG via YouTube.
Go-To Fragrances. “I love a good scent; right now I’m wearing Maison Franics Kurkdijan and Philosophy Grace Ballet Rose.” Maison Franics Kurkdijan Satin Mood Eau de Parfum, $300, Neiman Marcus. Amazing Grace Ballet Rose Eau de Parfum, $62, Ulta.
The Bible App. “I’m a believer, and there’s absolutely no way I could get through the day without my morning word and scriptures to lean on. The Bible app has a verse of the day format that’s kind of like an Insta story, featuring different pastors from across the globe, devotionals, and a closing prayer. It’s how I start the day, and I check my Bible app throughout the day for reinforcement and encouragement.” YouVersion.com/the-bible-app
Wakati Reactivating Conditioning Mist. “This keeps Faye’s and Nick’s hair moisturized, and makes detangling and styling breezy without weighing the hair down. It’s the only product I use on their hair (besides shampoo).” Wakati Conditioning Mist, $12.19, Target.
Ami Colé Products. “My new favorite beauty brand is Ami Colé. It’s a clean beauty brand created with melanin women in mind. The brand’s Skin Enhancing Tint is fabulous! It’s perfect for summertime when it’s too damn hot for a full beat (although, I’m here for a full face when the temps drop). The founder, Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye, is a Glossier alum, and she was in her bag when she created this formulation. The finish is satiny smooth, with subtle dewy glisten. Ami Colé nailed no makeup, makeup.” Skin-Enhancing Tint, $32, Ami Colé.
SheaMoisture Baby Lotion. “This is yet another product we were introduced to at The Momferece. It smells amazing, and it’s all that I use on Faye Faye!” SheaMoisture Raw Shea Chamomile & Argan Oil Baby Lotion, $7.99, Target.
Relaxing With Lavender. “I love the scent of lavender, and at the end of a long stressful day I like to light lavender-scented candles and soak with Dr. Teal’s Lavender Epsom salt.” Dr Teals Lavender Epsom Salt, $4.89, Target.
Huggies Natural Care Wipes. “These are the only wipes I use on Faye Faye. They’re thick enough to clean off sticky faces and hands, and are unscented and gentle enough to use on more delicate areas.” Huggies Natural Care Baby Wipes 3-Pack, $12.48, Amazon.
FENDI Carryall & Kicks. “I carry my FENDI tote daily. I purchased it right after I had my daughter, (Fancy) Faye, in 2019. I had a traditional diaper bag, but I wanted a large, elevated tote to carry my baby essentials in. Paired with my matching FENDI sneakers, and I look cool, polished, and put together for my daily errands.” FENDI Glazed Fabric Calfskin Tote, $1305, Fashionphile. FENDI Rockoko Knit Sneakers, $870, Neiman Marcus.
Carmex Lip Balm. “I keep 2 to 3 Carmex Classic Lip Balms in my purse at all times. This balm soothes, heals, and moisturizes lips better than anything else.” Carmex Classic Lip Balm Medicated Tube, $4.89 for 4-Pack, Target.
DMV Mom Crew. “I co-founded District Motherhued with my good sis, Simona Noce Wright, in 2016. We’ve created the ultimate community for Black, millennial moms, and I’d be lost without my mom squad and #DMVMomTribe.” @districtmotherhued and @missnocepr on Instagram.
Jesus Calling. “I love the Jesus Calling devotional by Sarah Young. It’s a 365-day devotional, and too many times to count each day the scripture and message was relevant to exactly what I was going through at the time.” Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence, written by Sarah Young, $7.53, Amazon.
Mommy & Me Style. “Call me corny, but I love coordinating outfits with my children. I’ve been doing this for over 15 years (before Instagram was a thing and you could document it!). My house might look like a tornado blew through it, but when we step out, our outfits will be coordinated!”
For more Mother Essentials, peep our past columns with Blair Paysinger of Post 21, Idia Lanlokun of Ola & Mide, Karam Kim of Bluecut aprons, children’s authors Evan Sargent and Joanna Ho, Eli Yonas of Toki Mats, Shaina Kerrigan of Molly J., Jenna Levine of LINNÉ botanicals, Eunice Byun of Material, and Sandra Lin of Kiwi Co.
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在家里与陶艺家和两个孩子的母亲琳达萧
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2021年8月24日星期二13:30:47+0000
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母亲
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洛杉矶的母亲兼陶艺家琳达·萧(Linda Xiao)在流感大流行期间酝酿了很多事情。她在封锁令生效后就住进了一个新家,在她的新工作室里手工制作了数百件美丽的作品,并准备迎接一个新婴儿进入她三口之家(这也是[…;]
帖子与陶艺家在家&;两个孩子的母亲Linda Xiao首先出现在母亲
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50+适合儿童和成人的可爱面膜!
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回到学校的时间到了!今年有这么多孩子重返教室,最重要的返校配件无疑是面具。下面,我们收集了一些我们最喜欢的、时尚又有效的儿童(还有一些成人!)的口罩。[…]
这个帖子50+可爱的儿童和成人面膜!首先出现在MOTHER.
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蹒跚学步时期的生存技巧
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蹒跚学步的孩子们真可爱。当然,考虑到他们经常给父母带来的痛苦,他们有点需要可爱。从大发脾气到公然违抗家规,这些小家伙都喜欢按我们的按钮。而且,这还不止于所谓的可怕的两个孩子。对一些孩子来说,可怕的两个孩子三个回合[三个回合]
post蹒跚学步儿童的生存技巧”最早出现在母亲
学步儿童他们’;你真可爱。当然,考虑到他们经常给父母带来的痛苦,他们需要这样做。从大发脾气到公然违抗家规,这些小人物都喜欢按我们的按钮。而且它不’;不要停止所谓的&8220;可怕的二人组”;对一些孩子来说“;可怕的三”;变成我们一位朋友所说的“;f*ck it fours.&8221;为了帮助应对这些艰难时刻,我们点击了Brigette Maas,一位注册游戏治疗师,在爱荷华州的Council Bluffs与儿童及其家庭一起工作。在这里,三个孩子的母亲为我们的工具箱装满了普通幼儿/小“的可能解决方案;大孩子”;难题。看看下面她蹒跚学步的行为提示
帮助他们描述自己的感受。孩子们经常在他们可以的时候发牢骚;我找不到语言来描述他们的情绪。教孩子说什么“;挫折”;和“;愤怒”;你的意思是,除其他感受外,这将帮助你找到他们问题的根源,并有望阻止他们的抱怨。为了帮助您的孩子了解他们的许多感受,Maas推荐以下孩子’;s图书:我的感受,脱皮怎么样?有情绪的食物,冷静时间,当我感到愤怒时https://amzn.to/3j5cE0q“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”>当我嫉妒时
玩重听游戏。当你的孩子在抱怨时,友好地告诉她,你只能在她使用她的时候听到她的话&&8220;大女孩的声音”;或“;正常的阿米莉亚声音;唐’;不要用恼怒的语气告诉她,这会给她带来她渴望的负面反应。一旦她用了大女孩的声音,一定要表扬她。说,;我喜欢听你的大姑娘的声音”;给他们一个击掌的机会。
给他们一个婴儿。这个年龄段的儿童仍然需要成年人的大量培养和联系。而不是说“;你’;你是个大男孩,表现得像个大男孩一样;Maas建议留出五分钟的时间让你的孩子成为一个婴儿(也就是说,感觉受到了养育)。这意味着把他们抱在怀里,告诉他们婴儿时的样子,唱一首歌,告诉他们你爱他们什么,等等。五分钟结束后,说“;好了,查理现在能回来了吗?我喜欢他是如何长大的” 并指出你的孩子现在可以做的事情,比如帮他洗盘子,跳,在游戏室里玩。很可能,你的孩子会想要“;成长”;马上,有时在他/她五分钟的分娩时间结束之前。如果您的孩子还需要更多“;婴儿时代”;让他知道,他只需要用他的话,并提出要求。
让他们吃饭。当孩子感到沮丧时,他们通常会求助于需要控制一些事情,这通常发生在吃饭时间或上厕所的时候。如果你知道你的孩子喜欢你做的饭菜,但仍然拒绝,Maas建议说,“;你想挑些你想吃的东西作为晚餐。它’;有选择是很有趣的。因此,您可以(插入您已经为晚餐做出的选择)。”;如果你的孩子仍然拒绝,不要&8217;不要对此大惊小怪(那正是孩子想要的)。相反,说“;它’;当你准备好吃的时候,它就在这里;表现得好像它不存在’;我不打扰你。试着问他其他的事情来分散他的注意力,比如他今天最喜欢的玩具是什么,和谁一起玩等等。让你的孩子在尝试每件事时都有足够的注意力。如果他赢了’;不要吃东西,把他的盘子放在冰箱里,等他准备好了再加热。
试试贴纸&;宋。Maas,她为自己的儿子寻求帮助’;她说,有人建议她开始制作一个贴纸图表“我打印了一个盘子,让他在试新t时在盘子上贴上食物标签hings,” she explains. She and her family also now sing a silly song in which each member picks up a piece of food and sings about it: “This is the way we smell our food (sniff sniff…smell the food), this is the way we kiss our food (so it has to touch their mouth), this is the way we chomp our food (act like an animal and be dramatic).” If your kid spits out his food? Maas says don’t sweat it. At least he tried it. (For more tips on dealing with picky eaters, click here!)
Focus on Connecting. “A lot of early childhood research shows kids act out when they have a need to connect with us, prove they are capable, need to be challenged/stimulated more, or they feel like things are too chaotic and need help soothing (a nap, a snack, taking deep breaths, taking space away from everyone, running, jumping, playing, listening to music, hugs, etc.),” says Maas. “I love this list of 30 Joyful Ways to Connect with Your Child in Under 10 Minutes by Sue Lively.”
Keep Reading. There are plenty of great books for parents that help them navigate this tricky time. Maas likes 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12, 1-2-3 Magic For Kids, Parenting From The Inside Out, Discipline: The Brazelton Way, Touchpoints: Birth to Three, and Touchpoints: Three to Six.
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如何举办更环保的生日派对
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随着2021-2022年返校季节的到来,所有这些孩子和生日派对都将受到邀请。而今年的派对队伍可能会比大流行前更小、更低调(查看我们关于抛出a安全的家庭庆祝活动),但有一件事是一样的,孩子和成人生日派对产生的浪费肯定可以得到控制。为了给我们一些建议,让我们下一次聚会更环保,我们&8217;已经联系了总部位于旧金山的母亲Friday Apaliski,可持续发展礼宾部。从气球替代品到最好的以堆肥为中心的食物摊,看看她在这里举办更环保的生日派对的秘诀吧!(请把它们传给你的朋友!)
地点。如果天气允许,阿帕利斯基说,公园派对不会出差错。大自然的美丽有助于你了解装饰,简单的公园活动,从踢球到吹泡泡再到打操场,都会留下很轻的碳足迹。如果你的孩子在寒冷的天气里有个b日几个月后,考虑租一个室内社区娱乐中心(通常包括桌子和其他聚会用具)或在家里招待客人,这样你就可以最大限度地控制所有的元素。
食物传播。选择手指食物,如松饼、百吉饼、蔬菜和水果烤肉串、烤面包、酒吧等。而不是蛋糕(这需要盘子和餐具),试试纸杯蛋糕吧。只需在桌子旁边放一个堆肥箱,放上食物中剩下的松饼衬垫和竹串。至于饮料,请跳过果汁箱,试试附近有一个或两个可堆肥杯子的饮料分配器。(下面是关于杯子的更多说明。)还有,不要在食物上做得太多!你能为地球做的最好的事情之一就是消除食物浪费。
盘子、餐具和餐巾纸。如果你选择手指食物,你不一定需要盘子或餐具,但如果有一个特定的盘子(包括蛋糕)你非常想吃,Apaliski建议使用自己的盘子、餐具和餐巾纸,或购买真正可堆肥的。这意味着它们没有闪光、光泽或奇特的纹理或图案(纸制品上的任何塑料涂层意味着它们不能回收或堆肥)。寻找可堆肥的纸张或竹子选项(我们喜欢这些乐趣彩虹纸杯而不是所谓的“;可堆肥塑料。”;Apaliski使用了这些可堆肥塑料https://amzn.to/3CThdTr“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”>forks,板材https://amzn.to/3xSS07T“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”“>餐巾纸在过去。诀窍是找到一些表示可堆肥的东西,因为这个词有一个与“有机”一词非常相似的法律定义。她解释道。所以忘掉所有其他词(可生物降解的、植物基的、马铃薯制品等)阿帕利斯基说,要坚持只使用可堆肥的材料。”;
装饰物。立即关闭气球。它们不仅有可能最终进入海洋,而且用来炸毁气球的氦是一种有限的资源,最近出现了短缺。与其使用气球,不如选择一种可以在一年后取出的气泡机三年。在试用了许多选项后,Apaliski说:https://amzn.to/37Tun4t“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”>泡泡机是最好的、最持久的!至于其他装饰,请考虑寻找(在Craigslist或Buy Nothing论坛上)或购买布条和其他可以继续使用的布、纸或木制装饰(Etsy has a treasure trove of options). Avoid buying items that feature the “number” of each birthday, so that they are evergreen. Once you have a small box of reusable birthday decor (and maybe the spare #7 candle), you can offer it up to other parents who have birthdays coming up, encouraging them to reuse and buy less. Also: consider flowers as decoration, small potted plants (that you might give as take-home gifts), and DIY leaf confetti if you’re crafty!
Activities. For smaller kids, the bubble machine and park equipment might be enough! Meanwhile, investing in a singer, storyteller, magician, superhero, band, or bubble person is a great way to support local performers in your community. Renting things—like a bounce house or inflatable costumes—is also a good choice, as are classic board games, egg hunts, playing sports, pin-the-tail-on-the-donkey, etc.
Gifts. Second-hand toys—especially for young kids—are a great idea. Same goes for gifting an experience, durable wooden toys that you’ll pass down, a gift card to a local shop, or even wrapping up library books! (Copy this wise mama of three’s idea here!)
Attendee Gifts. Instead of a plastic bag filled with tiny plastic toys that inevitably end up in a landfill, Apaliski suggests gifting your attendees a book (from the aforementioned book exchange), flower or veggie seeds, paper bags of homemade popcorn, a gift certificate to a local eatery, scoop shop, or store, or a tiny mason jar filled with DIY play-doh. Check out Apaliski’s favorite (and easy) play-doh recipe—which can even double as an activity to do at the party!
Gift Wrap. When wrapping gifts for your kid’s (or another kid’s) birthday, think about packaging that can be recycled or reused. Cloth bags and wrapping is a solid choice—check out Etsy’s furoshiki section or make your own from napkins and other textiles found at thrift stores or estate sales. Or find a 100% recyclable wrap, like newspaper or simple Kraft paper, that you can jazz up with colored pencil designs. Similar to plates and cups, you want to avoid gift wrapping with glitter, shine, etc. Of course, if you are gifted flashy paper or bows, hang on to them to wrap a future gift. As we know, there’s always another birthday around the corner.
Not ready to throw a party just yet? Check out these tips for How To Celebrate Your Kids’ Birthday in Lockdown.
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2021年8月18日星期三18:00:04+0000
凯蒂Hintz-Zambrano
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而她在广告和艺术方面的研究以及设计背景方面的明确准备Blair Paysinger对于她的第一次创业努力,也远不止这些“支持黑人的强烈热情是我的动力”;这位位于洛杉矶的两个孩子的母亲解释道,她是这家有一年历史的电子通信网站的创始人https://post21shop.com/“target=“\u blank”rel=“noopener”数据安全重定向URL=”https://www.google.com/url?q=https://post21shop.com/&;source=gmail&;ust=1629317931740000&;usg=AFQjCNEKpMS-KNOk7S0hK2jKJq60dNzg9Q“>Post 21,一个全面的在线市场,以黑人拥有的企业为特色“作为一名黑人女性,我’;多年来,我就知道市场上没有这种产品,我很高兴能把它变成现实
布莱尔与自己的母亲胡安娜·威廉姆斯携手工作,直到她出生Post21,以年份命名(1921)当俄克拉何马州塔尔萨的格林伍德区——也被称为“;黑人华尔街被白人暴徒烧成灰烬,他们还杀害了这个曾经繁华的社区的300多名黑人居民。1921年5月31日悲剧之前存在的绿林是母女二人的灵感来源。
&8220;黑人华尔街的创新、成熟和改变游戏规则的思想他们解释说,所有街头企业家,一种永远无法被烧毁或驱赶的动力,今天仍然生活在黑人企业家的生活中。站在我们前面的人的肩膀上,我们准备以一种新的、令人兴奋的方式做我们传统上做过的事情!&"下面,看看布莱尔的母亲必备品,让她从发布21糖果和葡萄酒(!)至与三叶草宝宝和孩子,还有一个支持我的丈夫。葡萄酒。&&8220;我的意思是,我想这一个解释了自己。这对我自己来说意味着一个甜蜜的时刻,不管我周围发生了什么。&&8221;麦克布莱德姐妹黑人女孩魔术三重唱,61.72美元,Clover Baby&;Kids
可爱的魔术贴童鞋。&&8220;魔术贴让一切变得简单!就连我两岁的孩子都可以自己穿脱鞋子。这也有助于培养独立性。&&8221;Nike Blazer Mid&&8217;77美元,60美元,Foot Locker
大蒜切碎器。&&8220;我在我做的每样东西上都放了额外的大蒜,所以这改变了我的生活。额外的欺骗代码是购买预先剥皮的大蒜。&&8221;OXO食品切碎器,20.99美元,Target山顶咖啡&马克杯。&8220;咖啡不仅是我的必需品,也是我日常生活的一部分hing warm and creamy waiting for me gets me out of bed each morning. Hilltop’s breakfast sandwich is an added bonus when I go to one of the locations.” Hilltop Coffee, $18, and Mug, $23, Hilltop.
Good Moms Podcast. “I am an introvert and enjoy my quiet time, so in the car I ofter don’t even realize I’m not playing any music. But when I want to listen to something, this is my go-to. The hosts are great moms and women and talk about things I often would never even think about.” GoodMomsBadChoices.com.
Vaseline. “We have these hidden all over our house, in every bag, and in both cars. We use it for a number of things like chapstick, diaper rash, and lotion.” Vaseline Healing Jelly Cocoa Butter, $8.96, Amazon.
Pattern Hair Products. “Figuring out the right product for curly hair is a long journey. I’m very happy to have figured out what works for me and my daughter. Pattern makes hair care one less thing on my mind—and they also have a subscription!” Pattern Hair Products, $24 and up, Pattern by Tracee Ellis Ross.
Art. “Art is something else I have to have in my life. This artwork is bomb because it doubles as a puzzle. Art keeps me going and inspires every area of my life.” Three Fine Art Puzzle, $90, Post 21.
Peloton Bike. “Working out is essential, and I really love how immersive the Peloton classes are. Another great thing is that they have other classes like yoga, so it does double duty.” Peloton Bike, $1,895, Peloton.
Lashes. “It may seem silly, and also costly. However, I’ve found through the traditions of pregnancy, 4th trimester, and Covid, this small thing has helped me continue to feel like myself. Waking up and looking a bit more pulled together has been a saving grace to my mental health.”
Adidas Slides. “I wear these daily and year around, because Los Angeles. I have two pair, and I’m waiting for them to bring back the green and tan so my life can be complete.” Adilette Slides, $45, Adidas.
Henry Masks. “I love the design of these, they are so breathable and easy to clean. The best part is it’s a subscription, so I don’t have to think about it. They also have a kids’ sizes!” Neutral Masks 4-Pack, $49.95, Henry.
Sunscreen. “Another life necessity. This one we love because it doesn’t leave any white residue.” Black Girl Sunscreen SPF 30, $18.99, Black Girl Sunscreen.
Marble Candle. “Small luxuries throughout the house/day have really proved to change my whole mood.” Marble Refillable Candle, $68, Post 21.
Mom Hoodie. “A mom tribe is just soooo crucial, and mine is strong! This brand is from my mom tribe and promotes mom tribes.” Somebody’s Mama Hoodie, $130, Mindfulfee.
Family Calendar. “A personal calendar is obviously important, but as the kids get older the family calendar has become just as important. We have a shared email so we can add to a shared calendar on our phones, and also now have this physical option—first to keep the images, and secondly because when I can see what’s coming I can plan for it.” Modern Wall Calendar, $39, Artifact Uprising.
Night Prayer Routine. “We have a prayer that we say all together every night, and then both my kids get a chance to share what’s on their heart. This really centers me each night and shows me what they are thinking about. I smile each time and know I’m making my ancestors proud.”
Portable Charger. “I 100% will forget to charge my phone, so I try and keep this with me. I like this one because it can go directly into the wall, because I will forget to charge this as well.” Lezchi Portable Power Bank, $39.99, Amazon.
A Husband Who Understands. “Last, but certainly not least, my husband has been essential to my motherhood journey. He knows what me and the kids need before we need it, and does so many things without being asked.”
For more Mother Essentials, peep our past columns with Idia Lanlokun of Ola & Mide, Karam Kim of Bluecut aprons, children’s authors Evan Sargent and Joanna Ho, Eli Yonas of Toki Mats, Shaina Kerrigan of Molly J., Jenna Levine of LINNÉ botanicals, Eunice Byun of Material, and Sandra Lin of Kiwi Co.
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