母亲

“我们喜欢我们的家。我们现在一直在这里。我喜欢我们居住的地方的可行的邻居和所有设施。如果我们永远留在这里，我会非常高兴。”

“均衡。这是温暖但现代化的。经典但当代的经典。一组高低，使其舒适，但你仍然从空间中获得一个非常好的感觉。”

“在我们买的之前它经过翻新。我们目前正在重新做我们的浴室。”

“Again I’d have to say ‘balance.’ Find a good place between high and low so it doesn’t feel too precious. Try to fill your space with things you love looking at every day, and that also give you the flexibility to change things up or add special touches with vases, flowers, or artwork."

“I wanted the space to be beautiful but easily modified. Our table expands to seat up to 10, the couch can seat two or eight comfortably. The wedge backs are easily adjusted or taken away, so that it’s basically a very wide bench. We needed to have a dedicated space for Phyllis and room for her things, since it doubles as her playroom. So, she has a nice area that belongs to her only and a dedicated cabinet space for all of her toys. We can host play dates, a small dinner, or birthday parties all in one space!"

Ilka Pilka dress. Phyllis wears a Papu dress. ">

BREIGHL佩戴A.Ilka Pilka.裙子。Phyllis磨损A.巴布裙子。

在房子里最好的座位。

Brimfield, a large antiques show that happens a few times a year. The upstairs sconces are Workstead. We got them from The Future Perfect. Our dining room table is Danish. There is an amazing dealer of antique Scandinavian pieces on Charles Street in Beacon. I love how simple it is."">

“我喜欢我们采购的古董橱柜布里姆菲尔德，一个大的古董表演每年发生几次。楼上的骗子是工作刺。我们得到了他们未来完美。我们的餐桌是丹麦菜。Charles街的古董斯堪的纳维亚碎片有一个惊人的经销商。我喜欢它的简单。“

“是的，每个房间都是一个游戏室，我不断编辑，让她和我们的东西从压倒性的空间中。”

“As someone who hasn’t had the most positive relationship with my own mother, I relish the chance to bring healing to myself and my maternal lineage through my journey. Motherhood has been a rebirth for me in so many ways. I feel like I’m healing my own early childhood while bearing witness to Phyllis’. I have the chance to change our collective story, our legacy. To make it a good one."

“Though I know I likely am, I wonder if I’m doing enough, if I’m present enough, and if I’m making Phyllis feel how grateful I am for her every day. I feel like a low level of anxiety is normal and helpful, it propels us forward. It means you care. As long as we don’t let it affect us negatively, we should have gratitude for some anxiety."

“Nurturing her to grow into someone who appreciates herself, who shows kindness and compassion to herself first, so that it’s second nature to extend that to others. My husband and I say affirmations with Phyllis every night before bed. I don’t want her to ever question the truth about herself: that she is good, smart, kind, and beautiful. I’m very excited about sending that person out into the world as my legacy."

“She is Phyllis Mae. Phyllis is a family name. She’s named after her great aunt on my husband’s side. My dad’s wife also has a sister named Phyllis, who passed away as a teen. Both Phyllis’ are family favorites. Mae is my grandmother’s middle name, another family favorite. We didn’t realize that Ben’s Aunt Phyllis also had the middle name ‘Mae’ when we chose it, so it was very much meant to be."

“菲利斯快3岁了。她真的很喜欢她的娃娃和假装做饭。她喜欢举办想象中的生日派对。她还很喜欢扮演医生，给我们打针。她对什么都感兴趣——她是个热情的小姑娘。”

“是的，我做到了。”

“I had preeclampsia. Fortunately, I had a very attentive OB who knew something was off right away. I’m relatively healthy so I wasn’t presenting with most of the usual symptoms. Having attentive caregivers is so important, especially for mothers of color, as we’re more at risk for complications. Phyllis was born moderately premature at 33 weeks. She had to stay in the special care nursery to grow and learn to feed by mouth for about a month. I hated being away from her at all so early on. I feel like it was traumatic for her, too, even though she received really great care. It was a hard time, but we made it through."

“我想这并不奇怪，我对菲利斯的关注如此之深，以至于对我造成了伤害。我的头发掉光了，皮肤乱糟糟的，我感到极度疲惫。我意识到要想照顾我，没有一劳永逸的办法，艾比就是这样开始的。我想创作一些全面、全面、完全以妈妈为中心的作品。”

“I quit my job a week before I delivered. Totally by chance. Unfortunately, many employers still aren’t supportive of mothers. I really hope my company can help change that. I’m writing this as much of the world is practicing social distancing because of the coronavirus. I really hope that the introspection we’re being pushed into results in a collective shift in what we prioritize. Mothers aren’t seen as valuable. The work we do is nowhere near economic output in terms of what is seen as valuable. This is reflected in punitive employer practices, the inaccessibility of childcare, and even the way we talk about ourselves, like saying 'I’m just a mom.' As the trappings of 'normal' life are slowly stripped away, we’re left with the only things that truly matter. Family. Nurturing. Mother."

“我们的家原本是两居室，但在我们搬进来前不久被改成了一居室。搬进来后，我们很快就怀孕了，并决定创建一个育儿室，而不是一个全尺寸的房间。这个方案非常完美，我们可以选择扩大女儿的空间，这样我们的家就又变成了两个卧室了。”

“没有。我们每个人都有培养良好的能力。我们通过学习首先培养自己来挖掘它。我不批评一个人对知识的渴望，以及依靠多种资源来找出适合自己的方法，但你不需要一本书来做妈妈。”

Beyoncé for the way she let pregnancy loss teach her to mother herself first. Oprah for the way she shows us all that we can be a mother to many things; a company, an idea, to children we didn’t birth ourselves. My mother-in-law for the way she gives her all to family. My mom friends who are all very different, but teach me something about myself and mothering every day."">

“碧昂丝因为她让妊娠损失让她先对母亲的方式。奥普拉就她向我们展示了我们所有的方式，我们可以成为许多事情的母亲;一家公司，一个想法，给孩子们没有生育自己。我的婆婆为她给她所有人的方式。我妈妈的朋友们都有非常不同，但每天教我一些关于自己和母亲的东西。“

“I was raised by my father. My relationship with my own mother has been fraught with struggles, but in her way, she’s taught me the importance of empathy, connection, relationship, and nurturing yourself. So I’m very grateful to her for those lessons."

“直觉的。”

Ebi."">

“Birth plainly illustrates how connected we all are. Having my daughter helped me really internalize that. When that happens, the distinctions we insist on drawing between ourselves and others very quickly start to resemble willful ignorance. So that is the work I’ve committed myself to. Leveraging this knowledge to increase our capacity for empathy. Empathy for ourselves and others. That’s the message ofeBI.．"

“这让我感激我的母亲之旅。它促使我完全接受自己，遵循自己的真理，与我在这里的目标一致。现在比以往任何时候都更重要的是，在这个世界上带着同情和真理前行，并且要勇敢。你能做的最勇敢的事情之一就是爱自己，接受自己。所有其他的好东西都会由此产生。”

you."">

“母亲你．"

“我很想有更多的孩子。”

“从公共卫生的角度来看，早期有很多很多错误。令人遗憾的是，由于信息的隐瞒和错误信息的传播，公众对总统和联邦机构的信任已经受到了侵蚀。为了个人利益而滥用职权的公务员。我想我们所有人，包括我自己，都对公共卫生的价值有了更深的理解。当我拿到这门学科的学位时，这仍然是相对闻所未闻的，但现在随着世界的联系只会增加，这应该成为公众日常知识中根深蒂固的东西。这对很多不了解情况的人来说是很可怕的。州和联邦政府之间明确、协调的沟通和公共卫生努力至关重要。我希望我们11月去投票时都能记住这一点。”

“从哲学上讲，我觉得这场大流行教给我们的东西是如此准确，几乎是滑稽的。我们都是“孤立的”，只能控制自己。我们的精神、身体和情感状态是我们所能控制的。然而，我的行为直接影响你，你的行为影响我。我们的联系。我们在这场大流行病中相互关联，但我们也看到，我们每个人都在经济、社会机构和生活的每一个方面发挥着必要的作用。我们都是独立的存在，但又不可避免地相互依赖。我的意思是，没有比这更简单的生活比喻了。我们需要彼此。不是抽象的，而是非常真实的。 We need each other, and how we show up for each other starts with how we show up for ourselves."

"When I'm present, I feel immense gratitude. I've very quickly realized that the things that bring me the most joy—my faith, doing life with my husband, and connecting with our daughter in new ways—are the things that I spend way too much time pretending I'm too busy to do. We're two weeks into this and I've realized how grateful I am for this time. For my family. Everyone is itching for things to just go back to the way they were, but I think that'd be a big mistake. If you come out of this time without any revelations about what you truly prioritize, what success looks like for you, and what you value in life, then all of this pain and suffering has been in vain. I feel like that's the best way to honor the memory of those lost—to truly live."">

“它振荡。当我在外面看看，我直接的环境制作新闻，检查电子邮件以获得不断更新的电子邮件 - 我觉得焦虑和悲伤。对那些在前线上工作的人的焦虑，以及它对我的家人意味着什么如果我的丈夫是一个居民，在医院需要。为我们失去的人以及我们失去庆祝活动，稳定感的悲伤，对那些独自抗击这种疾病的人来说，以及社会边缘的人没有任何安全网来保护他们。“

“当我在场时，我感到非常感谢。我很快意识到带给我最快乐的东西 - 我的信仰，与我的丈夫一起生活，并与我们的女儿以新的方式联系 - 是事情我花了太多时间假装我太忙了，我太忙了。我们已经两个星期了，我已经意识到了这次我有多感激。对于我的家人来说。每个人都痒去了他们的方式，但我认为这是一个很大的错误。如果你走出这个时间没有任何关于你真正优先考虑的任何启示，那么对你来说，你的生活价值是什么样的，那么所有这些痛苦痛苦徒劳无功。我觉得这是尊重那些迷失的人真正生活的最佳方式。“

“我发现了舒适的来源。舒适与麻木不同。我祈祷和听着触及我心灵的精神教义。我一直在做呼吸。它可以像给呼吸能力一样简单，但是我发现呼吸现在非常乐于助人。我一定要用瑜伽或舞蹈移动我的身体。我在俱乐部隔离区跳了几个小时。我定期关掉手机，让自己只是。我培养我的身体与健康的食物，也让自己放纵。我正在听自己，并要求我的伴侣所需要的，无论是单独的还是其他的。“

“我们沟通，我们沟通好，因为我们知道我们现在没有任何其他选择。这是惊人的。如果我们可以，我们会不断调整彼此的需求和定向。这就像一个美丽的舞蹈。他是一个美丽的舞蹈。他对母性的所有无偿劳动力也表示感谢，并以他不能在此之前的方式理解它的价值。我从来没有见过他如此愿意在家里帮助。这是富有成效的时间我们的婚姻，我很感激。“

“她非常聪明，有意识，所以我对她一直诚实。她理解细菌正在让人们生病，所以所有的餐馆和商店和学校都在闭上了。她正在认真对待她的朋友和我们的日常生活，但是一直享受着我们家的迷你课程。我们几天前庆祝了她的3个生日。我们装饰了整个房子，通过送货服务订购了蛋糕，并庆祝家人和朋友在线。我们跳舞，我们玩了，它照亮了每个人的日子。她的学校朋友们制作了生日贺卡来分享缩放，我们的家人加入了生日快乐，看着她爆炸她的蜡烛。她喜欢它，我们也是。我也是我一直感谢她，但我现在对我的小白羊派的生活非常感谢。她给了我们所有事情要庆祝，我们真的需要它。“

“在我自己的生活中没有归因于任何东西。拥抱生活在不同国家的家庭成员。这次在此期间被揭示的集体真理将塑造我们的世界前进。生活。”

Ebi, a plant-based postpartum care company. Ebi supports holistic postpartum experiences for all by making it easy to nurture yourself during postpartum and beyond."">

“我是创始人eBI.是一家以植物的产后护理公司。EBI通过在产后和超越期间容易培养自己，支持整体产后体验。“

Ebi is about shifting the way we as mothers think about what we do. Once we start to value ourselves and find balance by nurturing ourselves first, the way society sees us and values us must also shift."">

“在世界上许多国家，产后护理对母亲和婴儿的健康至关重要，这是一个简单的事实。在这里，当你说到产后，很多人仍然认为你指的是产后抑郁症——只是这不是我们文化的一部分。我们目前对产后疾病的治疗是无效的。孕产妇死亡率和发病率、雇主的惩罚性做法、公众对儿童保育缺乏支持——所有这些都表明，我们对母亲的重视程度有多低。一切都从自我开始。eBI.关于让我们思考我们所做的事情的方式。一旦我们开始重视自己并通过培养自己首先找到平衡，社会认为我们和价值观的方式也必须转变。“

Ebi serves a very overlooked population and need. It also does it in a way that meets those needs by using production practices—like sourcing and producing locally—that reduce our carbon footprint. Our products are all multi-use and multi-purpose. So, a few things provide a bevy of benefits, in this case, a comprehensive postpartum experience. The Underwear and Nipple Pads were consciously made not to be disposable. Our packaging uses virtually no plastic. We only source organic ingredients from local, responsible producers, who are largely women. I think we need to shift the way we think about what we create, how and what we buy, and what we use. I think as much as we can we should create and consume things that are meant to last and positively impact the environment."">

“I’m definitely aware of our collective issues around consumption and the ways capitalism encourages us to solve all of our problems with more stuff. As someone who is actively trying to reduce how much I consume and how much waste I personally create, I definitely felt a little funny about starting a consumer goods company. However,eBI.服务于被忽视的人群和需求。它还通过生产实践来满足这些需求，比如在当地采购和生产，从而减少我们的碳足迹。我们的产品都是多用途、多用途的。所以，一些东西提供了一系列的好处，在这种情况下，一个全面的产后体验。内衣和乳头垫有意识地制造不一致。我们的包装几乎没有塑料。我们只源来自当地负责人的有机成分，主要是女性。我认为我们需要转移我们考虑我们创造的方式，如何以及我们购买的方式以及我们使用的方式。我认为我们可以创造和消耗持续和积极影响环境的东西的东西。“

“我在德克萨斯州休斯顿境外长大。我在迈克·奥斯汀搬到波士顿学习公共卫生之前。在Grad School，我在波士顿的一个主要医院运行了一个盛好的健康中心，在那里我工作了large health system on the west coast, and briefly worked for a midsize startup when we moved back to Boston. I was always interested in health but from a holistic standpoint, and always with an eye towards moving us forward as a collective. I’ve been plant-based for years, so bringing that into my work was a natural fit. Motherhood just brought all of my experiences full circle, and I’m so happy with where I ended up."

“母亲已经无休止地鼓舞人心。它允许我重新发现自己是如何看到的，并弄清楚真正重要的事情。我开始看到我沮丧地倾向于倾向于我的成长 - 我的敏感性，我的敏感性，我的狂野优势。培养良好的能力是最终的力量，这一切都始于你如何培养你。我以为我想爬上公司梯子并运行一家公司。事实证明我做了，但我感到如此感激创造和能够运行一家关于母亲的价值的公司，以及转移我们看到自己的框架。如果没有母亲，社会很快就会停止存在，所以为什么我们在分娩时死亡？为什么我们在社会水平上不受支持? How have we collectively internalized these messages? These are all questions my company asks and tries to answer. I’m very grateful to Phyllis for making me a mother and the gift of the rebirth of myself."

“Yes. My family doesn’t live nearby but is very involved in our lives. My mother-in-law is amazing and has been there and been so supportive from the beginning. We are extremely blessed to have her in our lives. I have great mom friends and women who aren’t mothers from all walks of life who are endlessly encouraging and inspiring. We have a great network of childcare help, especially our part-time nanny, who has become a part of our family, and who I am grateful for every day."

KHAITE pants, and LOQ shoes. ">

Breighl戴上蝙蝠树顶，khaite.裤子，和LOQ.鞋。

“在你身边得到一个很好的助手圈。你会需要它。事情不会像你想要的那样快动，但只要他们朝着正确的方向移动，你就会很好。”

“我正在学着接受不完美的生活。生活是动态的，寻求平衡是一个过程，也是一种练习。我在努力，这才是最重要的。”

“I like Boston because it’s a major city but still feels manageable. Our neighborhood is super walkable. There’s tons of beautiful public space. Our work, school, and friends are all a short walk away. I’m from Texas but I’ve grown to love something—truly!—about each season. New England is a special place. We love exploring all over when the weather is nice, or just enjoying our favorite places in the city."

“我一直以为我最终在加利福尼亚州。现在还为时不晚，所以我们会看到。”

The Table at Season to Taste is my favorite dinner spot. For lunch, I love Mamaleh’s, a Jewish deli across the river. Shore Leave is a really cool tiki-ish bar in the South End. There’s a hidden sushi restaurant inside—it’s delicious. It’s a really fun date spot. The Boston Public Library has an expansive children’s space, a great tea service, and a beautiful courtyard where they have concerts and other types of programming during the summer. Commonwealth Avenue and the Public Garden are great for nature walks, outdoor play dates, and visitors. The Esplanade is a wonderful public space with playgrounds, concerts in the summer, and small decks to catch some sun. It runs along the Charles River. We love to take long walks on it or have a picnic dinner there in the summer."">

“季节的桌子味道是我最喜欢的晚餐点。午餐时，我喜欢Mamaleh是河边的犹太熟食店。海岸离开是南端的一个非常酷的Tiki-ish酒吧。里面有一个隐藏的寿司餐厅 - 它很美味。这是一个非常有趣的日期点。这波士顿公共图书馆拥有宽敞的儿童空间，一家伟大的茶服务，以及一个美丽的庭院，在那里夏季，他们在夏季进行音乐会和其他类型的编程。英联邦大道和公共花园非常适合大自然散步，户外游戏日期和游客。Esplanade是一个美妙的公共空间，夏天的游乐场，音乐会和小甲板捕捉一些太阳。它沿着查尔斯河跑。我们喜欢长时间散步或在夏天享用野餐晚餐。“

“具有触及经典的女性和简单。”

“否，保存更加强调容易的部分。”

Ulla Johnson, Caron Callahan, Batsheva, and indie designers like Ilka Pilka."">

“我喜欢良好的针织，好靴子和多功能的外套。我喜欢乌拉约翰逊那Caron Callahan.那蝙蝠树和独立设计师喜欢Ilka Pilka.．"

Ilka Pilka jacket, Rejina Pyo pants, and Penelope Chilvers boots. Phyllis wears Boden pants, Misha & Puff sweater and hat, and a Ralph Lauren jacket. ">

Breighl戴着Ilka Pilka.夹克，Rejina Pyo.裤子，和Penelope Chilvers.靴子。Phyllis磨损镇裤子，Misha＆Puff.毛衣和帽子，和一个拉尔夫·劳伦夹克。

The Oil day and night. You can use it head to toe. I even use it on my and Phyllis’ hair. I originally created it as a cruelty-free alternative to lanolin nipple salve that’s sourced from the sebaceous glands of sheep. It’s naturally cleansing—anti-viral, anti-microbial, anti-inflammatory—, treats blemishes and melasma, and provides some UV protection. My skin was a wreck after the baby, and The Oil really helped me. Now my skin just doesn’t look healthy, it is healthy. Even my husband took note and is always asking if I’m wearing make-up. I rarely do anymore!"

"Other than that, I use plant-based products like Evan Healy, the Josh Rosebrook cacao mask, and May Lindstrom Problem Solver. All of these products, including The Oil, are solely plant-based. I think it’s important for all people, but especially mothers, to use products that are gentle, effective, and safe. My whole beauty philosophy really changed after baby. I nurture my skin, love on it with really good, whole plant ingredients that work. Everything I use on my skin is gentle enough to use on Phyllis’ too. I also like the multi-purpose nature of all my skincare products. I think overtime, those crowded medicine cabinets, chock full of products, will become less and less appealing. You’re going to see people asking for more from a simple assortment of products. The world is moving fast. Who really has time for a 12-step skin routine? Moms definitely don’t. I keep it simple by cleansing and using The Oil after. I’ll use a mask 1-2 times a week."">

“我用油日夜。你可以用它来脚趾。我甚至在我和phyllis的头发上使用它。我最初创造它作为一种无残酷的替代品，对羊毛脂乳头酱油从绵羊的皮脂腺中寻呼。它是天然清洁 - 抗病毒，抗微生物，抗炎剂，治疗瑕疵和黑阵，并提供一些UV保护。宝宝后，我的皮肤是一个残骸，油真的帮助了我。现在我的皮肤看起来不太健康，它是健康的。即使是我的丈夫也注意到，总是问我是否戴着化妆。我很少再做了！“

“除此之外，我使用基于工厂的产品evan heally.， 这乔希·罗斯布鲁克可可面具,可能lindstrom问题求解器。所有这些产品，包括油，仅仅是植物的基础。我认为这对所有人来说都很重要，特别是母亲，使用温和，有效和安全的产品。宝宝后，我的整个美丽哲学真的改变了。我养育着我的皮肤，用真正的植物成分，爱上它。我在皮肤上使用的一切都足够温和地在Phyllis上使用。我也喜欢我所有护肤品的多功能性质。我想加班，那些拥挤的药柜，装满了产品，会越来越少吸引力。你会看到人们从一个简单的各种各样的产品中要求更多。世界正在快速发展。谁真的有时间为12步皮肤常规？ Moms definitely don’t. I keep it simple by cleansing and using油后。我会每周使用1-2次面具。“

The Tisane is great for any time in a woman’s life. It tones the reproductive organs, is high in vitamins—B, C, A, and E—as well as zinc, copper, and iron. It also supports healthy sleep, mood, and milk production in lactating women. I drink it regularly even though I’m not breastfeeding anymore. I bathe as much as possible. Bathing is a simple and accessible way to self-nurture. The Bath is so healing, so I use it even though I’m nearly 36 months postpartum. It’s high in magnesium, which is more easily absorbed through the skin. We source our sea salt in The Bath from a saltern off the coast of Martha’s Vineyard, so it’s much higher in trace minerals than what you’d normally find. It’s soothing, toning, and balancing. I also pray, journal, and listen to spiritual teachings to keep me grounded."">

“我试着经常移动我的身体，吃植物的饮食。绳子对于女人的生活中的任何时候都很棒。它可以调味生殖器官，在维生素-B，C，A和E-以及锌，铜和铁中高。它还支持哺乳期妇女的健康睡眠，心情和牛奶生产。我经常喝酒，即使我不再母乳喂养了。我尽可能地洗澡。沐浴是一种自我培养的简单且无障碍的方式。洗澡是如此愈合，所以我使用它即使我近36个月产后。它在镁中很高，这更容易通过皮肤吸收。我们源我们的海盐洗澡从玛莎葡萄园海岸的盐水中，痕量矿物质的含量远远高于你通常发现的矿物质。它是舒缓，色调和平衡。我也祈祷，期刊，听取精神教义，让我保持接地。“

The Tisane and read. A bath at the end of the day is usually always an option."">

“I ask for it. I think that’s most important; knowing what you need first and being comfortable asking for it. It looks different from day to day. Sometimes it’s the ability to slip out to get a workout in, other days it’s 30 minutes to have a cup of绳子并阅读。一天结束时的浴室通常是一个选择。“

在雕像中隐藏和去寻求。

“Constantly. I want to always be a source of comfort, truth, and support for Phyllis. I want to model what walking in your truth and being a light in this world looks like. I’ll never totally get it right, but I hope I model self-compassion and forgiveness well, too."

Ebi and watch it grow. It’s like a baby to me, too. Postpartum care in this country is so fractured. My goal is to shift the conversation, encourage mothers to see that things could and should be different. We deserve and need them to be."">

“培育eBI.并观看它的成长。这也像我的宝贝。这个国家的产后护理是如此裂缝。我的目标是改变谈话，鼓励母亲看到事情可能也是不同的。我们应得的并需要他们。“

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