Rheanna马丁内斯认为没有更好的方法来弄清楚你喜欢的东西而不是给它一个尝试。当她决定在华盛顿D.C的政治和生活中交易职业生涯时，她怀孕了五个月的怀孕。在湾区的技术初创公司（OG照片过滤器应用程序），Hipstamatic)——这一职业转变最终让她获得了目前Facebook全球品牌经理的职位。为了寻找一个完美的社区来抚养女儿，她在工业发达的西奥克兰(West Oakland)和圣路易斯奥比斯波(San Luis Obispo)工作了一段时间，然后在旧金山的教会区(Mission District)找到了合适的地方。同样地，她和孩子的父亲尝试了各种各样的伙伴关系，直到他们五岁的女儿帕洛玛(Paloma)早熟(而且非常上镜)，成为成功的共同父母。当蕾安娜邀请我们去她多彩的、舒适的城市公寓，谈论尝试新事物、在科技行业工作，以及作为一个单身母亲如何工作时，阅读所有相关内容。
S.F. Mama Rheanna Martinez谈共同养育，在科技工作等等
下午一点
02/12/19
拍摄者奥布里挑选
单击任何图像以进入幻灯片
-
- “我在圣路易斯奥比斯波的中央海岸生活了大约一年半。虽然我喜欢那里的田园诗般的生活，但我几乎每个周末都回到城市，总是让我的心脏回来the time was right. One day I got a call from Paloma’s former nanny that there was a for-rent sign in a window across the street—this was on a block that my daughter basically grew up on. I drove up that weekend to see the place. It needed serious work; it was a bare bones apartment with cobwebs and appliances that didn’t work. But it had two bedrooms, a backyard, and lots of potential. I immediately signed, mostly because the block always felt like home. When I actually got the keys, I thought I was crazy. The place needed so much work. But we’ve been here a little over a year and I see no reason to leave anytime soon."
-
The Paloma teeter totter, plants from Léon and George, and sofa by IKEA. ">
-
“波希米亚，女性化，有点亲密，异想天开。”
的帕洛玛步履蹒跚踉跄,植物从莱昂和乔治，沙发旁宜家．
-
brother did. As much as I could, as a renter. But he’s incredible; he drove up from L.A. to build me a custom kitchen and then changed all the lighting. Before him, my kitchen was nothing—just an open room with a refrigerator and an oddly placed stove. I’d love to knock down a few walls and change the doors to bring in more sunlight, but again, I’m a renter."
Rheanna wears a Mara Hoffman dress. Paloma wears a Cat & Jack jumper. ">
-
“我的哥哥所做的。作为一个租客，我尽可能多地租。但他的令人难以置信的;他从洛杉矶开车过来给我建了个定制厨房，还换了所有的照明设备。在他之前，我的厨房什么都不是——只是一个开着门的房间，有一个冰箱和一个摆放奇怪的炉子。我很想推倒几堵墙，换扇门，让更多的阳光进来，但我还是要租房子。”
Rheanna戴着玛拉·霍夫曼帕洛玛穿着一件连衣裙猫和杰克跳线。
-
brother and my mother, as well as small memorable items from travels and experiences. I really cherish the things I buy. I rarely buy things online just because I usually look for things I love, and keep things that have good memories associated."">
- “我找了让我感到快乐的原因，是什么让我带来了一些快乐。我有很多由我制作的碎片哥哥还有我的母亲，以及旅行和经历中值得纪念的小物件。我真的很珍惜我买的东西。我很少在网上购物，因为我通常会寻找我喜欢的东西，并把那些有美好回忆的东西联系起来。”
-
Jaxon Northon that will go up soon. Until then, it’s light and airy—the kind of room you want to nap in on a sunny day with a slight breeze."">
- “考虑到它能得到最多的阳光，这绝对是房子里最好的房间。太喜欢了，我好几次都想把它变成我的卧室。老实说，没有多少远见。我的沙发装不下前门和狭窄的走廊，所以我找了一个临时的小一点的沙发。我喜欢粉红色的。我也喜欢绿色，所以我开始用植物、窗帘和枕头把它融入房间。在一次良好的治疗后，我立即买了大的蓬松的羊毛地毯。我醒来后完全不记得买过它。天花板很高，我还没找到适合这些墙壁的艺术品。但我要为我和帕洛玛定制一幅肖像Jaxon Northon价格很快就会上涨。在那之前，它是明亮和通风的——那种你想在阳光明媚、微风拂面的日子里睡在里面的房间。”
-
- 混乱漂亮，玩具像这样。
-
Paloma teeter totter of course. This is the original; the first one that my brother Derek made for Paloma as a surprise Christmas present. I’m also in love with these amazingly plush and down-filled apple-colored pillows. The plants—many of them are from Léon and George. The one piece of art on the wall was done by Paloma. The Acapulco chair next to the window is my favorite place to sit and read."">
- “帕洛玛步履蹒跚踉跄当然。这是我哥哥德里克为帕洛玛做的第一个惊喜圣诞礼物。我也很喜欢这些令人惊讶的毛绒绒苹果色枕头。它们中的许多都是来自植物莱昂和乔治．墙上的一件艺术品是帕洛玛做的。窗边的阿卡普尔科椅是我最喜欢坐下来读书的地方。”
-
- “我尽量把帕洛玛的大部分东西都放在她的空间里，但我们在一些房间里拿出了她最喜欢的东西。这样做也有助于教导组织和每样东西在家里都有一席之地。我哥哥为她建了一个创意角落，所以她觉得在公共区域的中央，她仍然可以拥有自己的特殊空间和一些她最喜欢的东西。”
-
- 客厅shelfie。
-
brother made her bed. My mom made her tent. I really want her room to feel like a fun place to play, and a happy and comforting place to sleep."">
- “她的房间绝对是房子的异想天开的房间。墙壁充满了她的艺术品，她喜欢重新安排她的配饰，毛绒动物和娃娃。她爸爸和我总是在旅行时试图拿起一个新的手工制作娃娃到一个新的国家。她的架子上的大多数书都有来自朋友和家人的手写的笔记。她的床上用品和POM POMS都来自Sayulita。我的哥哥制作床。我的妈妈让她的帐篷。我真的希望她的房间感觉像一个有趣的地方玩耍，以及睡觉的愉快和安慰的地方。“
-
Rheanna wears a white linen dress from Mexico. Paloma wears a 2-piece from The Dopple and an Ultra Violet Kids turban. ">
-
“我喜欢看着她成长，学习，理解她周围的世界。我认为这是完全迷人和惊人的。我喜欢她紧紧握住我的手，抬头看着我，告诉我她爱我——这种爱无与伦比。我真的很荣幸能成为她的母亲，并支持她成为一个了不起的女人。”
Rheanna穿着墨西哥的白色亚麻布。帕洛马佩戴2片的个例和一个紫外线儿童头巾。
-
- “我希望她长大后能有同情心和善良。这很难教。你能做的最好的事情就是以身作则，并在前进的过程中带着人生的教训。”
-
- “百乐满阿米娜。我们已经有五天没有她的名字了。在住院期间的某个时候，我想起了她出生时播放的那首歌，不知什么原因，我决定查一下歌词。那是一首小龙的歌《雨后》。在这首歌里，她唱了上千只鸽子飞过漆黑的夜空。鸽子鸽子。这也是一个我们都认为是首选的名字。在那一刻，我们决定给她起名叫帕洛玛。她的中间名是以她祖母的名字命名的，阿米娜·瓦杜德，她是一位令人难以置信的鼓舞人心的哲学家和女权主义者。这也是一个阿拉伯名字，意思是值得信赖。”
-
- 帕洛玛今年五岁(如果你问她，她是五岁半)。她非常外向，喜欢骑着她的滑板车探索这座城市，和我们遇到的每个人聊天。她通常会在周六去附近她最喜欢的商店，在公园里玩。我们经常去打迷你高尔夫球或滑冰。在家里，我们讲很多故事，玩棋盘游戏，开茶会，烤蛋糕，读章节书。我家里没有电视，这让我有更多时间发挥创造力，也让我们有更多时间在一起。”
-
- “她怀孕对我们来说是个惊喜，所以我们决定知道孩子的性别，因为我们说我们不需要更多的惊喜了。但我不记得我有多在乎。现在我有了一个女儿，我不想有其他方式。我们之间的关系很特别。我很高兴能把她培养成一个相信自己无所不能的女性。”
-
- "I'm not sure. When I was younger, I was incredibly ambitious and focused on my career. I think I always knew I would be a mother, but I wasn’t anxiously waiting or planning. When I became pregnant, I instantly knew and felt that I was ready."
-
- “帕洛玛怀孕是个意外。我当时在避孕。但我们刚刚获得了养父母的许可，所以我觉得整个世界都认为我们准备好了。我怀孕的感觉真的很好。以至于我觉得谈论这件事很内疚，因为我不想让其他女人觉得那是每个人的真实生活。我只是觉得很幸运，在任何时候我都没有任何并发症，晨吐或不适。我仍然在举办活动，在怀孕八个月的时候还穿着高跟鞋。我甚至还在一家夜总会卖酒，工作了五个月。作为一个孕妇，我感觉自己是如此的性感和自信。但是，这通常不是真实的生活。 Her birth became complicated quickly. We were planning for a natural birth but her heart rate kept dropping, and even more so with each contraction. And then mine did the same. I think I briefly lost consciousness. I remember the nurses joking early on that everything was okay until five or more of them ran into the room. And then that happened. There were no operating rooms available, and I remember everyone trying to make fast action plans. I ended up having a very emergency c-section and discovered that she had the cord around her neck three times. Everything was okay in the end, and I don't remember being worried—but that was quite traumatic for Paloma's dad."
-
- 帕洛玛的梦幻床兼做攀爬架。
-
Hipstamatic. When I had Paloma, I was fortunate enough to be able to take it easy and work as I needed and wanted because I worked with friends. I ended up working with a newborn, but it's because I felt supported to make my own choices and I really enjoyed what I was doing."">
- “我没有。当我怀孕五个月的时候，我辞掉了在华盛顿的工作，搬到了加州。我决定和我的朋友们开始做自由职业者，他们是我的老板Hipstamatic．当我有帕洛玛的时候，我很幸运能够放松下来，按照我需要和想要的去工作，因为我和朋友们一起工作。我最终和一个新生儿一起工作，但这是因为我觉得有人支持我做出自己的选择，我真的很喜欢我所做的事情。”
-
Rheanna wears a Proenza Schouler skirt and Minkpink top. Paloma wears a dress from the Dopple and Baby Cats of California pants. ">
-
厨房是一个大的开放式房间，炉子和冰箱摆放得很奇怪。没有架子或橱柜。我告诉我哥哥，我想把它变成一个休闲的公共空间，中间有一个高顶，方便人们聚集，在这里我可以做饭，同时也可以娱乐人们。他画出了空间的草图，做了一些定制的作品，带着材料从洛杉矶开车过来，一天之内就为我完成了这个。我大部分时间都呆在这个房间里，后门经常开着，引入自然光，还有邻居们浪漫的西班牙音乐。”
Rheanna戴着普罗恩裙子和Minkpink上面。帕洛玛穿着一条来自少和加利福尼亚州的婴儿猫裤子。
-
Paloma teeter totter in exchange for the wood, with a guy named Happy from South Central L.A. I have several ceramic bowls that my mother made. I really love the photos on my fridge."">
- “有很多我喜欢的小细节。如果你看一下木制品，你会发现木头的切割和摆放方式都有独特的、有意为之的细节。他告诉我他换了帕洛玛步履蹒跚踉跄和一个叫Happy的人交换木材我有几个我妈妈做的陶瓷碗。我真的很喜欢冰箱上的照片。”
-
- “虽然说‘单身母亲’很容易，但我想澄清的是，我也是一个共同抚养孩子的母亲。帕洛玛的爸爸和我仍然很亲密，我们的共同养育关系非常好。我们每天都交谈，我们彼此有灵活的时间安排，我们尽可能地互相支持。但作为唯一一个管理家庭的父母无疑是很有挑战性的。你不能指望别人帮你收拾残局。我常说,我做饭,清洁,管理家庭,把我女儿上下学,出现在所有的父母和学校活动和孩子聚会,同时,工作非常要求全职工作,有时需要很晚,早期的早晨。如果最后一分钟发生了什么事情，我必须找一个快速的保姆或打电话给家人和朋友帮忙。在任何事情上，我都没有家庭伴侣的支持。所有的重活都是我一个人做的。然而，什么发生了最大的变化? Figuring out how to do it all by myself. Balancing my schedule and knowing that I’ll likely have a mini side-kick in anything and everything I do—even going out for dinners with friends."
-
- “不是变得不知所措。做每件事都很困难，这很容易让人沉迷其中。一旦你让自己感到不知所措，它就会越来越多。我更喜欢一次做一件事，而不是让作为一个单亲母亲的日常责任消耗我。有时候你想要另一个成年人依靠，这时候最好有亲密的朋友给你打个电话。”
-
- 快乐的露营者。
-
- “我们的关系非常友好、相互尊重和合作。我们意识到，虽然我们没有在一起，但我们仍然永远在一起。我们几乎每天都聊天。我们分享帕洛玛的最新情况。我们计划一起参加学校的活动和活动。我们彼此之间的时间安排很灵活，我们真诚地沟通，以确保彼此在任何事情上都感到被倾听和尊重。我很感激能和他一起抚养一个女儿。”
-
- “她才两岁半，还太小，不能真正讨论正在发生的事情。我特意讲了爸爸妈妈住在不同的房子里，但仍然彼此爱着对方。因为我们所做的。第一年对我们所有人来说都很困难。她很多个晚上都哭着找爸爸。很多个晚上她都陪着他哭着找妈妈。她不明白为什么我们不住在一起，经常让我们住在同一栋房子里。这对我来说真的很难。因为这件事，我崩溃了很多次，看到她有多痛苦，我想知道这是不是一个正确的决定。在某种程度上，我决定和她更坦率、更诚实地交谈。 I would tell her that daddy and mommy didn’t live together because we weren’t as happy living together—that we had separate houses, and that made us happier and more loving. We also told her that she could go to either one whenever she wanted. I made a calendar for her to visually see dad days and mom days. It didn’t help that I lived hours away from her dad, making it more difficult to jump in the car and see each other on a whim. We actually had to schedule it out and stick to it. There were a lot of late night phone calls and FaceTimes. Lots of late nights spent with her crying on the phone. She understands now, but we still talk about it often. She is more understanding of the reality of us not being happy living together, and she likes to talk about having two houses. But she asks us to do things together as a family, and she still asks if we can all live in the same house together. It’s definitely hard. I wonder at what point will she accept that this is the way it is, or if she'll continue asking and hoping."
-
- “我从来没有想过这个问题。我脑海中没有电影或书籍。我们决定自己尝试进行艰难的对话，而不寻求外部资源的帮助。也许我们应该这么做!现在，我可以看到这些对话在学校更经常发生。她的学校真的很棒，一直在谈论不同类型的家庭。”
-
- “我很灵活。我没有严格的日程安排。我不遵循任何育儿方式或书籍。我相信自己的直觉，并尝试在我们所做的一切中传授价值观。我认为这一切都有助于我生活得更自由，更随波逐流，让我成为一名家长。我还认为这教会了我女儿的韧性。”
-
- “我的parents divorced when I was four. I spent weekdays with my mom and weekends with my dad. On the weekends, I’d spend some time at the office with my dad but we’d also try to do as many fun things as possible. He moved to California when I was younger. Meanwhile, my mom struggled. She worked hard so that we didn’t have to know just how hard she was working. She cleaned houses by day and worked in a bar at night. There were times when we didn’t have much food to eat and we’d go to the local church to pick up a bag of canned goods. I remember the electricity going off, and storing food in the snow outside. I definitely spent my summers cleaning very wealthy houses with her. I was in charge of the glass and dusting. But once I was done, I’d play their grand pianos and read books. My upbringing has certainly shaped much of my perspective in life—my work ethic, gratitude, and empathy. I'm very fortunate to be where I am, and I feel incredibly privileged now. But it is interesting dichotomy from where I've been. I often find myself far more comfortable talking to our kitchen and cleaning crew at work than I do my colleagues."
-
- “过一天算一天。提醒自己，你是不可思议的，你可以做到。你要生一个人类了。这本身就非常非常了不起。给自己一点时间是可以的，这是你应得的。可以试试书上的小贴士。盯着你的孩子，沉浸在爱的喜悦中，想要扔掉所有育儿书籍，做你认为正确的事，这也是可以的。”
-
- “在这次面试中，我有很多建议。如果可能的话，与另一位家长保持友好和尊重的关系。经常交流关于你自己，你在共同养育过程中的需求，以及你们在孩子的成长和发展中注意到什么和情感需求。但你也要知道，你无法控制另一个人或他们的教育方式;作为一个单亲妈妈，你必须考虑你需要什么才能过上最好的生活。把你和你的孩子放在第一位。不要急于马上开始约会。珍惜只有你和孩子在一起的时间;用这段时间去感受和治愈你的离婚或分离，在治愈的过程中找到一些平静和清晰，并帮助你的孩子也这样做。如果你需要别人的支持，不要害怕去做。 There are times that it will be tough—be honest with yourself and be open with those you trust."
-
- “如此挑战。起初我没有迄今为止的愿望，然后我很兴奋。当你想到那里的所有潜在人时，单身的感觉就是令人兴奋的。但是它再次被压倒了，并开始感到肤浅。I wasn’t really ready to date someone, nor did I want to. I didn’t want a casual fling. I wanted something meaningful and fulfilling and worth my time and energy. I give so much of myself to others, I wanted to be sure that someone would value that and not take advantage. I took quite a bit of time away from dating. I went on a few here and there, but nothing incredibly serious. At one point, I went an entire year without going on a single date. I had no desire to even try; because it felt like I would have to commit time and energy to multiple people in order to find the one who was worth it. I also don't want new men to meet my daughter, or come into my home. I try to keep the two worlds separate for as long as I can. Now, I’m finally trying to date. I think I've had enough time to myself, I feel confident in myself as a mother and as a woman. I know how to be alone. I enjoy being alone. And I'm not looking for someone to bring me purpose or fulfillment. The irony, is that now that I'm ready to date, I honestly don’t know how. I go on and off dating apps because it seems that’s the only way we meet people now. But I don’t have the time to swipe and engage in random conversations all day. I also have one or two free evenings each week, and deciding to spend that with a person who I haven’t even met yet isn’t the most appealing to me. Instead, I try to make eye contact and say hello to people in real life. But even then, there’s anxiety in telling someone I’m a mom for the first time. What do you do? Walk up to someone and say 'Hi. You're attractive. Are you single? I'm a mom. Is that OK?' I just can’t fathom how someone would suddenly be uninterested in me because of the fact that I’m a mom, when it’s such a large part of who I am and what makes me amazing. I dread that moment, even though I know it would be an easy opportunity to walk away. Anyway. Dating is challenging. I only have so much free time, and I have to decide if I want to spend that time alone by myself, with friends or family, running errands and catching up on work, or with a new random person. I’ve been doing it all solo for so long now, that they really have to bring a sense of joy and value to my life for me to give them time."
-
Rheanna wears a hand-embroidered dress from Mexico. Paloma wears a Zara dress. ">
-
“我尽量不做别人的偶像。我认为这会使他们受到不切实际的崇拜。老实说，我认为所有的妈妈都是令人难以置信的、美丽的，而且有能力做到这一点。如果说有什么区别的话，那些做五份工作来维持收支平衡、为孩子提供爱和照顾、并以某种方式把一切都保持在一起的单身妈妈们对我来说是最鼓舞人心的。我妈妈就是其中之一。日子很艰难，但她成功了。这一直是我这段旅程的指路明灯。”
蕾安娜穿着一件来自墨西哥的手工刺绣连衣裙。帕洛玛戴着Zara礼服。
-
- “从头到尾我都没有读过任何书。我也没有关注任何网站、博客或电影。我采取了一种更加个人化的方式，尽管我的母性本能会起作用，我们会自己找出什么对我和我们的孩子最好。成功了。有过艰难的时刻，但我们度过了难关。”
-
- “我认为这是一个需要大量解包的问题。在我们最近的政治和社会氛围中，有一些时刻让我更加深刻地思考我是谁，是什么塑造了我，以及我女儿的未来是什么样子。首先#梅托运动暴露了我之前隐藏在内心深处的许多创伤。有这么多的故事被公开讲述，我有过我只能称之为创伤后应激障碍的时刻。我必须把自己的经历写下来，从潜意识中清除它们，阅读它们，然后释放它们。所以我可以说这有助于我治愈，而我甚至没有意识到我需要治愈。这也提醒了我，不仅要教我的女儿同意和界限，还要教她性健康和赋权。当今世界的状况提醒我，为什么养育一个坚强、有能力的女儿如此重要。我希望她相信自己，她是值得的。我还希望她有一种包容、理解和愿意倾听他人观点的全球心态。她还需要了解我们社会和政治气候的现实，以及存在的仇恨。我女儿是黑人，她是墨西哥人，她是白人。她父亲是穆斯林。我是不可知论者。这个世界上有很多仇恨。为了保护自己和他人，她需要睁大眼睛。我毫不避讳地公开谈论我们国家和世界各地发生的事情。但我尽量不影响她。我希望她在成长过程中形成自己的理解和信念。”
-
Facebook. That means that I’m crafting creative campaigns to tell stories about the people, mission, and values at Facebook. I also have several side projects: I work with my brother on branding his business Ink & Wood, and we have the Paloma Teeter Totter together. I’m also helping a friend with a podcast about love and the sex that comes along with it."">
- “我领导多样性和文化品牌脸谱网．这意味着我正在策划一场有创意的活动，讲述关于Facebook的人、使命和价值观的故事。我也有几个副业项目:我和我哥哥一起为他的企业打造品牌墨水和木材，我们有Paloma Teeter蹒跚而行在一起。我也在帮助一个朋友做一个关于爱情和随之而来的性的播客。”
-
- “我在威斯康辛州的密尔沃基出生长大，在马凯特大学读本科。我学的是新闻和公共关系，但也有几次政治实习经历。毕业后，我搬到华盛顿，管理参议员范戈尔德在国会山的办公室，然后从事教育倡导工作，然后搬到加州。在这里，我曾为Hipstamatic工作，这是另一家非盈利教育机构，一家全球创意机构，现在是Facebook。从高中到怀孕五个月，我也在服务行业工作，最近在华盛顿的夜总会做酒水服务。我白天在国会山工作，晚上在酒吧工作。大多数人都不知道国会山工作人员的工资有多低，所以我必须想办法在那个城市生存下去。我们搬到加州时，住在西奥克兰。我们分手后，我搬到圣路易斯奥比斯波住了大约一年半。然后回到我现在所在的旧金山。”
-
- “我认为它放慢了速度。我当时正处于一段雄心勃勃、以政治为中心的旅程中。我不确定我是否想过竞选公职，但我肯定想留在政治和倡导中。当我怀孕后，我搬到了加州，开始了一条更有创意的道路——为Hipstamatic工作，做创意品牌工作，写更多东西。这最终令人难以置信地满足;比我想象的要多。我在家工作过一段时间，因为这似乎更适合我的生活方式。但现在我又回到了工作中。”
-
- “这么多。帕洛玛的爸爸非常支持我的生活方式。我妈妈经常来照看孩子。我哥哥经常来看我。我有一群很棒的朋友(有些是妈妈，有些不是)，如果我需要，她们总是主动帮忙照看帕洛玛。我们有几个保姆，需要时可以找他们。帕洛玛的前保姆是我们的朋友和邻居，如果我需要她，她几乎总是有空。”
-
- “我坚信应该关注积极的方面，而不是给消极的方面留时间。这是对能量和空间的浪费。要兼顾所有的事情是很有挑战性的，但其中仍有一些积极的东西，一些值得骄傲的东西，一些值得期待的东西，一些值得感激的东西。我真的相信每天都要专注于这些事情。当你试图平衡每件事的时候，保持平衡是很重要的，为了做到这一点，诚实和透明地沟通你做这一切的现实更为重要。让你的团队知道，告诉你的朋友，在新的关系中诚实，甚至告诉你的孩子作为一个职业母亲的现实和你为什么这样做。我认为，如果我们都能更开放地谈论我们在如何平衡自己的现实，我们就能保持专注于积极的方面。”
-
Rheanna wears a Happy French Gang jumper. Paloma wears a Tucker + Tate dress. ">
-
“我每天都在想这件事。我在与他人的互动中思考这一点，我使用的词语，她从我身上学到的教训，我们如何谈论我们在街上看到的东西，我自己的自理时间，我与她父亲的关系，她对我的工作了解多少，以及我为什么工作。我可能是她现在生活中最大的榜样，所以对我来说非常重要的是，我对我所做的每件事都有意识，知道总有一个小人物在注视和倾听。当她开始形成自己对世界的看法时，我只能希望我能帮助她学会处理这些问题，哪怕只是一点点。”
Rheanna戴着快乐的法国黑帮跳线。帕洛玛戴着tucker + tate.礼服。
-
- “我对帕洛玛感到完全满足。如果她是我唯一的孩子，我很高兴。然而，随着我单身，我只是不确定未来会是什么样子，我的心可能在几年后想要什么。也许我会决定和别人再要一个孩子。我想如果我和一个想要孩子的人在一起，我希望能够有这个选择。我最近一直在考虑开始冷冻我的卵子的过程——主要是因为我的公司提供了如此令人难以置信的支持性福利来帮助这个过程。我才刚刚开始了解更多，但我认为这是一个非常好的机会，可以为不确定的未来做好准备。”
-
- “当我早晚开会时，我会感到内疚。当我把她送到护理前让她留下来做护理后；那是我感到内疚的时候。我们一天中在一起的时间已经很少了，我希望我能有更多的时间陪我们。幸运的是，她喜欢事前和事后护理，似乎并不介意，所以这肯定是我自己的内疚，生活在我的脑海里。”
-
- “旧金山是一个抚养孩子的美丽城市。我们拥有城市，海洋，徒步旅行，渐进和多样的公立学校，令人难以置信的食物和公共交通的砂砾和生命教训。我们花时间与无家可归who live near us, we know our neighbors and nearly all of the restaurant and shop owners nearby. Paloma immediately recognizes different neighborhoods. We really feel like we’re a part of a tight knit community living in the Mission."
-
- "I’m originally from Milwaukee, and then lived in Washington, D.C. before moving to California. Those places all still feel like home. I do have a bit of an inner struggle between the slower lifestyle I had in San Luis Obispo against the city life. I'd love to find a way to combine the two, so I'm starting to dream about living just outside the city. Maybe down the coast just a bit, and on the ocean. I’ve always had this vision of living in Old San Juan, Puerto Rico. Even if just for a short time. But California is truly home now, and most of my family is here."
-
The Human Condition and Alley Cat Bookshop. We grab lunch from La Palma and Taqueria Vallarta. Sometimes we’ll have a fancy tea and cake date at Tartine. We often walk to Dolores Park. And I love to have dinner at Flour + Water or Sons Addition, both within just a few blocks of my house. Beyond the Mission? Take me anywhere in this city and I’m happy. A perfect day would include an ocean-side breakfast, hike around Land's End, and theatre or jazz downtown."">
- “我喜欢很多地方。如果我留在教会，我们通常只是在附近闲逛。我喜欢支持当地，所以我经常在人类的处境和野猫书店．我们从拉帕尔玛和Taqueria Vallarta．有时我们会在樱桃．我们经常步行去多洛雷斯公园。我喜欢在面粉+水或儿子之外，都在我家的几个街区内。超越任务？带我在这个城市的任何地方，我很高兴。一个完美的一天将包括海面早餐，徒步陆地终结，剧院或爵士队。“
-
- 母女的爱。
-
- "I’ve recently tried to adopt a more feminine style. I’ve been trying to wear dresses and skirts every day, simply because it makes me feel good. I love to wear all black everything but I feel like you can only wear so many black dresses, so I’ve been stepping it up with prints and colors. This feels a bit stereotypically old-fashioned, but I love the idea of wearing dresses at home too. Most of my aunts wore dresses every single day of their lives, well into their 90s, and I always thought they seemed so effortlessly glamourous. I have several that I wear around the house now. I also prefer to sleep in nightgowns. In all of this, I love classic styles. I also love modern silhouettes and really well-crafted pieces."
-
- "When I was pregnant and when Paloma was a baby, I’m pretty sure I wore a black maternity dress every day. I went into casual mode, and struggled to find my style. It wasn’t a priority and I was on a budget, so I also cut back on shopping. Now I’m shopping again and enjoying exploring with my personal style and the items and designers that I love."
-
KaufmanFranco leather jacket, Jimmy Choo pumps and Alexander Wang booties. I’ve been wearing a pair of Arno boots almost daily. And I have a Helmut Lang sweater that I swear I’ll keep until it’s in pieces. For timeless basics, I love Vince. And I’m super into the femininity of Alcoolique and Mara Hoffman dresses right now."">
- “我的主食肯定包括我的KaufmanFranco皮夹克,Jimmy Choo泵和亚历山大王靴。我一直戴着一副亚诺河几乎每天靴子。我有一个赫尔穆特•朗我发誓我会一直留着直到它变成碎片。对于永恒的基础，我喜欢文斯．我超喜欢女性化的Alcoonique和玛拉·霍夫曼现在礼服。”
-
Tata Harper. I use her full skincare line religiously. I have the cleanser, resurfacing serum and mask, face oil, and illuminating moisturizer. I also love her elixir vitae for my lines. It’s a magic potion for real and is saving me from considering Botox."">
- “我爱你塔塔哈珀．我虔诚地使用她的全套护肤产品。我有清洁剂，重修的血清和面具，面对石油,照明保湿霜．我也爱她长生不老药我的台词。这真的是一剂神奇的药剂，让我不用考虑注射肉毒杆菌。”
-
- “当我每天早上醒来时，我通常以某种方式冥想大约10分钟 - 这意味着没有盯着我的手机，只是想着未来的一天，我想离开它。然后我读了新闻或者book, and then get myself ready for the day. I drink chamomile all day, as a way to keep me calm and balanced no matter what life throws at me. I’ve been eating super clean, and am trying to step up my workout routine with a mix of yoga, dance, and hikes. It’s difficult to do it all, so if I can exercise at least two times per week and keep up my clean eating and chamomile drinking, I’m pretty happy."
-
Indian Springs in Calistoga."">
- “通常事情很简单，就是安静地坐着喝茶，要么在我家后院，要么在café。出于某种原因，即使在城市街道上被上百个陌生人包围，静坐不语也能帮助我找到平衡，处理脑海中浮现的一切。我经常抽时间按摩、针灸和泡温泉。我刚在。做了我这辈子最棒的按摩印度的弹簧在Calistoga。”
-
For more on Rheanna, her daughter, and their city adventures, follow her on Instagram. ">
- “我今年的约会就会开心。我也试图培养Paloma的兴趣。我希望在我的家人和朋友和工作中有重大的商业成就 - 在我的侧面项目中。” 想了解更多关于蕾安娜、她的女儿以及他们的城市冒险，请继续关注她Instagram．
0评论