母亲

“我们经历了几年的时间，在纽约纽约拖拖我们。我们从一个糟糕的房东到了一个糟糕的房东，直到最后一个，最糟糕的一个，他的房子充满了铅和石棉，她拒绝停止在周围进行装修，降落美国覆盖着铅尘，最终在住房法庭上。她真的很讨厌，做了一些可怕的危险事物。她的父亲资助了她的情况和她的律师票据，所以我们基本上是在布鲁克林的法院制度的怜悯，这已经超负荷cases. It was a complete nightmare. The whole situation dragged on forever and soured us on NYC. We decided to build a house out here in Long Island where it’s cheaper and we didn’t have to worry about school in the same way or landlords."

"We were in Brooklyn, we kept having to move and because of that we were in Ditmas Park, about 30 minutes from the city on the express train. We figured we’d move close to where my husband grew up so that we could buy something. He loves the water and being close to the beach was something that helped us decide to move out of the city. We can spend a few hours at the beach and have a full day doing other stuff. With traffic that wasn’t always possible in Brooklyn. We wanted to slow down a bit and still be able to get to the city for the day if we wanted to."

“专业人士很容易 - 更多的空间，速度慢，较少的麻烦试图为我们儿子挑选学校选择，我们接近水（我们在我们的街区尽头有水），我们能够建立a house, which was not an option for us in NYC. Hell, buying in the city wasn’t an option either, not the type of place we wanted anyway. The move didn’t come without its cons. We decided to move out here before the election. Then, as election day approached, we started noticing a lot of strong conservative signs and bumper stickers, a group of people standing around with signs on the weekends for some interesting nationalistic, anti-BLM, anti-women rights, etc., issues. I’ve also had some issues with the school and my son. The school-to-prison pipeline is real. There’s just a very aggressive pushing of a certain agenda out here through flags, bumper stickers, and lawn signs. It’s caused us to really get our kids around our friends from the city as much as possible. It’s interesting, I moved to NY from the South and I’ve lived here for 18 years and I never knew how conservative and even racist the areas around the city are. There are instances where it’s very similar to what you think of the South being, but with a little aggressive NY umph on top."

GQ before we got too busy and he let his dream go to make sure we were financially stable. He completely designed this house. We wanted the house to be bright and have classic and modern finishes and he did a great job. I mainly helped with the general contracting part of the process. Making sure subcontractors showed up and followed up if they didn’t, ordered materials, and checked up on everyone’s work, so I can’t take credit for how the house looks. It’s all Myles. He’s incredible."">

“我的丈夫喜欢学习室内设计，他在纽约的纽约设计零售空间做了一点工作，并写了关于室内装饰的写作。他为重新兴奋而写了GQ.在我们太忙之前，他让他的梦想去确保我们在经济上稳定。他完全设计了这所房子。我们希望这所房子明亮，经典和现代的饰面，他做得很好。我主要有助于缔约一部分的过程。确保分包商出现并随后，如果他们没有，有序的材料，并检查每个人的工作，所以我不能赢得房子的样子。这是所有人。他非常令人难以置信。“

"I’m super practical. I need things to be efficient, because there is always so much going on and I’m solo with both kids a lot. My husband sometimes gets carried away with design and when we’re old and the house is empty again, we can do all of those things that are delicate and dangerous, but for now my philosophy is design that’s practical and functions well with two kids."

"My favorite part of her room is how clean it stays, because she doesn’t sleep in there yet! I had the cutest little bassinet that she outgrew in less than a month, so we bought a pack and play. I tried to avoid buying one of those things because they are usually eyesores, but it’s been a life saver! I went crazy nesting and nagging my husband to get her room done and 10 months in and she’s still sleeping in our room...oops! We’d moved Henry into his own room by the time he was 10 months old, but maybe because she’s the last one I’m waiting a little longer before I let her go."

American Apparel top, Maison Margiela culottes, and Virgil Abloh x Nike Vapormax sneakers. Amel wears H&M.">

Lindsey戴着A.美国服装最佳，Maison Margiela.裙裤,Virgil Abloh x Nike Vapormax运动鞋。Amel WearsH＆M.．

A is for Activist, My Friends, The Napping House, Love Is, Whose Toes Are Those?, Rad American Women A-Z, The Black BCs, and Fox in Socks. ">

Amel的书架，从左到右：A代表积极分子那我的朋友那漂浮的房子那爱是那谁的脚趾是那些？那rad美国女性a-z那黑人BCS.， 和狐狸在袜子里．

“每个房间都是一个游戏室，我只是在睡前蜿蜒下来的一天结束时做了一个清理。亨利也足够老，他也有助于他的东西。我认为它有助于他了解如何成为如何对他的东西负责。不知何故，他仍然问我所有的玩具都在哪里，尽管他每晚都必须把它们放在哪里！“

"His room is fun, it has the same simple design. It’s mostly furnished with plywood furniture and his toys are really the decor. We have his bed against the wall so he can shoot hoops or build huge structures out of Legos or the boxes and things he pilfers from the recycling bag. He has a desk where he does all of his art or reads. His room faces the street, which isn’t that busy, but Henry, in his usual honest way, told me that he sits in the window at night after I tuck him in and watches for things going by."

Horton Hears a Who at the time, Hazlenut/Beezlenut). His brutal honesty keeps us laughing. He told my husband very sternly at breakfast one morning, 'You and I have to listen to mommy because she’s the oldest.' When he was a lot younger he told my husband he had a long lizard neck. You really have to have thick skin to survive around here, but it keeps us on our toes and laughing." ">

"I love being a mom! It’s so exciting to get a re-do on life. I love getting to show them stuff for the first time and then spending time together learning about those experiences. Henry is naturally very curious, so we delve deep into the answers about everything from why cauliflower isn’t called ghost broccoli to where the tooth fairy lives. He renames everything—Sour Patch Kids are called Sweedish Men, Nutella is Beezlenut Stew (he was reading a lot of霍顿听到了谁当时是榛果/Beezlenut)。他那残酷的诚实使我们发笑。一天早餐时，他非常严厉地对我丈夫说:“你和我必须听妈妈的话，因为她是老大。”当他年轻得多的时候，他告诉我丈夫他有长长的蜥蜴脖子。要想在这里生存下去，你必须脸皮很厚，但它让我们保持警觉，笑个不停。”

"Everything! I try to keep it at bay and not make them nervous like me, but the world is kind of crazy right now and I do worry about a lot of things my kids will have to deal with. I can’t even pinpoint one issue anymore. It feels like the world is devolving into madness sometimes. I just try to do my best to keep my kids feeling safe and happy and allow them to be kids for now. That’s part of the reason why we wanted to slow things down for ourselves and come out here to Long Island. We wanted to be able to breathe and be mentally able to deal with everything better. Our situation living in the city had taken its toll on us and our ends were frayed."

"I didn’t really care that much either way. I kind of wanted a girl since we’d already had a boy, but I really just wanted a healthy baby. We kept it a surprise until her birth. I thought I was going to really get into dressing her up, but I was never a girly girl myself, so it feels weird to put her in headbands and lace and tulle. If that’s what she wants later that may change."

Plants Vs. Zombies, Captain Underpants, and Pokémon books. He also loves Legos and writing his own comics. He sings all the time, too, while doing everything. Amel is 10 months old and she’s into cruising, teething, clapping, waving, and Baby Mum Mum."">

“亨利是6.他喜欢阅读。他真的植物与僵尸那船长内裤， 和神奇宝贝图书。他也喜欢乐高乐科学，并写自己的漫画。他也唱着一切，同时做一切。amel是10个月的大月，她陷入巡航，出牙，鼓掌，挥舞着宝宝妈妈妈妈．"

"Henry Jason is my son. Henry is a family name on my husband’s side. Jason is my cousin’s name. He was like my brother. Amel Viola is our daughter. Amel means hope, and we just liked the name more than the meaning and it’s pretty uncommon. Viola is my father’s mother’s name."

“我绝对不想成为一名母亲。然后我遇见了我的丈夫，我恋爱了。我知道我想和他一起吃婴儿。所以，我只是想拥有一个孩子！然后亨利转过4I started to want a second. He was so amazing and fun and I wanted to have another person just like him to hang out with. I am not a big fan of the infant stage, but once they start talking and saying crazy stuff, it’s really what I enjoy most."

emergency C-section. So, the morning Henry was born I was going through the hospital paperwork and watching the mandatory films on baby CPR and fainted. Then, because I hadn’t had water in over 24 hours I didn’t need to pee, so they catheterized me. I felt it was unnecessary, but I was so out of it that I didn’t have the wherewithal to argue about it. That experience was enough for me to want to do a home birth for my second. So, with Amel I found two amazing midwives and we had her at home with zero issues except for some back pain during the pregnancy. Both babies were healthy as was I in the end so...I wouldn’t change either one."">

“在我的第一次怀孕期间，我感到很棒，我正在工作和忙碌，然后在我的助地正常访问的几个月前，他们向我送到了预口普拉姆西亚的迹象。我被录取并诱发了一旦我被录取和诱导和诱导和诱导我开始陷阱，亨利很快就会出生，然后他们可以让我成为硬膜外。在医院，我被拒绝了水或食物，因为有可能的可能性紧急情况C-部分．所以，早上亨利出生我正在经历医院文书工作，看着婴儿心肺复苏和晕倒的强制电影。然后，因为我在24小时内没有水，我不需要撒尿，所以他们导尿别有我。我觉得它是不必要的，但我是如此，我没有争论它。这次经历足以让我想要为我的第二次做出家乡。所以，与amel我发现了两个惊人的助产士，我们在家里有零问题，除了怀孕期间的一些背痛。两个婴儿都是健康的，我最终就是......我不会改变一个。“

Afropunk at 1 month old."">

"I’m a freelancer and my husband is a business owner, so we took a little time but not a ton. If we don’t work, we don’t get paid. We’d just built a house and we didn’t have a ton of savings, so we got back to work pretty soon after the babies. I took Amel with me to DJAfropunk.在1个月大。“

KellyMom.com for breastfeeding questions. Otherwise, I tried to stay off the internet because Dr. Google is crazy! He’ll have you thinking your baby has all types of diseases and disorders!" ">

“我真的很难在我的助产士上几乎所有的建议。他们是如此美妙和慷慨的时间。他们真的把我放心，只是关于一切。我看kellymom.com.用于母乳喂养问题。否则，我试图留下互联网，因为谷歌博士很疯狂！他会在你觉得你的宝宝有各种类型的疾病和障碍！“

"Music is always playing in the house. We show Henry lots of music videos and he’s around our friends who are DJs and musicians a good amount, too. I sometimes work on music, so I use him as the voice for sampling or for mixtape drops. He takes a breakdancing class that he loves, so he uses any excuse to show off his moves. He has a toy keyboard that he can record songs onto, as well. We really encourage him to express himself in that way because we value the arts ourselves and we want him to be exposed to them as much as we can, especially because his school pushes academics way more than the 'specials' like art and music."

"The biggest challenge has been just trying to keep organized. My work requires me to keep current on new music and venues in the city. I can’t get into the city like I used to, so my career has suffered a bit, but it’s hopefully something I can return to when Amel is older. My husband opened his second business a couple of weeks after Amel was born, so I was alone with both kids a lot during the early stages of getting the business off the ground. My mom was here a lot, but the days where it was just me and two kids was extremely difficult. There isn’t much food delivery where we live, so it’s grueling just feeding myself and the kids, keeping the refrigerator stocked, doing homework, doing my own work, cleaning house, and just, like showering and washing my hair! Juggling all of this stuff is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do."

Nike Vandal Double Stack sneakers.">

Lindsey穿着一件复古T恤，复古皮革裙子，和耐克汪达尔双栈运动鞋。

ton of TV after school until my parents got home from work. My brain is chockfull of useless pop culture references. It’s scary and firmly where I place the blame for being all out of ram. I can’t tell you when my next meeting is without checking my calendar and double checking my email archive to be sure I entered it right. But I can sing all the words to the theme song to the Punky Brewster cartoon!"">

"My parents were strict, I didn’t get to do a lot of sleepovers or anything besides being outside. I was a big tomboy, I loved bugs and biking around my neighborhood, but I couldn’t go further than my parents’ voices could carry. If they called me and I couldn’t hear them, I went too far. I was also warned not to let the street lights catch me. We moved around a lot, so I was constantly having to adapt to new situations, climates, demographics, and be able to make friends quickly. My mom and dad always had music playing in the house, and they liked everything from Funkadelic, Stevie Wonder, Carole King, Led Zeppelin, Chaka Khan, Dennis Brown, Barrington Levy, Freddie McGregor, etc. I was a latchkey kid, I watched a吨放学后的电视，直到我的父母下班回家。我的大脑是无用的流行文化文化参考的chockfull。这是可怕的，牢牢地责怪被责怪被全力以赴。当我的下一次会议时，我无法告诉你没有检查我的日历并仔细检查我的电子邮件存档以确保我进入正确。但是我能够把所有的话唱到主题歌曲到闲散的布鲁斯特卡通片！”

“他们默认的教育将几乎全是美国白人。亨利幼儿园时从学校带回家的第一件东西是一本关于克里斯托弗·哥伦布发现美洲的小册子。所以，我决定尽我所能教亨利更多的非洲人和非裔美国人文化，当他们准备好了，他们可能不会在学校学到的诚实的美国历史。我觉得对他们的骄傲来自于我们是如何走到这一步的。当我还是个小女孩的时候，我花了很多时间转换代码，与黑人保持距离，我无法解释我现在所感受到的解脱和自由，因为我接受了人们长久以来告诉我的“贫民窟”或“城市”，或说“黑人话”或“说黑人话”。我现在意识到黑人文化是流行文化，美国黑人方言是一种方言它很复杂，有规则就像其他方言一样它是英语的一部分。我不想让他们觉得自己不得不像我一样逃避。”

“我最关心的问题一直都是问题，只有那些没有亲身经历过的人，才会被本届政府所了解。作为一个母亲，恐惧的感觉只会增加。除了抱怨这些问题之外，我还更积极地想知道我到底能做些什么。我正在学习更多的东西，因为我觉得我们不能依靠公立学校系统来教他们很多政治问题的复杂性。我只是希望他们是好人，在面对有偏见的信息时能够为自己说话。我从来没有这样的经历，当我在白人的环境中长大，面对那些无知地为偏见辩护的人时，我总是感到沮丧。”

"The styles of me and my husband are very similar. We discuss everything and at times we may disagree, but we usually sort things out pretty quickly. We just want our kids to be kids, we’re not trying to be their friends, and we give them responsibilities early so that they hopefully are good people and able to function out in the world without us."

“乘坐很多小睡，享受这次所有关于你的人。”

“当你需要它时寻求帮助。花很多时间与你的年长的孩子一起，因为在前几个月里与新宝宝有很大难以获得质量的时间。”

“哈哈，不错！”

“我是一个dj。自从90年代末我一直是一个dj - 免责声明真伪的缘故。我不是夜晚，我是一个og！”

“我搬到了很多东西。我出生在圣路易斯，搬到了凤凰城，然后亚特兰大，然后纽约州工作。我妈妈在企业美国工作，她为她努力推广她的公司，但为了也促进她的工资随着她已经在做的工作，他们会要求她搬家。“

妈妈的爱。

"It’s been quite a challenge being a mother and a DJ. Working until 4 a.m. is not conducive to baby sleep schedules. Working in bars isn’t conducive to pumping my breasts. I spend a lot of time in my car pumping my breasts while people walk past me. Everyone is a DJ, so it’s also difficult to compete with the social media needs that this job requires. Fortunately for me, I have made some great relationships with companies over the years. I have been able to survive off of corporate gigs that happen earlier in the evenings. It hasn’t been easy, but I think every mother has to make some adjustments when it comes to career and I feel so lucky to be able to spend the amount of time I do with my kids."

"I am constantly feeling guilty, especially as Henry gets older and Amel becomes more mobile. I am always watching her and he’s left to play alone or do baby stuff together. It’s always what Amel wants to do and I'm constantly interrupted to change diapers or cook or to sooth her if she gets upset. As you can see, we didn’t really baby proof the house. During the day we cordon off an area and we sit there together and play and I try to get work done when she’s particularly focused on something. Even that makes me feel guilty when she looks over at me and makes a noise to get my attention and I’m looking at my laptop or listening to some explicit song trying to prepare for a gig and I hope that my baby’s first word isn’t 'fuck' or something! I just remind myself that I am home with her and I am able to because of what I do. Some moms have to go in to an office every day and so just being here caring for her is a good thing. I hope!"

“这是非常重要的。我一直在想这件事。我不希望他们让任何人以任何理由说他们比别人差。要想在这个世界上取得成功，他们必须是坚强的人，尽管他们有可能成为某种模棱两可的种族。我希望他们能够为自己感到自豪。”

screen time and food choices."">

“拥有一份事业——就像当母亲一样——意味着你的日程在不断变化。某件事或某个人(或每件事)总是需要你的关注，所以要灵活一些，找到你的最佳状态。给自己一点放松，让别人来帮助你。这可能意味着你必须在一些规则上灵活一些，比如检测时间和食物选择。“

Three Little Pigs narrated by Sterling Holloway. It’s fun and this one doesn’t have a book attached, so it requires him to use his imagination while listening to the story. I let him listen on the portable Fisher Price record player I used to use when digging for records."">

“我不再放很多唱片了，这不是必须的，很多艺人也不再压黑胶唱片了，所以当我想放新音乐时，很难放黑胶唱片。在我花了那么多时间收集它们之后，我就是不能让它们离开，因为我拥有的12英寸中的一些罕见的混音，是无法通过数字方式获得的。亨利收集了一些我小时候的故事书记录。我最喜欢的是三只小猪Sterling Holloway叙述．这很有趣，而且这个人没有附书，所以他需要在听故事的时候发挥他的想象力。我让他用手机监听费舍尔价格记录我曾经在挖掘记录时使用的播放器。“

"We try to have friends out here as much as we can. We make playlists, but it’s too involved to keep up with records while entertaining. When one side ends you have to stop and flip it over or choose another record to play and I like to spend as much time with our friends when they trek all the way out here to visit us. We like mellow stuff that’s part of the background rather than anything too noisy. Myles keeps playlists handy all the time, so he just puts them on all the time and builds on them. He uses them at the businesses, so they serve two purposes."

“我喜欢我们在纽约市生活的一些便利。我们有一个大的后院，我开车去了一周的杂货，我的厨房里有空间，适合我所需要的所有事情。它没有。它就不了’t seem like a big deal, but with my oldest’s social calendar, my work, and the baby, little things like that make a big difference. My husband works long hours, so I spend a lot of time alone with both. Having a house also makes it easier for my parents to come stay and help with the kids."

“是的,当然。”

"I haven’t really needed much help until the new business opened, so my mom has really been the MVP. She’s retired and she comes for about a month at a time and just makes life so much easier. When she’s not here, we kind of shuffle work stuff around so one of us is available while the other works. Usually I am with the kids because my husband's business is so demanding."

“我喜欢带孩子去海滩。”

“我喜欢保持简单舒适。我可以根据我的心情偏离，给你一个时髦的外观，但对于大多数情况下，我将选择一双复古牛仔裤和一件T恤。”

Mademe and Nike Air Vapormax Plus sneakers. Amel wears an H&M onesie. Henry wears Gap. ">

Lindsey穿锅炉套装Mademe和nike air vapormax plus运动鞋。Amel穿了一个H＆M.onesie。亨利耐磨差距．

"A little, but not much. I am still breastfeeding, so I have to wear stuff that allows easy access for nursing Amel. I avoid anything too expensive that I don’t want to be ruined by nursing or diaper changes or flying baby food, depending on the day, but other than that it’s about the same."

Opening Ceremony for a while, so when I do splurge I will go there and get something. I have a lot of Nike and Converse sneakers for comfort." ">

“我爱葡萄酒。我很少穿设计师的东西。我真的住在老年莱尼或牧羊人牛仔裤或剪切和T恤。我工作了开幕式有一段时间，所以当我做挥霍时，我会去那里得到一些东西。我有很多n和交谈运动鞋的舒适。“

Keds with everything, but I was tossing them way too much and it felt wasteful. I also need more support as I age, so I swapped to wearing almost all Nikes. My husband used to be into sneakers when he was younger and he’s hoarded his collection and added to it here and there, but for me it’s comfort over everything else. He’s definitely influenced me and from time to time will suggest shoes I should buy. Being a DJ has its perks and I do get gifted things, as well. The more I get, the more I get into them, but it’s not too crazy." ">

“我真的不是那么大的运动鞋头，这对我来说都是功能。我曾经穿白凯德斯随着一切，但我正在折腾他们太多，感觉浪费。我也需要更多的支持，因为我的年龄，所以我几乎所有的佩戴尼克斯．当他年轻的时候，我的丈夫曾经进入运动鞋，他囤积了他的收藏，在这里和那里加入了它，但对我来说，这对其他一切都很安慰。他绝对影响了我，不时会建议我应该买的鞋子。作为一个DJ有其特权，我也得到了天赋的东西。我越多，我进入他们的越多，但这不是太疯狂。“

Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Cleanser, Kiehl’s Pineapple Papaya Scrub, I use Savon de Marseille olive oil soap, and I wash my hair using Devacurl No Poo Decadence and Hair Rules Quench Conditioner. I use Kiehl’s Calendula Toner on days when I wear make up, Kiehl’s Hydro Plumping Serum in the morning, and Kiehl’s Midnight Recovery at night. I use my mom’s homemade whipped shea butter on my body." ">

“我尽可能多地在淋浴时。我用Kiehl的Ultra面部清洁剂那Kiehl的菠萝番木瓜磨砂膏,我用Savon de Marseille橄榄油肥皂，我用手洗头发Devacurl没有大便颓废和头发规则淬火护发素．我用Kiehl的金盏草粉末在我佩戴的日子里，Kiehl 's Hydro Plumping Serum早上，和Kiehl的午夜恢复在晚上。我用妈妈的自制鞭打乳木果油在我的身体上。“

Brooklyn Embodied after both babies and she closed my diastasis both times in just a few months. I try to do some meditation before bed to help me sleep, but Amel is still waking up quite a bit, so I just force myself to go to bed soon after she does and get in as much sleep as possible. I drink a ridiculous amount of water and eat a ton of fruit and vegetables every day. I skip sugar for most of the day, minus my morning cup of coffee. Thanks to my husband, I scaled back my work schedule a lot during my pregnancy with Amel and I really feel like that has helped my body recover much faster and I am really enjoying her. When Henry was an infant I was expecting to be able to do the things I did before he was born and so it was a slow and difficult transition. I knew this time around I needed to change my expectations and it’s been really nice."">

“妊娠两次怀孕后，我患有了DiaStasis Recti，所以我与Lisa Shoenholt课程布鲁克林体现了在两个婴儿双眼后，她在几个月内闭上了我的催眠。我试着在睡觉前做一些冥想来帮助我睡觉，但amel仍然醒来，所以我只强迫自己在她做的尽可能多地睡觉后很快就去睡觉。我每天喝一顿荒谬的水，每天吃一大吨水果和蔬菜。我大部分时间都跳过糖，减去了我早晨的咖啡。感谢我的丈夫，我在怀孕期间缩减了我的工作时间表，在怀孕期间，我真的觉得这让我的身体恢复得更快，我真的很享受她。当亨利是一个婴儿时，我期待能够在他出生之前做我所做的事情，所以这是一个缓慢而艰难的过渡。我知道这次我需要改变我的期望，这真的很好。“

radio show at The Lot. I kind of take the day to go in, see some friends, do my show, eat a good meal, and maybe shop a little before I go back home."">

"My husband and his cousin started a new business and we had a new baby at the same time, so finding time of our own has been the one big challenge we’ve faced. I have been working more and more in the past couple of months and my husband works a lot, too, so when he’s off it’s usually so I can work and then when I’m home he’s working and I have the kids. All week I compile a list of stuff we need to do or schedule things we need to do together on the day we’re all off. When I do have a little time, I love to just catch up on new music and that’s something that’s hard to do with a 6-year-old around when I’m unsure about the lyrical content. I love to do my广播展在很多．我会花一天的时间进去看看朋友，做我的节目，吃一顿好饭，可能在回家之前还会去购物。”

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"My husband and I are in the process of simplifying. We just want to make life way more chill for ourselves and spend more time with our kids while they’re still young and want to hang out with us. We both put our heads down and started working so hard trying to set ourselves up that we looked up one day and realized that we hadn’t taken a vacation in years. I’m looking forward to the new fresh start we’re planning, because our kids are awesome and the past few years have been tough on all of us."

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