来自真正的女性的伟大的双胞胎妈妈建议

10+双胞胎的母亲响起他们的经历和建议

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07/25/18

魅力往返 - 巴西拍摄者汤普森Homonnay

这些天孪生和倍数变得更加普遍。事实上，双胞胎出生率已上升76％自1980年以来!话虽如此，总的来说，双胞胎仍然占每年出生人口的一小部分每1000个诞生中的5个在美国。根据美国倍数，增加了生育治疗的使用，现代医学的进步以及概念的老年产妇年龄都有助于双胞胎的兴起。女性在年龄的年龄时升高了FSH（卵泡刺激激素），这可以使其更有可能构想倍数。估计2013年的1.6％的出生是辅助生殖技术（艺术）的结果。由于双胞胎出生，我们知道我们有越来越多的读者，他是新的或很快的双妈妈。成为父母是压倒性的，但考虑它必须觉得知道你带来的东西两个新婴儿进入世界。下面，我们从全国各地分享了一群双胞胎妈妈，分享他们的经验 - 从他们的初步反应中发现他们期待x 2，迫在眉睫的恐惧和抚养双胞胎的担忧，以及他们对其他双胞胎妈妈的建议。阅读下面以了解这些妈妈杂耍双胞胎的魔力和喜悦。

有关此主题的更多信息，请查看三个鼓舞人心的母亲概况“双胞胎妈妈”Elaina Bellis.，Alexa闹事，和玛丽福特．

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: “作为一对双胞胎的母亲，我更加尊重女性的韧性，也意识到我们对世界的重要性。我们有一项重要的工作。这听起来像cliché，但我正在学习如何不为小事而烦恼。成为一个母亲让我看到了孩子们给这个世界带来的纯粹的幸福和惊奇。当我们不让孩子引导你前进的时候，你就很难看到其中的魔力。他们看到的是世界应有的样子。明戈斯和菲尼克斯非常接近。他们从不打架。当他们有不同意见时，我取笑他们的争论是假的，因为他们不可能超过30秒不爆发出笑声。他们做的一件非常可爱和有趣的事情就是一起创造故事。 Sometimes they do it at home or in the backseat of the car. They take turns describing what happens next in the story. It’s the coolest thing to observe. They also often hold hands or give each other random hugs. I feel so lucky to witness such a pure love. I’ve been surprised how different people can be just because of their genders (however they identify). I feel like I have a much better understanding of my husband and other males, just from the experience of raising my son and also seeing how differently he and his sister react to things. Phoenix is very much like her namesake. She is a confident, resilient, and compassionate leader. She is a strong advocate for her family, friends, and the community as a whole. She is probably one of the most reliable and responsible people I know. She is my walking calendar and grocery list. Mingus has a heart of gold. He is a very playful, compassionate, and forgiving individual. He is a budding artist, scientist, and animal rights activist."

Follow along with Charmin here and on Instagram here. ">: “想办法弥补睡眠不足。睡眠不足真的会对你造成伤害。有一个锻炼团，一个健康的饮食，或者一种练习正念的方法对保持平衡是极其重要的。以对你家人有意义的方式接受帮助。即使你不愿意放弃照顾你的孩子，接受别人帮你洗衣服、跑腿等，也能真正缓解你不断被压垮的感觉。如果你不得不用配方奶补充护理，不要自责。护理多胞胎并非易事。尽你最大的努力不要放弃，但如果你需要一点帮助也不要难过。把所有的旧衣服都拿走!早点教你的双胞胎交通安全知识。 Toddlers move very quickly. There are often times when you will have to run errands with your children alone. Identify a system for getting out of a parked car safely, holding hands when walking, holding the ends of a shopping cart on the way to a parked car, etc."
跟随魅力在这里和Instagram在这里．

: “发现自己怀了双胞胎是我经历过的最灵魂出窍的经历。只有我一个人在做8周大的检查，我跟我的产科医生开玩笑说:“让我们确定里面只有一个。”然后，她和我看到了两次心跳，我们都完全震惊了。我疯狂大笑。然后我歇斯底里地给我丈夫打电话。然后我哭了大约两周。有一种典型的后勤上的恐惧:我们如何处理、健康并抚养三个两岁半以下的孩子。还有一种近乎麻痹的恐惧:我们怎么可能同时照顾两个新生儿呢?然后，我知道自己正在经历高风险妊娠，就一直感到恐惧:这是一个模糊的词，似乎完全陌生。尽管我几乎每周都被监控，但每次赴约时，我都带着一波恐惧，离开时却带着宽慰、感激和自豪。 Our girls suffered an extremely uncommon form of Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS) called TAPS (Twin Anemia Polycythemia Sequence). If a woman finds out she is pregnant with mono-di (identical) twins, I highly encourage her to ask for a doppler scan to measure blood flow through the cerebral artery. Their sickness was not detected in standard ultrasounds because they never presented the classic signs of TTTS. This scan would have caught what they had. It wasn't until delivery that we realized the emergency we were in and, frankly, we are very very lucky they survived. I want to raise awareness around the rare but real possibility of TTTS and TAPS."

Follow along with Besse on Instagram here.">: “双胞胎经验很难获得，但你需要向双胞胎专家学习，直到你成为这方面的专家。这可能是以婴儿奶妈、助产师、保姆或几个月前另一位双胞胎妈妈的形式出现的。即使你有孩子，这也是一种全新的技能。一个婴儿，同时有两个婴儿，和双胞胎之间有很大的区别。此外，日程安排和日常安排是整个家庭运作的唯一方式。带着我的第一个孩子在婴儿车里和几块尿布玩耍的日子已经一去不复返了。这两件事可不是开玩笑的——它需要更多的组织和提前思考。双胞胎必须在同一个时间表上保持清醒。所以，我很自豪地掌握了“枕头道具”，这样它们就可以“养活自己”，我也可以在它们旁边给它们打气。我的第一次怀孕是简单而愉快的。 My son was born in the U.K., went straight into nursery school at 5 months, and traveled to 9 countries before he turned 1! The twin pregnancy was so intense and they had a rough start. But finally they have a fabulous nanny and they've been to L.A. once! The biggest thing that's surprised me about being a twin mom is that I am a twin mom! I'm still in shock, it’s surreal. The other surprise is that even though this is not my first child(ren), I feel as though I totally started from scratch with the twins. I've also found myself to be a bit more spiritual. Everything about their existence is rare and special. From the fact that I was pregnant with twins, to the type of twins they are, to the timing of their delivery and the exact doctors on call at that moment, to the sickness they suffered, to their rocky beginning, to their amazing survival and continued strength. Not a day goes by that I take them for granted. They are already superhuman and they really have a purpose here. Of course, it's double the work and stress, but it's also double the love. Two sets of eyes that make your heart melt. Two toothless smiles beaming at you. That is so meaningful and gives me chills. It's surreal and amazing. 'Holy s#$t there are two!' We say that all the time."
跟随Instagram上的Besse在这里．

: “发现我的双胞胎之后的第一个时刻只是超现实。我不认为我能够吸收信息。然后，这是初步的震惊变成了恐惧。我们怎么能管理两个婴儿？真的，怎么样？我几乎不知道我们将如何处理一个婴儿，更不用说两个。然后有一种非常真实的悲伤感，让我以为我被认为是妈妈的经历。我知道远离这改变了一切，生活看起来与我第一次预期的不同。然后，最后，兴奋。我们开玩笑说我们一两次交易，我真的很兴奋只有怀孕曾经有两个婴儿。我最担心的是，我不会在我身上尽可能充分地给每个孩子的爱和关注。我认为这是很多的东西当他们从一个孩子到两个孩子时，父母的脸。但一旦我的双胞胎出生了我完全完全爱着他们，它从未觉得自己贬低了爱情。我可以给我两个孩子的注意力是我必须锻炼和导航的东西。我的儿子是一个比我的女儿更挑剔的宝贝，所以他往往会得到更多的关注，我会在我脑海中计算的那一天。我抱着它们吗？我花了足够的时间与他们两个人交谈吗？然后我会感到非常有罪，而不是平等地分裂我的时间。 Another twin mom gave me wonderful advice early on that giving each child what they need isn't the same thing as treating them exactly the same way. Some days one child will need you more, and that's okay. The next day it might totally switch. One might want to be held, the other might want to be breastfed. You slowly begin to figure it out. Who needs what and responding to those needs without worrying so much about treating each baby the same. And now that my twins are older, at 4 years old, they're such different individual people that it comes pretty naturally to give them each the kind of attention they crave and need. I can honestly say that witnessing their relationship will be one of the greatest privileges of my life. They're each other's best friends, but they are also extremely different from each other, which I think has helped ward off a lot of sibling competitiveness since they each have very distinct interests. Starting from just a few months old, they would make each other giggle. I wish I could have bottled up that sound of little 6-month-old babies just laughing hysterically at each other's antics. They're always looking out for each other. Sharing everything they have, comforting each other when they're sad, feeding each other, and driving each other crazy. That relationship is the most rewarding part of twin parenthood because there's just nothing like it. They have always been each other's companion and go-to person and they've never known anything different. They're each other's constant. Hands down, witnessing the relationship between my son and daughter is the most extraordinary thing. There are moments every single day, even on the hardest days, when my twins will interact in ways that just burst your heart wide open. Some of the best moments come after bedtime when we can hear them just chatting and giggling to each other. Witnessing the love between the two of them is something I wouldn't trade for the world."

Follow along with Hannah on Instagram here. and here. ">: "I’ve been surprised how much love people have for twins. I'm an introvert and one thing I never expected was to be so frequently approached because I had twins. And to be frank, sometimes these encounters might be awkward. Like when someone insists that boy/girl twins can be identical. But for the most part, it really seems like people light up when they see twins. And it surprised me how happy it made me talk to others about my twins and how excited others were to interact with my kids. Also, I think I surprised myself with how well we've managed to cope with twins. We've been able to travel pretty frequently with our twins and they do great on plane rides and long car trips. Throughout the week we're constantly going places and exploring. It's harder and the logistics are more complicated, but I think I mentally prepared myself for being stuck in the house all the time, and that really hasn't been the case at all. And now that my twins are 4, I'm so surprised by how much I really really miss those newborn days. People constantly told me it would get easier with twins, but I personally thought the newborn days were fairly easy and only got more difficult as toddlerhood hit. Two toddlers who can run in opposite directions, was to me, much more anxiety-inducing and frustrating than those newborn days. I just welcomed a new baby boy into our family 11 weeks ago, so I'm getting to experience first hand how different it is to have a singleton vs. twins! And it is an absolute mental trip realizing how much easier it is with just one baby. I think we've been blessed with a particularly easy going baby, but it's been astounding to me the difference with one vs. two. Everything is just simpler. The logistics are easier. Only one baby to nurse instead of two. Only one baby to wear instead of two. When the baby cries, I can just go to the baby and not have to evaluate, who is crying harder? Whose needs are more pressing right this second? Those were some of the hardest moments I experienced with my twins was when I would have to shuffle back and forth between two crying babies, both needing you and you feel like you're failing both. Or those moments when a baby would fall asleep on my chest but I wouldn't even be able to enjoy it, because I'd have to set that baby down to tend to the other baby. I also feel like having gone through all this with twins the first time around, everything just seems so much more manageable in comparison. Perspective is everything and having twins as your first babies really gives you an amazing perspective!"
跟随汉娜在Instagram上在这里．和在这里．

: “在不孕两年多之后，我和丈夫决定在国内收养婴儿，以扩大我们的家庭。在进行家庭研究的时候，你会在一个列表上打勾，如果你对倍数开放的话。多年来，我丈夫一直取笑我，说我注定要生双胞胎，因为我在约会时给一对双胞胎男孩当保姆。到了打勾的时候，我们笑着开玩笑说，也许我终于能得到我们的双胞胎了!我们一点也不知道，在成为一个等待的家庭仅仅六天之后，我们就收到了关于早产双胞胎女孩的消息!我很吃惊。我感觉就像中了彩票。我们的女儿在31周出生，需要在新生儿重症监护室待一段时间。我们双胞胎的名字是哈莉·露丝和奎恩·露丝。我和丈夫决定问女儿的生母是否愿意给她们取中间名，她给她们取了我们喜欢的甜美、珍贵的中间名。”

Follow along with Katie on Instagram here.">: “生双胞胎有时确实很有挑战性，但总的来说，这是我生命中最棒的一次经历!”双胞胎有一种神奇的力量。在平常的日子里，当我看到他们互相嘲笑或玩耍的时候，我又一次感到我们是多么的幸福!如果你刚刚开始养育双胞胎，不要害怕!会有艰难的时刻，但会有更多精彩的时刻!我认为对我来说，做双胞胎妈妈最困难的部分就是失去了大多数妈妈和新生儿一对一的时间。作为一名养母，我知道肌肤相亲和大量一对一的时间对建立我们的关系是多么重要。在早期的日子里，我尽可能地裸着皮肤和穿着婴儿装，但当我不能同时抱着它们，或者当其中一个太挑剔而比另一个更受关注时，我会感到内疚。现在他们已经16个月大了，我毫无疑问地知道我们之间有很深的感情，但我还是有点为不能为他们每个人付出100%的自己而难过。”
跟随katie在Instagram上在这里．

: "I was overjoyed to see two little heartbeats on that first ultrasound! My husband, Dirk, and I had endured so many years of disappointments up until that point that we were ecstatic! My doctor’s office is a few blocks from Central Park in New York and I remember it was a bright, crisp, spring day and we took a long stroll through the park just to savor the moment. It felt like the whole city was shining with delight in our glorious news. But soon I realized I had so many fears. Truly too many to count. In fact, it got so bad toward the end of my pregnancy that I had to write down what was worrying me that day just to get to sleep. Then throw the paper out to release it. I spent so long trying to get pregnant that I had tons of time to try to optimize every single decision. Would my babies be premature and have to spend weeks in the NICU? Would I be able to breastfeed exclusively? Would the babies feel abandoned if I let them sleep in their nursery and not at my bedside? I even remember reaching out to one of my favorite bloggers for advice on finding the best organic preemie diapers! It makes me cringe now, especially since my babies never even needed preemie anything! They weighed 6lbs 9oz and 7lbs 1 oz at birth! But my biggest fear that I kept in the deepest, darkest place was that my precious little ones were not really here to stay. I had so much trauma in my journey to becoming a mother that two years later I still pinch myself that this is real. I am working on shifting those moments from fear to pure gratitude. I had always planned to go right back to work after having a child. But when I gave birth, I was overwhelmed by the tidal wave of relief and love I felt. I was blown away by the intense almost primal need to spend most of my time mothering Dean and Vivienne. My harrowing journey to motherhood coupled with giving birth to twins just left me a bit, I don’t know any other way to describe it but, unraveled or undone. At one point I thought I wanted to run off to the country with my babies to focus on the huge physical, emotional, and spiritual undertaking I had been given to guide these precious little ones. That was a complete surprise and completely out of character. That first year was intense. After our exceptional nanny started working with us, it took me a year to start working on part-time projects and it’s only now that Dean and Vivi are turning three in the fall, I feel ready to go back to work full time. I feel extremely lucky to even have a choice in the matter when too many mothers do not."

Follow along with Nerissa on Instagram here.">: "Take it a few weeks at a time. I am a planner at heart, but life, and especially babies, are unpredictable. So yes, follow the advice in the books that encourage you to establish a routine. That being said, don’t be afraid to break free every once and awhile. For instance, I had my heart set on breastfeeding exclusively. My son latched immediately and went to work bringing down the milk like a little worker bee. My daughter took almost a week to latch so we ended up supplementing with formula and she started nursing a few days later in her own time. To my surprise, there was no nipple confusion and the three of us got quite good at the rhythm of tandem breastfeeding during the day for a full year and used formula at night. After all of my rigid expectations and anxiety, it was actually a gift that I ended up giving them some formula because it allowed me to rest while my baby nurse (who I was very lucky to have) bottle fed during the night. This approach may not be right for everyone, but it was the healthiest option for me and my little ones. Be empowered to listen to your intuition. That experience is a gentle reminder to me to try my best not to judge other parents. You usually have no idea what they are dealing with! My parents live seven floors above us and my sister and her family live thirteen floors below us in the same building. I cannot imagine life without them. I also made friends with a group of twin moms in my neighborhood. I know that sounds daunting—figuring out motherhood, juggling two babies at once, and now making new friends?! But remember, they are just as eager to form authentic connections in this new life phase as you are. I made one friend after she spotted my husband at the farmers market with our double stroller and they arranged for us to meet on a blind date in the park! I spotted another friend’s double stroller at my pediatrician's office and introduced myself when I saw her a few weeks later. Between those chance encounters and a parent-child music class, we formed what one of the dads calls the 5&10 Club: Five moms and ten kids! They are my cherished circle of mamas and it is a privilege to travel this life-changing road with them."
在Instagram上关注妮莉莎吧在这里．

: “在所有诚实中，发现我有双胞胎让我陷入恐慌攻击差不多一个月。我长大的是一个相同的双胞胎，我的姐姐有兄弟双胞胎，所以我知道有可能拥有它们。When we decided to get pregnant again for the third and final time, and I went in for that first ultrasound, I asked the question I always did, ‘How many are there?’ The response, ‘One.’ It wasn’t until my second visit a month later that I was told there were two. I laughed because I thought it was a joke, but when I looked at the screen it was clear; there were two babies! I had so many fears because I knew how hard a single baby can be and all I could think was double everything! However, the way I’ve explained it to others is that before you even have one, you wonder how am I going to do this and weeks after the baby comes, you look around and say, ‘Wow, I’m doing it! I may be in a million pieces, but I’m doing it!’ It’s the same situation for me and the twins, ‘Holy crap, I’m doing this!’ I’ve been surprised by how many other moms there are of multiples! I guess I just wasn’t paying attention before. The community of mother’s raising twins/multiples has been such a good source of comfort for me when I’ve doubted myself. It has been so rewarding to look at these two identical human beings and think they are mine. I have been given them as a gift to raise them, to love each other and support each other. While I am early on in my journey of being a twin mom, my heart bursts when they turn in to each other to find each other. My hope is that they always look to the other and take care of each other.”

Follow along with Sara on Instagram here. ">: “我的父母总是对庆祝我和我的双胞胎兄弟之间的差异感到惊讶。作为同卵双胞胎，你总是被别人拿来和你的双胞胎兄弟比较，我敢肯定，这是出于好意。”但我知道我们真的是不同的，我意识到我可能在某一方面不如我的双胞胎兄弟，但还有其他方面造就了今天的我。我也会向她保证，如果她对生双胞胎有任何不确定和/或恐惧，那都是迟早的事。我们最终都又睡了一觉，然后从房子里的洞穴里出来。我觉得我还是弄清楚这双胞胎的事但一条建议我之前他们来了,现在在这里,如果有年长的兄弟姐妹,有一个计划来让他们的房子一点每一天,即使它不是和你在一起。这样你就可以在婴儿午睡的时候尝试午睡，而你的大一点的孩子也不会发疯。”
跟随Instagram上的Sara在这里．

: “当我们发现自己怀了双胞胎时，我们非常震惊!这是特别有趣的，因为在试管受精期间，医生问我们是否想转移一个或两个胚胎。我们笑着回答说:“只有一个!”我们可不想冒生双胞胎的风险!“还有，惊喜!”胚胎分裂了，我们发现我们生的是同卵双胞胎!我们说“哦，该死!”的时刻。但是，在最初的震惊平息之后，我们很兴奋!至于我们的受孕，我们做了试管受精，珍妮丝是“捐赠的卵子”，布兰迪怀孕并成为生母。故事中另一个具有讽刺意味的部分是，布兰迪有一对同卵双胞胎兄弟，他们比她小两岁，所以她从小就和双胞胎一起长大。我(布兰迪)因为双胞胎怀孕而非常害怕剖腹产。 It consumed my thoughts when I first found out that I was having twins. I had hoped for a pregnancy with little to no monitoring and dreamt of a birth with no interventions and in a birthing center. Suddenly, I was at the hospital once a week being monitored by an MFM (Maternal-Fetal Medicine) Specialist. This became even more intense when we found out that our daughters had unequal placenta share. It was a scary time, with our little one's fate being uncertain, but we felt that we were in wonderful hands at UCSF in San Francisco, where teams of doctors specialized in this particular type of twin pregnancy. That being said, around the 34-week mark we found out our little one had stopped growing and this mama developed preeclampsia. It was time to get those babies out! With the help of a doula, my own spiritual work leading up to the birth, and the amazing team at UCSF, I was able to have a birth that was better than I imagined. I felt empowered and supported! I wouldn't have wished for anything else. I (Janice) was worried about the financial stresses of having twins. But I realize now, especially in the early years, it's not about how much money you make or how much you have. It's about the time you spend with them and the moments you share. You really find a way to make due with what you have. I did realize that we would need a bigger car!"

Follow along with Brandi and Janice on Instagram here and here.">: “女孩是相同的，但我们说'相同，但不相同。'因为凤凰较小，他们看起来不太相同。他们刚刚开始互相玩，这真是太可爱了。我们有时会在他们应该小睡时听到他们在房间里咯咯地笑。我们也看到了他们的方法当一个人哭泣时，彼此照顾，另一个会来给她一个傻瓜或背部摩擦。或者如果一个人在超时，她的妹妹会试图拯救她。因为他们彼此都有他们所有的生命，他们是如此慷慨和善于分享。依偎着一个婴儿是如此可爱，但能够立即依偎两个婴儿是如此特殊的礼物。和哈利埃哈，他们开始互相娱乐！我们也觉得我们也觉得我们twins already makes our family feel complete. Like we have our own little gang. And everyone ALWAYS wants to say something. You can barely walk down the street without being stopped twenty times. We call it the ‘Baby Circus.' Now that we have our twins girls, we couldn't picture it any other way. It's super important to try to get them on the same schedule. If one wakes, just wake the other one up or you'd be never resting.That whole 'never wake a sleeping baby' goes out the window with twins. Pretty much anything that works for a singleton parent goes out the window. Our girls were sleep trained at 7 months, we really wish we would have started earlier. Once they got used to it, it was the best thing for all four of us. They now sleep 10-12 hours a night at 17 months. When you're planning to leave the house, give yourself way more time than you expect. And it may feel daunting to get out of the house with twins, but encourage yourself to go. This is your new normal, and eventually, you'll get into a flow and it'll be a breeze. Take a deep breath. You're going to be okay. Be easy on yourself. All the magic moments that twins share by far makeup for the difficult ones. When people offer to help, take FULL advantage. Get them to watch the babies and so you can take a nap. The first three months are a whirlwind. Cash in on any support you can."
在Instagram上与Brandi和Janice一起跟随在这里和在这里．

: “在12周的扫描中，当我们发现自己怀了一对双胞胎时，我们完全震惊了。现在回想起来，我觉得有明显的迹象表明我怀了两个孩子。我的肚子长得很快，我的病也很严重。我家里有3对双胞胎，所以我生双胞胎的几率更高，也许我们应该预料到这一点。我认为当你怀孕时，你总是会有恐惧，但当你怀双胞胎时，这种恐惧会加剧，因为他们认为你“风险很高”。我很担心孩子们会来得早，需要特别照顾。不幸的是，32周时我的羊水破了，我的恐惧变成了现实。幸运的是，两个女孩都没事，她们只需要在特别护理中心呆两周。我的一个双胞胎患有唐氏综合症，直到她出生我们才知道，所以在过去的几个月里我们遇到了额外的挑战。但看到两个女孩都达到了人生的里程碑，茁壮成长，早上笑容灿烂，这是最有意义的事情。 The girls are DI-DI twins, which means there were two placentas and two sacks. They are fraternal twins. Harper has a mass of dark brown hair while Quinn has blonde fuzz. They are starting to show more interest in each other now, at five months old. They coo at each other and reach out holding hands all the time. It’s very cute to watch."

Follow along with Nicola on Instagram here.">: “我觉得最让我惊讶的是，尽管工作很辛苦，每天工作很长时间，但我真的很好。我以为同时照顾两个孩子会很困难，但你会学到非常有用的技巧和技巧，比如如何同时抱着和喂养两个孩子。当你有双胞胎的时候，你出去的时候会得到很多关注，这一开始让我很紧张，但我已经学会接受这一点，顺其自然，当你有双胞胎的时候，没有哪两天是一样的。我有一个四岁的儿子，但两个女儿出生时他才三岁。这对他来说肯定很难，因为他已经习惯了我所有的注意力。生双胞胎比生一个要困难得多，需要更多的计划。在超市买双购物车可能很困难。你会花更多的时间做一些基本的事情，比如喂食和改变，而花更少的时间去上课和参加小组活动。尽管现在女孩们长大了，也有了更稳定的作息，但这变得更容易了。”
跟随Instagram上的Nicola在这里．

: “最奇怪的是，当我发现自己怀了双胞胎时，我竟然一点也不惊讶。我丈夫和我说，从我发现自己怀孕的那一刻起，我就有了第六感。我们家没有双胞胎，但不知为什么，我有种感觉;这是我第一次怀上大女儿时没有的感觉。严格来说，我丈夫是第一个发现的，当时我躺在妇产科医生的桌子上，屏幕正对着他。我们以前做过一次，所以当医生看着他说，‘你看到的是我看到的吗?“我就是知道。我想我们首先想到的是，‘波特兰或西雅图，我们来了!我们知道，我们不会住在旧金山的一套公寓里。我对一切都感到恐惧:分娩、母乳喂养、与大女儿的关系，当然还有我们的财务状况。我想知道我所知道的生活是否会永远结束，我确实经历了强烈的哀悼期。有些事情比我担心的要顺利得多，比如分娩，但有些事情很有挑战性。 I never planned on having three children, so the last couple of years have really challenged me to reimagine who I am as a person and what my future looks like. It's been a period of intense personal growth and a lot of exhaustion. I can't say that I know all the answers and that my fears have all been eliminated. But I can say that my life feels richer than it was before. My relationship with my husband is stronger. The lesson has been that you can adapt, and there is lots of magic to be found. My fear of not being able to love these two people fiercely and equally as much as I love my older daughter definitely dissipated immediately after they were born."

Follow along with Kasey here and on Instagram here. ">: “我们有男孩/女孩双胞胎：诺亚和米拉。当他们出生时，诺亚是小小的（米拉得到了更好的胎盘！）。从一天开始他们是独特的小人：诺亚是恶作剧，但也是超级平静，而且米拉真的很响亮和自以为是，她是泡沫和老板。但他更加社交，而且他们的关系是他们的关系，他们真的是最神奇的事情之一：他们真的和真正相互照顾。他们会自发地牵手，并给予彼此的小吃。当一个人哭泣时，另一个往往会提供舒适。他们就像一个古老的已婚夫妇！我认为这只是刺激他们令人难以置信的经历，我永远不会完全理解，因为我我是一个独生子女。知道我们无意中向他们并排的生活生活的奖励是有益的。我们也有很多次我们令人难以置信的不堪重负，我们失去了我们的脾气，或者我们觉得我们永远不会休息/再次睡觉，但随后我们做了一个巨大的“家庭堆”和所有的感觉在世界上。双胞胎有很多爱，但一次拿一天。此外，自我保健至关重要：弄清楚你的支持网络看起来像什么，并确保优先考虑自己，以及与您的伴侣的关系。我的儿科医生告诉我，一个快乐的妈妈=一个快乐的孩子。每当我发现自己被困在内疚循环中，我会尝试提醒自己。请记住，所有的感受都有效和正常。承认他们！“
跟着凯西走在这里和Instagram在这里．

: “当我和丈夫谈到组建家庭时，我们只打算要一个孩子。作为一个三口之家，我们仍然可以抚养孩子，维持一种生活方式，我们仍然可以旅行，享受美味的晚餐，享受一些“一些”。所以，我们买了房子，SUV，甚至一个自行车架，就是为了这个。当我们发现自己怀了双胞胎时，感觉就像要和那种舒适的生活方式说再见了。噢,该死!我们怎么付他们的学费?老实说，那种恐惧仍然笼罩着我。然而，从一开始，我们就启动了一个注册教育储蓄计划，我们从生日和圣诞节得到的现金礼物都被收起来了，我在博客和社交媒体上所做的工作也间接地成为了额外的奖励。我祈祷其中一个或两个都能得到奖学金。”

Follow along with Sunshine here and on Instagram here. ">: “买孩子用的东西时，买一些孩子用过的东西，你的婴儿登记表应该主要是尿布，找一辆你真正喜欢的双人婴儿车。”说到你自己，我发现和其他双胞胎妈妈交流真的很有帮助。我加入在线论坛，阅读博客，这些都给了我很多支持。继续“妈妈和我”的约会，让他们主导。对于双胞胎来说，很容易养成一种习惯，只做一件事，并希望他们都喜欢它。妈妈和我的约会对象让我听到一个声音，给我全部的注意力。麦克斯韦和布兰登之间的关系绝对牢不可破。他们非常想保护彼此。有时很难约束他们。一个人可能哭得泪流满面我会转过头去看另一个人，他的眼睛里噙满了泪水然后我开始哭，然后我们开始集体拥抱。 While other times, one is getting in trouble and the other guy comes in to mediate, but really he's just taking his brother's side."
跟随阳光在这里和Instagram在这里．

: "My boys are fraternal. They are super different from one another in appearance and personality, but they enjoy each other so much. They often spend the first half of ‘naptime’ cracking up and passing pacifiers back and forth between the crib rails. They hold hands while nursing sometimes, and it pretty much breaks my heart, it’s so sweet. For me, the best part of being a twin mom is witnessing their relationship with one another grow and watching as their distinct and completely unique identities and interests form. My boys are so different from one another already. They delight in different skills, different toys, and different books. They often find humor in very different things. They are both cuddly, but at different times and in different ways. While they eat the same foods, they make their distinct preferences known. They live a very shared life, but already showcase their sweet independent natures. It’s just such a joy to watch them grow into their unique selves side-by-side. One of the the most challenging differences in raising twins versus a singleton is not having the same amount of dedicated one-on-one time. With my daughter it was just she and I for over a year and half, so we had a lot of intentional bonding time. The early months with twins are consumed with a lot of demanding care-providing and learning how to keep two (and in our case, three) tiny humans alive. It took me longer to get to know them and bond on a one-on-one level. It has certainly made me cherish the rare times that I get either of the boys alone and also made me certain that I want to prioritize individualized time with each of my children as they grow. I always want them to feel like they are seen and loved and known as unique individuals."

Follow along with Bethany on Instagram here.">: “我的丈夫，女儿，我住在布鲁克林，并认为我们要在那里生活在那里的长期。当我们发现我们期待双胞胎时，它立即抛出了人生计划。我们可以真正筹集三个辣妹两个在纽约没有更多的家庭支持？最终，我们决定搬到费城更靠近家庭，所以有很多生活就会发生变化。这对我来说是情感上的。虽然肯定是兴奋的兴趣。虽然肯定是兴奋，但我肯定是兴奋的。虽然绝对兴奋，但我肯定是兴奋的。虽然绝对兴奋，但我肯定是兴奋的。虽然肯定是兴奋，但我肯定是兴奋的。虽然肯定是兴奋，但我肯定是兴奋的。虽然虽然绝对兴奋，但我肯定是兴奋的。虽然我肯定是兴奋的兴趣。虽然肯定是兴奋的兴趣，我also felt quite overwhelmed! I had a lot of fear about how I was going to be able to handle all three babies. My daughter was not yet two years old when the boys were born, so that’s a lot of needy humans and a lot of diapers! While it has definitely been the hardest year of my life, I also learned that I am capable of so much more than I would have predicted. And I am continually learning to find and inhabit joy even amidst hard seasons because there has certainly been a lot of joy and beauty in this year as well. I know some women who were immediately ecstatic to find out they were having twins and I think that is an incredible blessing, but on the off chance you feel overwhelmed or scared, or less than thrilled, I’d say it is absolutely okay and valid to feel that way. And those feelings have no bearing on how much you are going to love your tiny humans! It’s hard, but you can do hard things, mama. Don’t be afraid to express your anxieties with your partner and friends honestly. In fact, it’s a must. There will be tough days, but it truly does get easier and there is an immeasurable joy seeing these two lives interact with one another and develop into their own unique selves! It’s a wild, but truly beautiful ride. Accept and ask for help! And I’d definitely recommend finding a support network of other women who can relate or who will make space to hold your fears and joys alike."
在Instagram上与Bethany一起跟随在这里．

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