母亲

"We will have been in our house three years this coming July. It is in the Sequoyah Hills neighborhood of Oakland. We love our house so much, and feel so happy here. It’s pretty secluded and feels like our own little oasis. Our real estate agent is one of the hardest working people I have ever met and we are still friends—if anyone reading is house hunting in Oakland!"

Gap men's shirt, vintage pants, Common Muse hoops, and Chaussure Lapin shoes from Voyager SF. Henry wears an Oakland Surf Club sweatshirt, Zara pants, and Roshe Runs Nikes. Coco wears a tunic by 69 and Salt Water sandals.">

阿里穿着一件差距男士衬衫，复古裤子，常见的缪斯篮球,鞋类兔子鞋子旅行者SF.．亨利穿了一个奥克兰冲浪俱乐部运动衫,扎拉裤子，和Roshe运行耐克．可可在69岁时穿了束腰外衣盐水凉鞋。

“我要去住在凉爽的巴黎公寓的氛围，但我将满足于舒适和现代，有时干净。”

妈妈的女孩。

“装饰对我来说是一种缓慢的过程，我喜欢尽我所在的时间和收集事情。房子在过去几年中慢慢走在一起，我总是试图改善它。”

追溯到家庭品牌。

Modernica Case Study Bed. It was our first non-IKEA, real piece of furniture purchase and it made me feel like a grown-up when we bought it. I also love our pieces by Barry McGee, they make my husband so happy, which makes me happy." ">

“我爱我们的床，现代案例学习床．这是我们的第一个非宜家，真实的家具，它让我觉得当我们买了它时觉得自己变得如此。我也喜欢我们的作品巴里麦吉，他们让我的丈夫很开心，这让我开心。“

“我喜欢孩子们的东西留在房间里，但它总是找到泄漏到起居室的方法，因为这是我们的主要悬挂区域。我正试图将地下室转换为一个很快的游戏室。”

阅读材料。

Oakland Surf Club, alongside my husband, Max. It is a clothing brand. We used to have a brick and mortar shop, but transitioned to just wholesaling the brand in 2015. We run things out of our garage, and it is just the two of us. Over the last couple of years we have tried to assign our duties. Max does the sales, accounting, and organizes the design and production of the line, while I handle the creative side, produce all the photo shoots and content for social media, and I am also the shipping and customer service departments."">

“我是奥克兰冲浪俱乐部和我的丈夫一起，最多。这是一个服装品牌。我们曾经拥有一家砖头和砂浆商店，但过渡到2015年的品牌批发。我们在我们的车库里跑出来，它只是我们两个人。在过去的几年里，我们试图分配我们的职责。Max是销售，会计和组织线路的设计和制作，而我处理创意方面，为社交媒体生产所有照片拍摄和内容，我也是运输和客户服务部门。“

“我在奥克兰长大。我去了UCSB并学习了电影研究和黑色研究。最多几个月的大学，在毕业后在旧金山搬进了一套公寓。我们都有零售和最大的零售school for teaching. We moved back to Oakland and moved into my family’s fourplex. We opened Oakland Surf Club when I was nine months pregnant."

垫子。

“我全职照顾两个孩子，然后在晚上和周末为奥克兰冲浪俱乐部做任何我需要做的事情。我从没想过我会成为一个“呆在家里”的妈妈。我都不喜欢这个词。我觉得很幸运能一直和我的孩子们在一起，但我没想到我会这样做。这是一种与传统工作截然不同的工作，有时我觉得我对自己所做的工作有戒心。我只是觉得我们的社会并没有真正承认养育孩子需要付出的所有努力，这是令人失望的。”

“我开始了冲浪俱乐部，同年的Coco，所以它有点互相陷入困境。”

Bubber going strong.">

可可小家伙要坚强。

“这很有趣，因为我们自己做生意，所以没有真正的产假，在我有可可之前，我们拼命想在最后期限前开一家店，我一直在店里工作，直到我有亨利的那天。我们总是想在商店里工作，但商店也允许我们在需要的时候自由休息。我很重视自我照顾，所以即使我感觉自己工作很忙，和孩子们在一起很忙，我还是会花时间照顾自己。”

Common Muse hoops.">

常见的缪斯篮球。

"I only work at nights after the kids have gone to bed, so that I can really give my attention to them during the day. It’s hard when I have to do shoots on the weekend, only because it’s our time to be together as a family and I miss that when I have to work. But I also love doing shoots, so there’s a give and take."

“是的！我的妈妈，奶奶和她两个孩子的妹妹活着一对来自我们的夫妻，我几乎每天都在他们的房子里。我也有一个很棒的朋友，希望和我的孩子共度时光。”

“我喜欢看到我脑子里的东西来到照片中。我喜欢最多的时候，我真的很兴奋，彼此合作仍然很有趣。”

“Coco在秋天开始幼儿园，亨利开始兼职，所以我将有更多的时间专注于造型的其他项目以及为奥克兰冲浪俱乐部做更多的工作。”

可可的房间。

"I love Coco’s room. It feels like it really has her personality in it, and it just seems like a fun place for a 4-year-old to hang out. Plus, all her toys have a spot to go back to, so it is easy to clean up in there."

可可的滚落床，拖车床为她的娃娃。

Jenny Lind bed, it has a trundle for when her cousins sleepover and I can imagine fun sleepovers with friends when she gets older. Her favorite area is her art desk. I like to see her just working away there. She’s really into art these days, so it’s fun to see what she makes." ">

“我爱她珍妮林床上，当她的表兄弟睡眠时，它有一个滚动，当她变老时，我可以想象有趣的睡眠。她最喜欢的地区是她的艺术桌。我喜欢看到她只是在那里工作。这几天，她真的进入艺术，所以看看她所做的事情很有趣。“

Coco的画廊。

Pink Chicken dress. Henry wears an Esp No. 1 top and hand-me-down Carter's pants. Ari wears an Everlane sweater, Jesse Kamm pants, and a bracelet from Senegal. ">

可可佩戴A.粉红色的鸡肉裙子。亨利佩戴ESP No. 1顶部和手工下来卡特的裤子。Ari穿一个Everlane毛衣，Jesse Kamm.裤子和塞内加尔的手链。

爱情的样子。

“我喜欢用两个小人类分享这个疯狂和美丽的世界。看看他们如何看待他们的东西和我与Coco的对话是如此酷。我真的很喜欢看到他们的个性出来看看他们发现他们所在的东西感兴趣。这是非常责任，但它也很有趣，每天都与最后一个不同。“

"Imagining that one day they might have their hearts’ broken by someone and there is nothing I can do to stop that. Also, they have both been to the ER and Henry has already has stitches. They are wild and I know there will be broken bones in my future, and that scares me."

"My daughter is Colette James and we call her Coco. James was my great grandma’s name. I grew up with her and she passed away before Coco was born, but I knew I wanted to honor her in some way. My son is Henry Oscar, I just have loved the name Henry before I even had kids, and I liked the way it sounded with Oscar, no special meaning."

Modernica Case Study Bed.">

在阿里的房间里，在她上面的顶部现代案例学习床．

“我的妈妈。她的耐心和爱以及她看待世界的方式令人鼓舞。我喜欢看她和她的孙子孙女们在一起，因为她只是让他们像孩子一样慢慢来，在泥里玩上几个小时，收集虫子和花，制作药剂，就这样。我记得当我们还是孩子的时候，她是如何培养我们的，并信任我们自由，我觉得这帮助我成为了一个自信的成年人。我没有我妈妈那么有耐心，但我会尽我最大的努力去了解孩子们的个人需求，多在外面活动，让他们找到自己的方向。如果我是我妈妈的一半，那么我会觉得我做得很好。”

"I honestly do not have many mom friends. I have a few good close friends and none of them have kids and I haven’t been great at meeting other moms. I have my mom, grandma, and sister in Oakland, so that is a big support. I have actually met a few ladies through Mother events, as well! So, that is cool!"

Bringing Up Bébé was cute. I studied abroad in Paris during college, so I’m pretty obsessed with France, and I just like learning about how people parent around the globe. I also liked How Children Learn by John Holt. There’s a passage that stays with me when he says that we should always speak to children with respect, and to speak to them like we would a well respected colleague or friend. I try to remember this when I am getting frustrated with the kids, and try to stop myself from speaking to them without that respect. I also really believe that my kids do so much better when they are in situations where I am not having to constantly be telling them no, so I try to provide those atmospheres for them when I can." ">

“我想抚养碧碧很可爱。我大学期间在巴黎留学，所以我对法国非常着迷，我喜欢了解世界各地的人是如何为人父母的。我也喜欢孩子如何学习约翰霍尔特。当他说我们总是和孩子们都尊重时，有一段段落会和​​我在一起，并与他们说话，就像我们备受尊重的同事或朋友一样。当我对孩子们感到沮丧时，我试着记住这个，并试图阻止自己没有那种尊重就会对他们说话。我也真的相信，当我在不断告诉他们的情况下，我的孩子们在某个情况下做得更好，所以我试图为他们提供这些气氛。“

可可的另一个工作。

"We were thinking of having the kids share a room, but decided to convert our spare office into Henry’s room. I like that it’s a small space, because I feel like I have been very conscious of what items I bring in for it. All the rooms in our house get such good light, so we have shades in the kids’ rooms so they can sleep. I love the bamboo shades I got for Henry’s room, and now I want them for more rooms."

简单规则。

“母亲和她儿子之间的债券就像没有别的，我喜欢那样。”

"Coco is a mini me, this is both cool and scary. We are both stubborn, which can be trying for us both at times. I love seeing which things she gravitates towards, and I like seeing when she isn’t like me at all, and is becoming her own person."

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服装改变!

“我真的不知道。我知道有一天我醒来，这就是我能想到的，几年后我们有可可。”

“我是黑白混血，和我的家人在奥克兰长大。我从小就和妈妈、奶奶、曾祖母和妹妹住在同一栋房子里。我感到很幸运，能被这些坚强、了不起的黑人女性抚养长大。他们教会了我很多，直到今天依然如此。我姐姐有两个女儿的时候，五代人住在一个屋檐下，那真是一幅美丽的景象。在我成长的过程中，我的房子很疯狂，因为总是有很多事情在进行，但它也很有趣。我妈妈养了鸡、鸭、一只大乌龟、狗和猫，总是有人进进出出。她在东奥克兰经营着一家文化中心，是一位长期的活动家，所以总是有一些非常有影响力和了不起的人来到我们家，直到我长大了，我才意识到他们到底是谁。伟大的诗人，黑豹党，音乐家，还有很多很多。麦克斯和我在那栋四层楼的房子里住了四年才搬出去。 We only live a couple exits away, because I just want my kids to grow up with all that family. Coco’s best friends are her cousins, and we spend a lot of time at my family’s house because family is so important to me."

Mabo top, Gap jeans, and Stan Smith Adidas. Ari wears a Jungmaven tee, L.Woodward jeans, and Stan Smith Adidas.">

可可佩戴A.Mabo.最佳，差距牛仔裤,斯坦史密斯adidas.．阿里穿着一件Jungmaven.三通,L.Woodward牛仔裤,斯坦史密斯adidas.．

“我妈妈是一个自信而聪明的黑人女人，我觉得她的信心和幸福是具有传染性的。我想传递那些与我的同样的东西。我想相信我的孩子，就像她相信我们一样，让他们拥有他们需要弄清楚他们是谁以及它们如何适应世界。我只是希望培养善良和全球意识到的孩子问很多问题，是快乐和自信的。只是那个，哈哈。“

“特朗普是最糟糕的，但美国的事情也不是他。作为一个生活在美国的颜色的女人，我觉得我一直试图留下来看线了，意识到发生了什么。有系统问题我们的刑事司法系统和制度化的种族主义是真实的。我希望我的孩子们要意识到他们拥有的特权，并找出他们可以使用这种特权来帮助他人的方式。“

"It’s crazy, because I feel like one kid didn’t completely rock my world. With our first, Max and I kept traveling and Coco stayed up late with us and we just kept doing a lot of the same things. When we had our second kid is when I felt like my whole world became kid-related. But I also wouldn’t change it for anything. I would also say to her, do you, there is no right way to parent, and you will figure out what works best for you. Everyday you figure it out a little more."

“我们真的在第一次怀孕之前努力了一年。我在最多十天的12天内出现了流产，我结婚了。我们还年轻，我从未想过流产是一种可能性me. I feel like they aren’t spoken about enough for how often they occur. We were so sad and I just didn’t understand why it was happening. I married the man of my dreams and we ended up getting pregnant again later that year with Coco. It is crazy to come out of such sadness but know that if I hadn’t gone through that, then I wouldn’t have Coco. I was in labor for 28 hours and then she was born, and then she was just in my arms and so beautiful and it was such a magical moment. With Henry, we didn’t find out if we were having a boy or girl, so it was such an awesome surprise to find out on the day. I had an amazing midwife and was only in labor for one hour and I had him in a birthing tub."

“每当我们和孩子们一起旅行时，最大和我都喜欢，'noooo'。但我觉得我想要一个，我们会看到。“

Ergo saved us. I loved Japan. They take such good care of families and kids there and the public transportation system is very easy to navigate. We took the bullet train from Tokyo to Osaka and the kids loved the train. My favorite place we visited was Kyoto. We were in Japan during cherry blossom season and it was truly breathtaking. Coco eats raw fish like a bear, so we lucked out in always being able to find good food to eat. And it was very exciting to see our clothes in shops in another country! My grandma instilled a love of travel in me at a young age, and even though I didn’t grow up having a lot of money, she always managed to take us on trips. I love traveling with my kids, because even though they might not remember everything, they will have that love of travel in them forever." ">

"I know where so many parks are in Japan! We love traveling with the kids, which I feel like doesn’t work for everyone, but works for us. This was our second long-haul flight with both kids, so they are becoming better at the flights. We walked almost ten miles a day in Japan, so theergo.救了我们。我喜欢日本。他们在那里享受如此优质的家庭和孩子，公共交通系统很容易导航。我们从东京带着子弹火车到大阪，孩子们喜欢这列车。我们访问过的地方是京都。在樱花季节，我们在日本，真正令人叹为观止。椰树像熊一样吃生鱼，所以我们幸运总能找到美食。在另一个国家的商店看到我们的衣服非常令人兴奋！我的奶奶在一个年轻时灌输了对我的旅行的热爱，即使我没有长大有很多钱，她总是设法带我们去旅行。我喜欢和我的孩子一起旅行，因为即使他们可能不记得一切，他们都会永远拥有他们的旅行。“

“我的丈夫马克斯是最棒的。我们一起经营一家公司，98%的工作之外的时间仍然选择在一起。我认为我们都是最好的自己，当我们实践自我护理，并确保我们得到时间。我们每周都有一个约会之夜，不带孩子，这真的很有趣。”

Levi’s."

In the Oakland Surf Club office.">

“总是在寻找完美的白色t恤和完美的复古款李维斯．"

在奥克兰冲浪俱乐部办公室。

“如果有什么不同的话，那就是随着年龄的增长，我的穿着会越来越好。我再也不想回到大学时的穿着打扮了。”

Objects Without Meaning, I wore it every single day in Japan."">

“好牛仔裤，白色运动鞋，三通衬衫，现在我一直开始穿更多的纽扣衬衫。我今年买了我的第一个真皮夹克，我的30岁生日，我最喜欢的夹克是我所拥有的一个沟渠几年来没有意义的物体，我每天都在日本戴它。“

Beauty & Youth in Japan, Maryam Nassir Zadeh Rosa Sandals, Loq sandals, Re/Done jeans, a customizable sweatshirt from Omndi, and a Rouje dress for summer. And Gucci." ">

“我现在的愿望清单：我看到的一件漂亮的衣服美丽和青春在日本，Maryam Nassir Zadeh Rosa凉鞋那LOQ.凉鞋,重做牛仔裤，可定制的运动衫omn​​di.和一个Rouje.夏天的衣服。和Gucci.．"

Net-A-Porter and Garmentory. I’ll randomly have luck in person at the Gap, too—I have been loving their men’s button-downs." ">

“我在网上幸运。我喜欢净搬运工和gar．我会随意亲自有运气差距，也是我一直爱着男人的纽扣。“

Into The Gloss and use a lot of Glossier products, I love what they have done with their whole brand and will honestly try anything they make. I also have been using Vintner’s Daughter for almost a year and love what it has done to my skin. I use sunscreen daily and drink lots of water." ">

“我喜欢美容产品。我觉得我坚持着一些相同的东西，但随后也想尝试新事物。我喜欢读书进入光泽并大量使用光盘产品，我喜欢他们对整个品牌所做的事情，诚实地尝试他们所做的任何事情。我也一直在使用Vintner的女儿快一年了，我喜欢它对我皮肤的影响。我每天都涂防晒霜，喝很多水。”

"I really believe that if I am not taking care of myself then I can not be my best self and in turn I won’t be the best wife and mother that I can be. I have been doing pilates for 3 years and love it. I also try to slow down and go at the kids’ pace. When I am rushing to do a million things they feed off that stressful energy, and they are always so much happier when we are just going slow and just taking our time doing nothing. We like to eat really healthy, too, we make most our meals at home and Coco and Max grow a lot of veggies in the garden at our house. We start our mornings with smoothies and just eat a lot of fruits and veggies all day."

“我早上7点锻炼，或者在我妈妈可以照看孩子的时候。我很高兴有她的帮助。我晚上睡觉前也会阅读，我觉得书籍能让我的大脑继续工作。”

“奥克兰是我去过的最多元化的城市，社区和我的家庭结合在一起，使它成为抚养孩子的完美地方。”

“夏威夷。我的丈夫是冲浪者，我的孩子是心里的海滩上的孩子。我希望他们拥有那个，所以我们最终想弄清楚这两个地方的方式。我也看到我们在法国的南部或者在我们生命中的某些时候，日本或纽约州镰仓或纽约。“

Swan's Market for a meal with the kids, it is very kid-friendly and there are different options, so we don’t feel like we are always eating the same thing even though we go often. I also love going to farmers' markets with the kids, we love to eat fresh fruits and vegetables, and the farmers' market is always the best place to get them. There are also some good low-key hikes that kids can do. There is one right up the road from us on Skyline, and it’s nice to be able to go up there when we need something to do. Also, always the beach, if the sun is out on the weekend we are either there or lounging on my mom’s deck and BBQ'ing!"">

“我们爱去天鹅的市场与孩子们一起吃饭，它非常适合，有不同的选择，所以我们不想觉得我们总是吃同样的事情，即使我们经常去。我也喜欢和孩子们一起去农民的市场，我们喜欢吃新鲜水果和蔬菜，而农民的市场总是最好的地方。还有一些很好的低调徒步旅行，孩子们可以做。从我们上面有一个在天际线上的路上，当我们需要做某事时，能够在那里上去。另外，总是海滩，如果太阳在周末出来，我们就在那里或妈妈的甲板和烧烤！“

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