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What does self-care mean to you?
"Self-care means to me, taking space. Has it become more important now that I have children? Yes, absolutely. If I'm not good to myself I'm no good for anyone."

What forms of free self-care do you perform regularly?
"Eating, and making myself a really good meal. Not just thrown together stuff that a lot of times moms do. But really sitting and taking time. And I wait for all the kids to be out of the house so they're not coming over, 'Mommy can I have some?' 'No you can not. My meal.' Taking time to really prepare myself a really good and intentional meal. That's free."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"I’d go to Huntington Gardens in Pasadena. It's like my special place. And if I had two to three hours, I would just go there and walk around and drink tea. I don't know, just sit down and listen to birds, just be present."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"I think I would spend an hour watching T.V. I think I just need to veg and like just let my body just kind of go numb. And then the other hour I think I would probably go to the mall and get a massage. Or got to a hot yoga class with my husband—something to take care of myself or nurture my relationship with my husband."

What does self-care mean to you?
"Oh, it's become so much more important, but it's also changed. I think before I had Julian, self-care was this 10-step Korean skincare routine that I did every single night, and I never really anticipated that that would just go out the window along with a lot of other little rituals that I developed. And now, self-care is kindness. It's space and kindness and quiet. Even just driving here without Julian, I was like, 'Let's not have any music on in the car. Let's just be quiet.' Yes, it changes drastically. I still would love to go to the Korean spa and do my whole routine, but right now it's just about space and quiet and kindness."

What does self-care mean to you?
"It means being aggressive about creating space for the things that truly nourish you and bring you pleasure."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"Go see the super bloom! There is nothing I love more than a road trip and field full of flowers!"

What does self-care mean to you?
"I’ve realized being happy is the most important thing ever as a mother. My two-year-old will randomly ask me as I’m feeding him, 'Are you happy?' and it’s such a pivotal, full-circle moment for me, because I vividly remember feeding my first child at two weeks old and not getting any sort of reaction from her and I thought to myself, is she happy? That question was everything to me as I held my tiny creation. Happiness is the core of all the things and expressing to ourselves and each other that level of happiness is just as important. Self-care is so important but also acknowledging its importance and sharing the value of it with our children is everything."

What does self-care mean to you?
"That's a great question. Self-care means to me putting myself first before everything and everyone else, so taking that time to brush my teeth before I brush everyone else's teeth. Just like when you're on a flight and there may be a disaster, putting on your face mask first before the others, I'm really trying to be literal about that. But self-care can also mean after the kids have went to bed, watching really shitty reality T.V. and letting my brain dump everything from the day. Sometimes that's the most wonderful moment, me and my husband just sitting there laughing at Vanderpump Rules and we're like, 'You know what, that gave us a glimpse of pre-baby life and we're ready to start the next day.'"

If you had 2–3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
Katherine: "Two to three?! I have an almost one year old, so that just doesn't sound real. Take a bath, read a book, kind of organize...things for myself that I have wanted to do. I don't really know. Two to three hours by myself...."

What does self-care mean to you?
"I think self-care means finding the time for myself and in the few short months I've been a mother. It's always been important to me, but I think the time...finding the time to do it is what has become challenging since I've become a mother. But it's definitely something that I've always valued, but it feels more precious now."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"I would either do hot yoga, I would go for a walk on the beach, or I'd write."

What does self-care mean to you?
"It's kind of like what they tell you on an airplane. 'Put your mask on first before you put a child's mask on.' I never quite understood that until now. It's really hard to give when your cup is empty. So for me, it's not about always filling my cup but just noticing where my cup is. Like how full is it? Or what point in my cup do I feel like I just can't take anymore? So knowing my limits and boundaries. For me, this year especially, a huge part of self-care has been boundaries and saying the word no. Yeah, literally RSVPing 'no' is a form of self-care."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"Two to three hours. That's a good amount of time. I would meditate. I would pray. It's such a trip, being a mom. Realistically, I would do laundry, I would get the clothes out for tomorrow, and pack lunches."

What does self-care mean to you?
"I think self-care is just making the time for yourself, and it could be as simple as jumping on a phone call with your best friend or it could be as luxurious as getting a massage or a mani-pedi. But it's just really not forgetting about yourself. You can be pulled in so many different directions and you're the only one who's going to prioritize you. And if you don't protect that time, it goes away."

What does self-care mean to you?
"For me, I think self-care is just having some time to myself, even if I'm not really doing anything much."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"Just like putting on a record and lighting a candle or reading or something is what I would normally do."

What does self-care mean to you?
"Self-care is about tuning in and listening to the intricacies of what my mind, body, and soul are communicating and responding accordingly. I think it is always important to practice self-care, but as a mother you have so much more to give when your own cup is full."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"Let's see... it's a tough one. There's the trash version of what I would do, and then the aspirational version of what I would do. Trash is ordering indulgent sushi rolls on the couch and watching Grey's Anatomy or something super mindless and probably having one to two cocktails on the couch. Then the other version of me is to go on a really nice walk in the sunshine and see a friend that I haven't seen in a while...and get a blowout."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"I do have 2-3 hours free to myself most weeks because I communicate to my partner how important it is. I usually spend this time connecting with other women, which I have found to be a huge piece to my happiness puzzle."

What forms of free self-care do you perform regularly?
"Baths are my free form of self-care. I indulge in baths nearly every day to calm my mind and relax my body. On really luxurious days, I wash my hair, which is usually twice a week."

What forms of free self-care do you perform regularly?
"I regularly sing kundalini mantras. The music found me following the passing of my best friend and mother. It softened and cradled my heart during a time when I needed the most amount of care. Singing brings a cool vibration and harmony to my body, like a halo around me. I sing in the morning as a part of my meditation and at the end of all the days I care for families and their sweet babies. "

What does self-care mean to you?
"Self-care means mental, psychical, and emotional support for oneself. I’m realizing it’s the most important thing ever. If you’re not feeling your best, your family will see and feel it. In order for you to show up for your family you need to show up for yourself first."

What does self-care mean to you?
"Self-care for me is mental health. I feel like it's become more important. Prior to having children, I was okay with giving so much of myself—like talking to my friends till 2 a.m., and just taking on everyone else's problems and issues—and not really focusing on how I felt, and what made me feel good. And I think now that I've become a mother, just making sure that I'm creating boundaries with people and not giving so much of myself that I don't have any to give to my own issues and my own feelings."

What forms of free self-care do you perform regularly?
"Every time I cook dinner, I turn on the music really loud and dance my ass off and the girls join in. We have so much fun and it’s basically a giant dance party."

If you had 2-3 hours free to yourself, what would you do with it?
"Taking time to go to a spa would be an amazing way to spend a few free hours! When I was around 20 weeks pregnant, I started getting a lymphatic drainage massage almost weekly, and I’ve continued this as part of my postpartum recovery. I couldn’t recommend it more! Though doing something as simple and relaxing as reading a book or making time for a nap can also be incredibly restorative."