汉娜和凯尔蒂鲁伯-照片和采访

内部公共李宅双胞胎汉娜•奥拉瓦里亚和Kelty绿色

艾琳·费厄(Erin Feher)著

10:00 AM

03/17/20.

During these strange times, when we are all forced to stay inside all day, every day with the people we live with, we’re betting more than a few of us have fantasized about sharing a home with their BFF, or even a whole other family to hang out with. Today’s mamas have done just that, and are undoubtably feeling a little less lonely than the rest of us these days. Hannah Olavarria & Kelty Green are identical twin sisters who are raising their families together on a working farm just outside Portland, Oregon. Not only are they intimately sharing their parenting journey with each other (and their respective husbands) but with tens of thousands of other people, as their popular podcast教养父母解包并试图找到一个更开明和同情的方式来抚养孩子。不用说，这些妈妈们有足够的聪明和有见地的东西说，母亲，经营企业，集体农场生活，和这么多。点击下面通过幻灯片看到他们充分的游览，了解汉娜和Kelty！

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HANNAH (Pictured): "Kelty’s family had been living on the farm for several years when my family decided to downsize from our home in Portland so that we could pursue our dreams with work. I had my eye on the 700-square-foot, somewhat-dilapidated cottage at the back of Kelty’s property that had been used as employee housing for the farm. When I showed it to my husband as a possibility for us, he thought I was joking. It had wonderful bones, but had been long-neglected by the former tenants. We’ve been here three years and I feel so grateful."">: KELTY:"My husband and I started our farm nine years ago, and Hannah’s family moved onto the property in 2016. Our families live in small 1950s homes on opposite corners of the 24-acre space. It’s a unique piece of land situated on the edge of the urban growth boundary, which means we’re very close-in to Portland. Since settling here, we’ve watched as countless suburban homes have sprouted up around us, making the farm feel even more like an oasis. We’re incredibly fortunate to have a landlord who, along with her wonderful family, supports the farm’s mission—and our communal living!"

汉娜（如图）："Kelty’s family had been living on the farm for several years when my family decided to downsize from our home in Portland so that we could pursue our dreams with work. I had my eye on the 700-square-foot, somewhat-dilapidated cottage at the back of Kelty’s property that had been used as employee housing for the farm. When I showed it to my husband as a possibility for us, he thought I was joking. It had wonderful bones, but had been long-neglected by the former tenants. We’ve been here three years and I feel so grateful."

HANNAH: "Cheerful, verdant, intentional." ">: KELTY:“多彩、舒适、兼收并蓄。”

汉娜：“开朗、苍翠、有意。”

HANNAH: "Before we started Upbringing, Kelty and I had worked together for the past ten years or so in photography and design, and once we had kids it felt impossible to make the commute. My husband Alex had been working at a motion design agency and the hours were killing him, not to mention his creative spirit. I somehow convinced him to sell our house and move out to the farm so that we could spend less money and gain more when it came to family, nature, and quality of life. We’re all just better together."">: KELTY:“这个决定对我来说是一件不需要动脑筋的事……我们都生了孩子，汉娜住在45分钟外的东波特兰。就说我女儿是一个不舒服的通勤者，这让开车很痛苦，我们觉得每周见面一次是不够的。这花了一年左右的时间才成为现实，但我们无法真正想象我们的家庭再次分居。”

汉娜：“在我们开始之前教养，Kelty和我一起工作了摄影和设计在过去的十年左右的时间，一旦我们有孩子，那感觉无法使通勤。我的丈夫亚历克斯在运动设计机构一直在努力与小时内杀死他，何况他的创作精神。不知何故，我说服他卖我们的房子，搬出来农场这样我们就可以花更少的钱，获得更多，当它来到家庭，自然，和生活质量。我们都只是更好地结合在一起。”

: KELTY:"The farm is 24 acres of pasture, woodlot, pond, and vegetable and fruit production. My house is on the road at the north end, and Hannah’s cottage is on the southeastern corner—about 300 yards apart. It takes us about three minutes to walk between! The farm itself is a big communal space for adventuring, feeding the chickens, pigs or lambs, hanging out on a tractor, harvesting a snack, or lovingly bugging the farm employees who live in a couple of trailers on the property, too. We each have a backyard picnic setup where we spend time together and apart, and we are awaiting spring when we can cobble together some new outdoor play space and spend drier, warmer time outside."

: KELTY:“三年前，在我们生第二个孩子之前，我们承认我们的房子很快就超过了800平方英尺。我们将车库一侧改造成了一个扩展的起居和用餐空间，并将我们的老客厅改为主卧。取缔车库和里面所有的箱子是一个可怕的想法，但把所有东西都砍掉有助于我们集中精力，更好地保护杂志堆、我们的旧衣服和我们为孩子们保存的各种小玩意。装修后的开放式概念设计为我们的流动小窝提供了一个救生圈，而曾经难以置信地黑暗的厨房也变得明亮起来。我们保留了原来的橱柜、抽屉和把手，并努力保持农舍的感觉，这是对房东家庭和房屋历史的致敬。”

Hannah wears a vintage robe from Barcelona, a Babaa knit tank, and L.F.Markey pants. ">: 汉娜："The cottage was basically uninhabitable for kids when we planned to move in, but we didn’t have a large budget to make big updates. Turns out some simple upgrades like paint, carpets, windows, kitchen backsplash, and bathroom fixtures have transformed it into Home. We dream of a slightly larger, partially communal house for our families that houses offices, guest rooms and separate kid rooms, but for now we’re hanging in and grateful to be in close quarters during these days when our kids actually want to hang out with us! It’s an old house and we’ve had to roll with the punches—walls and ceilings that are flimsy and tough to hang stuff on, a back door that often gets stuck closed, no dishwasher, and a septic that is on its last legs. We try to look at these things as quirky farm house eccentricities. We had to switch over to a composting toilet to be able to stay living here—the epitome of glamorous farm living!"

汉娜穿着巴塞罗那的复古长袍巴巴针织坦克,L.F.Markey裤子。

"Hiding the TV felt important to us, so we framed a large black-and-white photo of our beloved dog Mowgli that a close friend took years ago. We mounted velcro on the back of it against the credenza. It feels like a win on a lot of levels because we often forget the TV is even there, and also get to look at a photo we love instead of a big black surface. I highly recommend it! We have a touch of crazy plant lady in both our homes, inherited from our mom, aunt, and great aunt. It’s been a challenge to learn by trial and error which plants thrive where and why, especially considering that we have so much less time to dote on them since having kids. When people remark on the number of plants we have, I always feel compelled to point out that none of them is really thriving and that they’re actually all just sloooowly dying! Our florist friends from Solabee have promised to come over one day and advise which should be repotted, moved, pruned, or fertilized. Apparently that’s a thing? Plant coaching."">: KELTY:“我想我们都在恢复过度杂乱的状态。把少看成多就是这样一个过程!我的新理念是用耐久的物品来装饰，这些物品能给我带来快乐，或者能让我想起一个人，一段时间或者一个地方。我曾经认为，装修一个家只需要一次，但汉娜让我觉得每隔几个月就可以自由地重新接近空间，检查它们的排列，这样它们仍能感到功能和满足。我们的家和我们一起进化。她对平衡很有眼光，在我家里帮忙布置和调整了很多角落，却没有买任何新东西。妈妈的装饰风格和对植物、彩色地毯、中世纪家具和个人艺术的使用对我产生了很大的影响。儿时的朋友和家人第一次来到我们的房子时，会说:“啊……感觉很熟悉……”即使在装修之后，它仍然远不是一个大房子。创造一个小空间，让一两个人可以在里面玩耍或交谈，这是很重要的。当孩子们玩耍时，我们真的努力创造一个足够的成人坐着的空间。”

“把电视藏起来对我们来说很重要，所以我们把我们心爱的狗毛格利的一张大黑白照片裱起来，这是一位好朋友多年前拍的。我们把维可牢搭在书柜后面。从很多方面来说，这都是一种胜利，因为我们经常会忘记电视就在那里，而且我们也可以看到一张我们喜欢的照片，而不是一个大的黑色表面。我强烈推荐它!我们两家都有一种疯狂的植物，这是从我们的妈妈、阿姨和姑奶奶那里遗传来的。通过试验和错误来了解哪些植物在哪里生长，为什么生长，这是一个挑战，尤其是考虑到自从有了孩子后，我们对它们的溺爱越来越少。当人们谈论我们的植物数量时，我总是觉得有必要指出，没有一种植物是真正茁壮成长的，它们实际上都在缓慢地死亡!我们的花店朋友Solabee答应有一天会过来，并建议哪些植物应该移植、移动、修剪或施肥。显然这是一件事?工厂指导。”

"It’s been a balance to find ways to make upgrades without investing too much money or time, especially since we are renting. We’ve been grateful for the opportunity during breaks in the podcast to consider what’ll pack some punch visually or functionally but not break the bank or waste time we could be using doing something for our brains or bodies. Small details like hardware, soap dispensers, mirrors, and plant pots that I actually like have made a big difference in making it feel more like home over time."">: 汉娜：“我们在一个充满家族史和丰富个性色彩的家庭中长大——古老的木材、大型植物、父亲的非洲面具和打击乐器、母亲的艺术作品，还有传世的旧书和相册;这就是家对我们的感觉。我丈夫的父母来自法国和智利，他们也喜欢这里的颜色和质地，所以他在这里也有家的感觉。我一直是一个收藏家和杂物收藏家，但和孩子们住在这么小的空间里——毫不奇怪——让我感到疯狂和不知所措。在过去的几年里，我经历了一个痛苦的过程，但最终还是减轻了我的心理健康和工作效率。我一直认为改变一个家是我的工作，但这个家在意向性、灵活性和简单生活方面真的改变了我。我曾经相信，谁死时拥有最多的书/鞋子/小玩意，谁就赢了，但在经历了整理和收拾父母、祖父母和已故阿姨的房子的痛苦而漫长的过程后，我感觉对东西的依恋少了很多。现在，我给心爱但不需要的东西拍照，这样我就可以更优雅、更少遗憾地送人了。我们不会带很多新东西到家里，但垃圾总会积累起来，所以每个月都会有“传承日”和“善意日”!也就是说，我肯定比凯尔蒂更倾向于极简主义——我喜欢充满个性和赏心悦目的房子，但更喜欢我自己的房子，感觉就像一个专门为我设计的度假角落。 Painting the walls something other than white was something I never in a million years thought I would do, but Kelty inspired me to think of our little homes as experiments. Do we like wallpaper? Is tiling fun? Do patterned rugs make us feel crazy or brilliantly hide dirt? Could we pretend to live in a Wes Anderson or Almodovar movie for a while? Someday, I’ll feel more precious about making the 'perfect decisions' for my Forever Home, but right now I’m content as a mad scientist living in my Survive Today Home."

“在不投入太多资金或时间的情况下，找到升级的方法是一种平衡，尤其是在我们租房的情况下。我们非常感谢播客期间休息的机会，考虑到在视觉上或功能上会产生什么样的冲撞，但不会破坏银行或浪费时间，我们可以为我们的大脑或身体做些什么。硬件、皂液分配器、镜子和我真正喜欢的花盆等小细节，随着时间的推移，让它感觉更像家，产生了巨大的变化。”

Kiyoshi Mino, to name a few. We have a small stretch of rainbow tiling between the kitchen and dining room that makes me happy. Hannah and I trolled the discard room at Pratt & Larson almost four years ago, not quite knowing what we would do with them. One day it just seemed like the perfect space and time to just do it, already! I remember feeling so impacted by ombré and rainbow patterns as a kid, so I like thinking of our kids absorbing that, too, as they pass by throughout the day." "Our art is all really meaningful to us. The painting over the kids’ bedroom couch was painted by our mom depicting us when we were four or so. She says that all we did every day as kids was play pretend, usually naked, and getting so absorbed we’d refuse meals—she painted it from a photo she took one day while we were in the thick of imaginary adventuring. The kids seem to get a real kick out of it. The first piece of art my husband and I bought together was this huge charcoal rooster by Portland artist April Coppini. We ended up trading work—her art for our branding design—and it has warmed every home we’ve lived in. It hangs in the sala so that we can see it going out to the farm. I love large-scale prints, like the photo over our bed of my husband and me attempting the 'Dirty Dancing move' almost 20 years ago. Seeing it every day helps reconnect me to those magical early days of our relationship that are easy to lose sight of in the parent vortex. It reminds me to stay silly."">: KELTY:我想把朵拉姑婆的彩色画像挂在客厅的中央，朵拉姑婆帮助我们长大成人。她是第一代从冰岛来的美国人，是我们家的女家长，独自抚养母亲和她的五个兄弟姐妹，同时在加州卡尔弗市教高中英语。她让我们喜欢园艺、推理小说、自然漫步和诗歌。家庭中女性的书虫影响导致我在主要生活空间中对书籍的需求。装修之后，我们的餐厅就没有书架了，当我心爱的书和小玩意终于回来的时候，感觉好像世界上一切都好了。除了书籍，我们的书架还收藏着回忆——礼物、旅行中收集的东西、家庭艺术品、照片和朋友亲手摸过的动物清美浓，举几个例子。我们有一个让我开心的厨房和餐厅之间的彩虹拼图的小片。汉娜和我差不多四年前在触轮普拉特·拉尔森丢弃的房间，还不知道自己到底是什么，我们会与他们无关。有一天，它只是似乎像是一个完美的空间和时间就去做，过了！我记得OMBRE和彩虹的图案作为一个孩子的感觉如此的影响，所以我喜欢我们的孩子吸收的是，也因为他们全天路过的想法。”

“我们的艺术对我们来说真的很有意义。孩子们卧室沙发上的画是妈妈画的，描绘了我们四岁左右的时候。她说当我们还是孩子的时候，我们每天所做的就是假装玩，通常是裸体的，我们会全神贯注地拒绝吃饭。她从一张照片上画下了这张照片，当时我们正沉浸在想象中的冒险中。孩子们似乎从中得到了真正的乐趣。我和丈夫一起买的第一件艺术品是波特兰艺术家的这只巨大的木炭公鸡4月Coppini．我们最终用她的作品换取了我们的品牌设计——它给我们住过的每个家庭带来了温暖。它挂在沙拉上，这样我们就能看到它去农场了。我喜欢大尺寸的印刷品，比如我和丈夫在床上的那张近20年前尝试“辣身舞”的照片。每天看到它，让我重新回到我们关系的早期那些神奇的日子，在父母的漩涡中很容易被忽视。它提醒我要保持愚蠢。”

">: 汉娜："I’m grateful for some sturdy Danish items and vintage rugs I scored on Craigslist years ago that somehow fit in our cottage. Setting Craigslist alerts has been a game changer, but half of the challenge has been not settling for a piece that sooorrrta fits the bill. It takes a bit of time, but I’m always grateful to have waited for the right thing! I have so little wall space in my home that every piece we chose had to be personally meaningful. A framed menu from our favorite childhood restaurant in Barcelona, a mosaic painting in our bedroom by my mom, collaged photos of my husband and me that Kelty made from our wedding day, a fiber art piece from Luna Munoz of Chinchilla that Kelty gifted me. They’re all touchstones to people I love and places and times I miss."

: “我最珍爱的东西来自巴塞罗那的乔安妮阿姨家。我们长大了去拜访她在夏天孩子和深,甜的记忆扑克牌在土耳其rug-which现在在我的卧室里,从她的加泰罗尼亚的瓷器现在吃我的厨房,和日本欣赏她的长袍在早上crosswords-which现在是一个老生常谈的我的主食。她是一个不折不扣的家庭主妇,虽然我一直试图感觉不那么伤感的事情,因为我总是没有空间对他们来说,未必能承受,或发现他们可能受损的孩子,抓住她的几个项目帮助了我觉得她仍然与我当我在家里。”

Hannah wears a Just Female sweater, vintage tee, Rachel Antonoff pants, and Kyrgies slippers. ">: “最后，我们的小屋里没有电视，但音乐占用了我们很多时间，幸运的是，空间不大!”我甚至忘记了我们的Korg钢琴在那里，直到我听到我的女儿弹它，安装我们的吉他，uke，旋律竖琴为孩子们的玩具存储空间。一起放唱片是我们早上和晚上最喜欢做的事情之一，可以定下基调，建立联系。我是听着成人音乐长大的，我相信我的孩子也可以。我告诉我身边的每一个人，从现在开始，我想要的节日和生日礼物就是一张他们认为我喜欢的唱片或者是我们过去分享过的音乐。只有少数人听过，但我将继续尝试——我喜欢收集与传记相关的唱片来享受、回忆和传承的想法。”

汉娜穿着只是女毛衣，复古T恤，瑞秋Antonoff裤子，还有Kyrgies拖鞋。

: 汉娜：“微型住宅的挑战在于，我们没有一个专用的‘游戏室’——到处都是多功能的感觉!”小的生活方式帮助我有意识地保持玩具和工艺品的简单。这也让我看到我的孩子们有能力、有想象力、足智多谋，他们可以用更少的钱做更多的事，尤其是在他们拥有农场的时候。我们壁炉下面和书架上的篮子里放着孩子们所有的开放式玩具和纸/马克笔，我们会把东西翻进翻出以保持新鲜。如果我们不能在五分钟内清理干净，那就捐给慈善机构!我们书架最下面的抽屉里放着所有“这是什么鬼东西——暂时把它藏起来”之类的东西。当我想到这一点时，孩子们大部分时间都在用厨房和卧室里的非玩具进行想象游戏——这让我怀疑这些东西是否都消失了，他们甚至会注意到吗?”

: KELTY:“每个房间都是游戏室，我们的孩子在家里有充分的空间进行他们富有想象力的游戏和漫步，但我们确实在客厅里放了玩具/游戏等。我们喜欢让孩子们的卧室基本上没有玩具，以减少晚上的干扰和打扫恶作剧。直到最近，伊尼戈的床还藏在他们的衣橱里。现在，他们的衣橱变成了一个类似迷你图书馆的地方，孩子们可以坐在那里读书，或者在需要的时候享受一些安静的时间。大家都知道我经常躲在里面。游戏区是客厅的一半，我们称之为sala，并设置了一个基本的蒙台梭利货架概念箱，主要是开放式的游戏项目，如积木、Magnatiles、乐高、乐器、游戏服装、假装食物和厨房用品。他们把大部分时间花在在不同的地方，从内到外，自发而混乱的茶话会上。孩子们会竖起我们的马林巴斯琴——非洲木琴——时不时地演奏，我们也会加入进来，防止棍棒击打，享受随之而来的不和谐的声音!我们在五年级的时候和爸爸一起学习打篮球，一直打到大学。马林巴琴是学习音乐基础的好乐器——节奏、和弦等等。”

: KELTY:"For me, motherhood has been the ultimate personal growth book. I’m always surprised when women maintain they’ve been unchanged by becoming a mother. I can connect to wanting to hold pieces of my former self and life close, but this new phase of my life is both exciting and scary at the same time. It’s been a holistic guide, gently leading me by the hand some days, dragging me by my ankles others."

">: 汉娜：“做母亲已经成为与他人，特别是父母谈论艰难事情的一个闪亮的门户。它给了我们一个奇怪的机会，让我们不再废话，去接触我们所有人都有过的人类体验，但我们不会谈论太多。自从成为一名母亲后，我身体上就不能进行闲聊了——我只是不存在于那个层次上了，我同意这一点。当我们见面时，有些人感到厌恶或不知所措，但另一些人则感到宽慰和兴奋，跳过细节，投入到好东西中去。”

: 汉娜：“当我发现自己怀孕时，我花了一段时间才接受这样一个事实：我体内可能只有一个婴儿。我怀着这样一种孪生心态长大了，在面对这种期待之后，我被引导去考虑其他我对性和性的看法。我发现了两个孩子的性别，因为当时任何信息都让我感到安慰，但我没有任何期望，当然，从那时起，我也就不再关注性别了。凯蒂和我先生女孩，后生男孩，这看起来几乎是有意为之，但他们的小小精神超越了他们的性别和他们现在的性别。我的孩子们总是敏锐地感知，通常都与性别规范保持一致，而我的最佳意图是为他们保持流畅和开放的心态。相反，我尽我最大的努力关注他们对自己的了解程度，以及他们之间超越性别的联系。”

Teresa Thorn and Kaeyln Rich, who shared all they have been learning about gender as a social construct. Looking at our kids’ gender as a fluid, ever-changing, and personal thing has helped me immensely to extend that perspective to other areas of their lives as well! It’s truly a load off to bust the binary thinking we have been socially conditioned to have when we look at these incredible little individuals."">: KELTY（如图）："When I found out my second baby’s sex was male, I have to admit I was thrilled at the symmetry. A girl then a boy for Hannah, then a girl and a boy for me? Crazy. But since that doctor’s appointment it's becoming glaringly obvious that they’re all just little people—that looking at gender in a binary way only limits who they are and who they can become. My son Inigo, for example, wears dresses but identifies as a boy. Why are we so hell bent on defining things like gender, sexuality, self-expression? We had two wonderful women on the podcast last season,特蕾莎修女刺和Kaeyln丰富，谁共享的所有他们已经了解性别作为一种社会建构。看看我们的孩子的性别作为一个流体，不断变化的，和个人的事情已经让我非常以这个角度延伸到生活的其他领域，以及！这是一个真正的负载断胸围二元思维，我们一直在社会条件有当我们看看这些令人难以置信的一点个人“。

H&M cardigan, Eileen Fisher shirt, and Beklina pants.">: Kelty戴着H&M开襟衫，艾琳·费雪衬衫，Beklina.裤子。

"The kids go to a Montessori/RIE preschool and kindergarten about half an hour away. It’s a tough commute for us all in the van, but the care and education they get feels right for us. Their outdoor space is like Swiss Family Robinson with huge tires, climbing walls, bins and sivs, rakes and chalk. Their focus and play stamina have grown so much since being there, and the guides really focus on supporting emotional intelligence, personal responsibility, and collaboration—basically all we can really hope they work to learn at this age—besides having FUN!"">: 汉娜和KELTY:“孩子们现在3、4、5、6岁了!”他们的兴趣广泛。他们都喜欢在蹦床上跳跃、猜谜、阅读和富有想象力的游戏。5岁的怀尔德非常以项目为导向，喜欢在她的织布机上工作，或者和我们一起做饭和准备饭菜。3岁的伊尼戈最近一直用皮带在房子周围拖着各种各样的毛绒玩具，并把东西藏起来让人们在不合适的地方发现。6岁的罗伊非常喜欢音乐，她会唱歌、尝试弹钢琴，或者设计一出让每个人都参与其中的戏剧。4岁的拉兹洛已经有了更多的身体活动，他会从沙发上跳下来，滚到枕头上，同时还会用积木做很多东西。”

"The kids go to a Montessori/RIE preschool and kindergarten about half an hour away. It’s a tough commute for us all in the van, but the care and education they get feels right for us. Their outdoor space is like Swiss Family Robinson with huge tires, climbing walls, bins and sivs, rakes and chalk. Their focus and play stamina have grown so much since being there, and the guides really focus on supporting emotional intelligence, personal responsibility, and collaboration—basically all we can really hope they work to learn at this age—besides having FUN!"

: KELTY:“我想我一直都知道我想成为一名母亲，尽管在那之前我并不知道那到底意味着什么。我慢慢地意识到，为人父母基本上是一场集体阴谋——每个人都这么做，但很少有人分享它的真实样子和感觉。我不知道，为人父母意味着我也要兼任治疗师、护士、管家、厨师、保姆和私人采购员。我很想告诉每一个想做父母的人，在他们冒险之前，先接受治疗，花点时间和家人在一起。我指的不是在孩子的生日派对上花时间陪他们，或者给他们读几篇文章，我指的是在晚餐时间或就寝时间做一只墙上的苍蝇，照顾一天哭闹的婴儿，倾听女性经常经历的劳动分工。如果我知道这一切，我想我仍然会决定做一个父母，但我知道很多人可能会改变他们的想法，把自己限制在一个孩子或更长的时间。”

: 汉娜：“是的，但就我个人而言，‘何时’而不是‘如果’更重要。我们的母亲在她20岁出头的时候就有了我们，她总是说要孩子是终极选择，这样我们就有了养孩子所需的精力。最近几年，她提到，当她成为母亲时，她失去了作为一名艺术家和演员的未来，这让我很难过。我一直坚持要成家，直到我觉得合适的时候，大约在我30岁的时候，我很高兴我做到了。在我们陷入长期的、高压力的护理和后勤计划之前，我有时间去了解我的丈夫。我们养育了两名minpins和man，我们与他们的关系动态和沟通是巨大的!我也有时间去读研究生，中途退学，和Kelty搭档，和她一起在工作旅行中广泛旅行，这是我非常珍惜的。我有时间学习超验冥想，并发现某些食物会让我生病和发疯。我的人际关系、个人成长和工作仍在随着孩子的成长而不断发展，每个人都要为他们找到合适的时间，但滑动门练习总是让我回到我自己的接受和感激。”

: 汉娜和KELTY:“七年前，我们有了一个聪明的想法，同时怀孕，但感谢上帝，我们最终分开了8个月的孩子。不然我们怎么能在那里生孩子，喂奶，洗衣，做所有这些事!我们把对方当作幸运的“电灯泡”，在几乎完全相同的分娩过程中，我们经历了30多个小时的背产和3个多小时的推挤。我们的第二次分娩就很不一样了——汉娜做了剖腹产，凯尔蒂生孩子总共花了一个小时。当我们回顾我们的出生时，我们的眼睛总是眯着，心中充满了我们的身体和孩子所取得的成就。”

We were fortunate that our photography and design work as The Weaver House was a flexible self-employment situation without a ton of financial pressure at the time. We kept all four kids home with us until each was a little over two years old, after which they went to Montessori a few days per week. During that time we were still able to work part time doing branding and photos for artists and small businesses. It was a hard situation, though, because the lines between parenting and working were beyond blurry! We weren’t doing any screen time for the kids in the early years, so working on our computers wasn’t an option, which meant high pressures and expectations for nap times. We struggled with feeling like we weren’t doing either thing—work or parenting—as well as we would like, and it took time to compartmentalize each of our roles, finding ways to just be in the moment with kids or work, however that shook out. Last summer, all four kid began Montessori together and we began to feel a sense of clarity and freedom that we had struggled to find before. We’re still working on keeping our minds in our present situation, as juggling all the things can so easily disconnect us from the beautiful moments flying by."">: 汉娜KELTY：“我们很幸运，我们的摄影和设计工作织布厂当时是一个灵活的自营职业环境，没有巨大的经济压力。我们把四个孩子都留在家里，直到每个孩子两岁多一点，然后他们每周去蒙台梭利几天。在那段时间里，我们仍然能够兼职为艺术家和小企业做品牌推广和拍照。然而，这是一个艰难的局面，因为养育子女和工作之间的界限是非常模糊的！早年我们没有为孩子们安排任何屏幕时间，所以我们不能选择在电脑上工作，这意味着很高的压力和对午睡时间的期望。我们挣扎着感觉自己在工作或养育方面做得都不如我们所希望的那样好，我们花了一些时间来划分我们的每个角色，想办法与孩子或工作在一起，然而这一切都发生了变化。去年夏天，四个孩子一起开始学习蒙台梭利，我们开始感受到一种清晰和自由的感觉，这是我们以前努力寻找的。我们仍在努力让我们的思想保持在目前的状态，因为处理所有的事情很容易使我们与飞逝的美好时刻脱节。”

RIE parenting as young parents and it changed the course of our parenting experience and work. The basic principles are connected to practicing a sensitive awareness of our babies as capable equals, worthy of our respect and thoughtful support. It truly took a huge pressure off our shoulders and helped us shift our energy away from micromanaging, entertaining, and generally over-controlling, to a more mindful space of trust and connection. RIE inspired us to communicate authentically with our babies, bring them as active participants into their caregiving activities, support their independent play, allow them to develop their motor skills naturally, encourage them to express their emotions and inner-directedness, and trust that our modeling of skills and values is more than enough. Basically, the opposite of what we thought we should be doing as parents. RIE resonated immediately and at the same time, was a counter-intuitive approach that took a lot of practice to integrate. And not in a 'follow these steps' way, but in a 'what’s their job and what’s my job?' way where we got to really think about our cultural conditioning, impulses, and the WHY behind our beliefs and actions. Janet Lansbury is the most well known RIE practitioner and has a great blog and a podcast called Unruffled that we highly recommend! We have a resources page on our website that continues to filter our most relevant parenting, personal-development and health go-tos."">: 汉娜和KELTY:“我们发现RIE它改变了我们养育孩子的经历和工作。这些基本原则与培养一种敏感的意识有关，即我们的孩子是有能力的、平等的，值得我们尊重和周到的支持。它确实减轻了我们肩上的巨大压力，帮助我们将精力从微观管理、娱乐和过度控制转移到更专注的信任和联系的空间。RIE激励我们真正的沟通与我们的孩子,让他们积极参与到他们的护理活动,支持他们独立,让他们自然地发展他们的运动技能,鼓励他们表达自己的情感和inner-directedness,和相信我们建模技能和价值观是绰绰有余。基本上,相反的我们作为父母应该做的事。RIE立即产生了共鸣，同时也是一种反直觉的方法，需要大量的实践才能整合。不是以“遵循这些步骤”的方式，而是以“他们的工作是什么，我的工作是什么？”的方式，让我们真正思考我们的文化条件、冲动以及我们的信仰和行动背后的原因。珍妮特·兰斯伯里是最著名的RIE实践者，拥有一个很棒的博客和一个名为平静的我们强烈推荐!我们的网站上有一个资源页面，继续过滤我们最相关的育儿、个人发展和健康建议。”

We’re smitten by any mom who’s willing to call it like it is, from Ali Wong and Alison Pill to our friends and family to the amazing women we’ve met on Instagram who speak so vulnerably and honestly about their lives. It’s a rare bird that can acknowledge how difficult and hilarious this role is while also showing intention about DOING something to improve it! We’re also beyond inspired by reading feminist authors and activists like bell hooks and Audre Lorde who wrote about the hard stuff, specifically around how their feminism intersects with other identities, including their role as mother. We need to keep conversations going that focus on that alignment of values and discuss what things FEEL like more than what things LOOK like when it comes to parenting and motherhood."">: 汉娜KELTY：“我们很喜欢任何愿意这么称呼它的妈妈，来自阿里·黄和艾莉森丸对我们的朋友和家人，对我们在Instagram上遇到的那些脆弱而诚实地讲述自己生活的了不起的女性。这是一种罕见的鸟，它能承认这个角色是多么的困难和滑稽，同时也表明打算做一些事情来改善它!我们也深受女权主义作家和活动家的启发贝尔钩子和罗尔蒂谁写了关于硬的东西，特别是围绕如何他们的女权主义相交与其他身份，包括其作为母亲的角色。我们需要保持对话会，重点值是对齐和讨论什么事情感觉像比的事情看，当谈到育儿和母亲一样多。”

: 汉娜和凯莉的肖像，4岁，由他们的母亲画。

"Our upbringing was impacted greatly by spending summers just north of Barcelona at our aunt’s home. The neighborhood kids took us under their wing and let us tag along to soccer games, mountain hikes, and trips to the village for warm french bread with Nutella and bottles of Fanta. Amidst our harder middle school years, we could access our summer experiences to bring us comfort, thinking to ourselves: right now, as I eat my cafeteria chicken fried steak and mashed potatoes, what’s fresh at the neighborhood bakery in Aunt JoAnne’s village? As I’m sitting in front of this perplexing math test, is the water clear or murky down at the Barcelona beach? Another life was happening apart from ours right then, and picturing it beside ours helped two very sensitive girls understand that their personal experience wasn’t necessarily 'reality.' A whole world of otherness was happening around them."">: 汉娜和KELTY:“我们在波特兰郊外的一个建于50年代的小社区长大，从学校到朋友，再到社区的游泳池，我们做各种自由放养的事情。如果我们不在树上或游泳池里，我们就在家里读书，一起钉书，或者制作珠宝典当给邻居!我们的母亲是艺术家，父亲是音乐家，教高中法语和西班牙语——他们经常让我们自己做自己的事，或者在他们工作或与朋友在一起时，我们和他们一起出去玩。我们有很多美好的回忆，比如浇花、园艺、做饭、和也和我们住在一起的朵拉姑母做填字游戏。我们在郊区度过了很多时间，但周日去市中心参加父亲的音乐会和一神论普世主义教堂，让我们看到了多样性、地球母亲和社会正义。”

"Our upbringing was impacted greatly by spending summers just north of Barcelona at our aunt’s home. The neighborhood kids took us under their wing and let us tag along to soccer games, mountain hikes, and trips to the village for warm french bread with Nutella and bottles of Fanta. Amidst our harder middle school years, we could access our summer experiences to bring us comfort, thinking to ourselves: right now, as I eat my cafeteria chicken fried steak and mashed potatoes, what’s fresh at the neighborhood bakery in Aunt JoAnne’s village? As I’m sitting in front of this perplexing math test, is the water clear or murky down at the Barcelona beach? Another life was happening apart from ours right then, and picturing it beside ours helped two very sensitive girls understand that their personal experience wasn’t necessarily 'reality.' A whole world of otherness was happening around them."

HANNAH: "Intentional, receptive, evolving."">: KELTY:“实验性的、专注的、宽容的。”

汉娜：“故意、接受力强、发展”。

Topshop pants, and Kyrgies slippers. Hannah wears a Paloma blouse, Levi's corduroys, and a Madewell sweater. ">: Kelty戴着复古纽扣，Topshop裤子，还有Kyrgies拖鞋。汉娜穿着Paloma.衬衫，Levi的灯芯绒和达毛衣。

: 汉娜和KELTY:"Somehow the four of us are all essentially aligned on our parenting practices. It’s a miracle, considering we’re all integrating our own childhoods, values as adults, and unique partner relationships! Our parenting intentions and approach are probably so closely aligned because we’re all closely aligned on most other things, if that makes sense. Something we are finding ourselves on slightly different pages is with our girls’ upcoming grade school plan. Do we continue with Montessori? Support public or charter school? How will our kids best learn, how can we support education for all, how can we not go broke, how can we find that middle way that feels best for us? It’s uncomfortable but we know we’ll grow from it."

: 汉娜和KELTY:"The political climate hasn’t changed our parenting as much as motherhood has changed how we align and get honest as people, about our politics. We realized a bit into parenting that we lived one way as women and another way as mothers. As women, we believed that everyone has a right to free speech, body consent, personal expression, and agency in their lives. As parents, though, we noticed our—very natural—impulse to censor our babies’ actions, over-control their bodies, dictate their clothing, and minimize their experiences and feelings. It was a huge wakeup call to realize the unconscious hypocrisy that conventional parenting had conditioned within us—that we were essentially undoing the feminism our kids were born with. Thinking, reading, and listening has helped us break free from these traditional beliefs, tethering and elevating our personal and political selves in a way we never could have anticipated. We now consider ourselves agents of change who are raising agents of change. Free thinkers who are raising freethinkers. Activists who are raising activists. Humans raising humans. Allowing our kids the same freedoms that we fight for and enjoy as adults is no easy feat, but we’re failing forward for an ultimate win-win, one conversation at a time."

KELTY: "I would say, look inside—not for the answers, but for the questions."">: 汉娜：“而不是将物品放在您的登记处，为人们购买，增加人们可以为以下人员提供资金的增长机会：治疗，儿童开发和自我reg书籍，保姆，健康食品以及其他支持您的心理健康的真正有意义的物品relationships in the long run. It may not be romantic or exciting, but it’s a gift I wish I’d been given!"

KELTY:“我会说，看看里面，不是答案，而是问题。”

Upbringing, which we hope will continue the rest of our lives. Our dearest friends are also starting to have kids, which is super exciting." ">: 汉娜和KELTY:“是的！我们Allll与父母一起在我们的工作在工作中的婴儿和儿童教养我们希望这将延续我们的余生。我们最亲密的朋友也开始有孩子了，这太令人兴奋了。”

Upbringing. Our mission is to empower parents to redefine their kids’ resistance and elevate their discipline, practicing tools beyond the go-to control methods that social norms and conventional parenting have taught us. As new parents we started to realize that we’d been conditioned to believe that focusing our parenting on raising kids for social acceptability was the priority—making sure they behave the right way, say the right things, look how we’d expect. That’s one goal of raising kids, but we’ve come to believe that prioritizing this external agenda can undermine our kids’ inner wisdom and authority. All of our work is geared toward sensitively supporting that spirits so that they can go out into the world and know who they are and what they want—if they know these things, what beauty and positive change can they create?" "We never considered ourselves feminists until we became parents and realized the impact of the patriarchy in conventional discipline practices—i.e. consequences, time outs, incentives, shaming, over-controlling. We have these unconscious and seriously understandable beliefs about what a parent should do and how a child should behave that aren’t actually based in research, let alone reflect the values we hold as progressive thinkers! We’ve sorted through a lot of these ideas and been open about our struggles with this on Instagram in our Unconscious Hypocrisy series." "As early parents, we kept hearing these voices in our heads that didn’t feel right in our hearts, and as we read and talked about it more together, we began to shift our thinking and our approach to raising our kids. RIE, Positive Discipline, and Simplicity Parenting were early influences that resonated, empowering us to align our beliefs as people with our practices as parents. Over time, we’ve developed our own research-based system—a brave experiment, really—to elevate our awareness and build our skills as we move through challenges with kids. It comprises our Freedoms Model, Resist Approach, and Empowerments. You can download them on our website for inspiration as you build a unique model and approach that suits your own family!"">: 汉娜和KELTY:“我们以播客、教练和演讲者的身份共同工作，通过我们的合作，支持父母的心智健全和社会变革，教养．我们的使命是赋予父母权力，让他们重新定义孩子的反抗，提高他们的纪律，实践超越社会规范和传统父母教给我们的控制方法的工具。作为新父母，我们开始意识到，我们一直以来都习惯性地认为，把养育孩子的重心放在让他们获得社会认可上是最重要的——确保他们行为正确，说正确的话，看看我们的期望。这是养育孩子的一个目标，但我们已经开始相信，优先考虑外部议程会削弱孩子内在的智慧和权威。我们所有的工作都是为了敏锐地支持这种精神，这样他们就能走进世界，知道自己是谁，知道自己想要什么——如果他们知道这些，他们能创造出什么样的美好和积极的改变?”

“我们从未认为自己是女权主义者，直到我们成为父母并意识到父权制在传统纪律实践中的影响——即后果、暂停、激励、羞辱和过度控制。我们对父母应该做什么和孩子应该如何行为有着无意识的、可以认真理解的信念，这些信念实际上并不是基于研究，更不用说反映我们作为进步思想家所持有的价值观了！我们已经整理了很多这样的想法，并在Instagram上公开了我们在未来几年的斗争无意识的虚伪系列。”

“作为早期的父母，我们不断在脑海中听到这些在我们心中不正确的声音，随着我们一起阅读和讨论的更多，我们开始改变我们的想法和抚养孩子的方法。RIE,积极的纪律，和简单育儿是早期的影响，让我们产生共鸣，使我们作为人的信念与作为父母的行为相一致。随着时间的推移，我们已经发展出了自己的研究体系——一个勇敢的实验，真的——来提高我们的意识，并在我们与孩子一起面对挑战时培养我们的技能。它由我们自由模式,抵制的方法，和灌顶．为您打造一个独特的模式和方法适合你自己的家庭，你可以下载他们在我们的网站寻找灵感！”

: 家庭聚餐有了全新的意义。

: KELTY:"In college at Stanford we primarily studied languages—Spanish, Portuguese, French, Italian, and Swahili. We joke that all of our classes were basically an excuse to keep talking to each other, but it’s pretty much true. Playing on the women’s water polo team limited the classes we could take, since practice began at 3 p.m. every day, which was tough because I was into art and design, which were primarily held in the afternoon. Language classes were typically in the morning and became a wonderful way to begin the day and connect with students from around the world in a light-hearted but challenging way. It was sort of like forced social interaction for two introverts who could easily have sat quietly in the corner of classes with any other major."

: 汉娜：大学毕业后，我们不得不分开所有的衣服和鞋子，我们在旧金山、巴塞罗那、长滩和马萨诸塞州西部分别生活了三年或四年，之后又回到了太平洋西北部。在那段时间里，我从事研究工作，在OHSU和波特兰的弗吉尼亚州进行神经精神测试和功能磁共振成像研究，Kelty建立了她的摄影和网页设计业务Stiple Street，当我们联手时，它就成了Weaver House。我们从来没有想过我们现在会回到波特兰，更不用说住在一起了，但我们到了！尽管演讲和辅导是我们这些天的主要工作，但我们仍然很享受偶尔拍摄小企业、家人或朋友婚礼的机会，因为我们可以进入一个独特的世界，体验并向他们反映特定的时间。”

Upbringing, entirely. We had a momentary reflection in our first year or two, something like: How can we expect these certain behaviors and attitudes of our kids that WE can’t even perform and hold up as their parents?! The rest is history; the rest is our ongoing practice. We’re all growing up together!"">: 汉娜：“母亲是催化剂教养,完全。在我们的头一两年，我们有一个短暂的反思，像是:我们怎么能期待我们的孩子的某些行为和态度，我们甚至不能表现和支持他们的父母?!剩下的就是历史了;其余的是我们正在进行的实践。我们都在一起长大!”

Upbringing felt, as Elizabeth Gilbert has said, 'less like a calling and more like a screaming.' Being a parent comes with an immense amount of pressure to make our children conform, perform and 'be good'—same for us parents. And yet, most of us have absolutely no understanding of kids’ development, nor do we possess the training in how to support their feelings and crazy-ass behavior. I hear a lot of people describe 'massive overwhelm' as the barrier to exploring the many parenting approaches and resources out there, and I really get that. What we’ve come to realize is that parenting is less about choosing an approach and more about creating your own from what you’re learning. I was so lucky to have Hannah, who got the ball rolling early with parent education for us. We were able to shift our instinctual 'winging it' to a place of curiosity and comfort in not doing it all right or having all the answers. The more we read and explored, the more liberated we felt to keep on growing! Upbringing was born from our constant practice in supporting our challenging, inspiring kids while endeavoring to grow up alongside them."">: KELTY:“对我来说，养育两个精力旺盛、敏感的孩子就像上了一堂育儿速成课。我不能不学习如何支持他们——我别无选择。把这些经历变成教养毛毡，伊丽莎白·吉尔伯特说，“不像一个电话，而更像一个尖叫。”为人父母自带的压力的巨大数额，使我们的孩子遵守，执行和“是good'，同样为我们的父母。然而，我们大多数人都完全没有了解孩子的发展，我们也不具备在如何支持自己的感情和疯狂的屁股的行为训练。我听到很多人形容“大规模压倒”作为屏障，探索许多育儿方法和资源，在那里，我真的明白了。我们已经认识到的是，养育较少有关选择的办法，更多的是从你正在学习创建自己的。我很幸运，有汉娜，谁拿到球年初我们家长教育滚滚。我们能够在没有做这一切的权利或具有所有的答案转移我们的本能“即兴发挥”一个地方的好奇心和舒适性。我们越是阅读和探究，更多的解放，我们认为继续增长！养育了我们在支持我们的挑战，激励孩子们同时努力成长起来的他们一起不断的练习生“。

: 汉娜和KELTY:“我们非常幸运，在这个地区有两对祖父母，他们很高兴每周能和孩子们呆在一起一次。我们的农场和朋友群体也很强大，我们很感激一些单身的“阿姨和叔叔”，他们学会了如何哄孩子睡觉、给他们洗澡、喂他们吃饭，以及所有的事情。我们也有一群亲密的高中朋友，他们是我们的父母，我们愉快地和他们交换愤怒的马可·波罗，或者和他们一起吃晚餐。最终，我们拥有彼此，这让我们的早期育儿生涯变成了一个安全、合作、支持的过程。我们可以帮对方洗衣服、去杂货店购物、哄孩子睡觉、打扫房子。”

: 汉娜和KELTY:“我们是一个热一塌糊涂，就像你休息。如果你们已经想通了，我们很乐意向你学习！”

: 女孩们和她们的女孩们。

: 汉娜和KELTY:“我们每天都要面对母亲的内疚，因为我们是人，我们告诉自己，这完全没关系，因为在某种程度上，这让我们保持克制。我们为人父母的方式是否与我们作为女性的行为一致？这是不是实现了我们的梦想和对孩子的爱？如果没有，我们可以做些什么不同的事情？我们可以培养哪些技能？我们毫不掩饰自己的工作正在进行中，我们试图提醒自己和他人，这就是做父母的意义所在。我们试图避免感觉到自己或引起他人的羞耻感。它不友善，不富有成效，也不会提升个人和集体成长的对话。”

: 姐妹俩的心爱的大阿姨多拉，第一代美国人的来自冰岛的肖像和他们的家庭的女家长，。

: 汉娜："Portland is an amazing city to live in, but if we’re honest, being introverts and homebodies keeps us on the farm most of the time. While our virtual world has grown bigger with Upbringing, our real world has become intentionally smaller since becoming parents and living farther out on the farm. Fun to us these days is sitting out in the evening with a friends to enjoy a beverage, chips, and salsa. A productive work day is walking through a nature park to talk out our next episode or talk between school drop-off and pick-up. We hit the beach and the gorge every summer, but in reality we prefer to bring the food, drink, friends, and fun to us on the farm!"

: 整个团伙。

: 汉娜和KELTY:“我们梦想着逃到欧洲去呆一段时间……或者，至少，逃到中学?”我们对过去的一些经历有着创伤性的记忆——谁没有呢?-不仅因为我们六年级时身高5英尺11英寸。我们已经意识到一种强烈的欲望，想要保护我们的孩子不受大众消费主义、身体消极、过度科技场景的影响，这些都是郊区青少年的组成部分。我们想知道，欧元版本会有什么不同吗?我们也想念西班牙的食物、语言和人民。想象着孩子们在鹅卵石上散步，去海滩，并希望远离麻烦，这是我们一直坚持的梦想，尽管有点松散。无论我们做什么，无论我们住在哪里，我们都希望团结在一起。”

PomPom Social meet-up or to visit inspiring lady friends who have small but mighty spots like Monochromatic, Solabee Flowers, Betsy & Iya, and Bar Norman. Portland is changing so fast that we can hardly keep up, but we try to have date nights at delicious nooks we fell for when Justin sold our farm veggies in past seasons: Lovely’s Fifty Fifty, Ava Gene’s, Seastar Bakery, Jacqueline, and Tusk are a few favorites."">: KELTY:“我们每两个星期长途跋涉到波特兰从农场，通常是在人的辅导课，一高射机关炮社会见面或拜访那些有小而强大的斑点的鼓舞人心的女性朋友单色,龙葵花,贝特西 - 祖谷，和酒吧诺曼．波特兰的变化如此之快，我们几乎跟不上了，但我们试图在美味的角落约会之夜，我们爱上了贾斯汀在过去的季节出售我们的农场蔬菜:可爱的是五五,AVA Gene,海星面包店,杰奎琳，和托斯有一些收藏夹“。

: 汉娜：“我想我没有一件东西不是超大的、流动的或有弹性的。当我回到家时，我发现我必须立即换上休闲服和拖鞋，这是我最近意识到我们家很多女性也做过的常规。我觉得我就像是在洗衣篮里离开了外面的世界，这样我就可以在回家的时候放松舒适了。当凯蒂和我还是婴儿的时候，我们的妈妈决定给我们每个人分配一个色域阴影，这样我们就可以感觉到自己的独特性，或许她也可以把我们区分开来！我被赋予了暖色，所以我总是喜欢红色、橙色、粉色和奶油。我的红头发感觉像是一件鲜艳的衣服，而且我有六英尺高，所以我很少觉得需要大胆的陈述和疯狂的造型，尽管我确实喜欢明亮、剪裁精良的外套或运动夹克。”

Tradlands, Everlane, and ARQ have been a guiding light, and I’m smitten with Encourage Vintage for one of a kind gems. All within the cool spectrum of colors, of course."">: KELTY:“舒适，个性，实用，男性化，女性化，我自从有了孩子，我一直在试图专注我的衣橱从喜欢的地方更少的选择和更多的基础知识。按钮起坐，T恤，牛仔裤，短服装Tradlands,everlane.，和ARQ一直一盏指路明灯，而我重拳出击鼓励复古为了一颗独一无二的宝石。当然，所有的颜色都属于冷色系。”

: 汉娜：“在我成为母亲的同一年，我们的乔安妮姨妈死于一场突发疾病。她是我们的第二个母亲，我们的女儿是我们唯一的安慰，是我们悲伤的解药。我不再照镜子，连续几天穿同样的衣服，通常是黑色的运动服。我记得当了几年母亲，注意到我的衣柜已经完全失去了颜色和意图。用衣服来享受和表达自己已经慢慢回到我的生活中，虽然样式还没有出现，我仍然保持它的简单——我主要坚持单色面料和休闲装，因为我们现在不太喜欢花哨的东西。为人父母激励我诚实地面对什么是最舒服的，同时也是最“我”的，而不是预测我应该成为什么样的人。除了简单的黄金，我不戴太多的首饰，我更喜欢西装而不是连衣裙，现在，我只有那么多的大脑空间来专注于我日常的着装。也许有一天会改变?”

L.F.Markey jumpsuit, a vintage cardigan, and Nike Air high tops. Kelty (right) wears a Wildfang blazer, Mara Hoffman top, and Target pants.">: 汉娜(左)戴着L.F.Markey连身裤，老式开襟羊毛衫，还有耐克空气高上衣。 凯尔蒂(右)穿着Wildfang西装外套，玛拉霍夫曼顶部,目标裤子。

: KELTY:“当了妈妈后，我的风格找到了焦点。我觉得我之前有点乱!我想，考虑这些事情的时间少了，尝试的机会也少了，这也造就了我的新感觉。我再也不能像以前那样关心别人了。我基本上只穿可以完全混洗和烘干的衣服。我放弃了高跟鞋、飘逸的东西、图案、彩虹色，只选择了感觉像是功能性、灵活的基本款必需品的“胶囊衣橱”。我很高兴能站在另一边，觉得自己需要拥有更多，‘以防万一’。”

Monochromatic and North of West. Mara Hoffman is a favorite I’ve followed for a while as well as Doen’s flowy shirts and Rachel Comey’s leather goods."">: 汉娜：“我倾向于整个夏天穿亚麻和连身衣，流动的衬衫都塞进牛仔裤或绳子。在搬到小屋之前，我有一个漂亮的大衣柜被溢出。我经常购买，我很少购买。它觉得它觉得很少this immense burden I was constantly trying to manage and failing at. I had no choice but to pare down to a single dresser when we moved to the cottage, and it’s been the biggest gift—I’m so much more aware of what I own and how it makes me feel. I can care more about quality and supporting small businesses now that I have fewer items, too, so it’s been a real treat to invest in beautifully made staples from indie designers at Portland shops like单色和北西．玛拉霍夫曼是一个最喜欢的，我跟随了一段时间，以及DOEN'S.件衬衫,瑞秋科米的皮具“。

I feel my most essential in jeans, a button-up or tee, boots, and lipstick. Madewell jeans and Jungmaven shirts have been my staples this year. Linen and clogs in the summer, Blundstone boots with jeans in the winter. Hannah always has spot-on insight into what I should be considering and why!"">: kelty：“我觉得我的牛仔裤中最重要的，一个按钮向上或三通，靴子和口红。达牛仔裤和Jungmaven衬衫是我的主食今年。亚麻和夏季木屐，Blundstone靴子在冬天穿牛仔裤。汉娜总是能洞察到我应该考虑什么和为什么!”

Everyday Oil or SW Basics—with a natural SPF moisturizer. We don’t wear much makeup but have found that adding a bit of Beautycounter undereye concealer, a dewy cheekbone highlighter from Glossier, and some depth to our eyebrows can make us, for some reason, kinder to one another? Lipstick and mascara feel fancy, but we don’t wear them daily at the risk of accidentally rubbing them all over our faces. At night we gently exfoliate, use retinol serum, and natural night cream. Our best friend Marissa gifts us certificates to get facials a few times a year—otherwise we’d forge—and we plan to keep giving ourselves manicures and pedicures until someone opens a night nail salon that offers online scheduling, ala carte services, pays its employees well, serves alcohol, and feels visually and auditorily nourishing. Anyone want to open one in Portland?"

KELTY: "Hannah buys all my beauty stuff."">: 汉娜："We’ve been soap, water, lotion people most of our lives and really just started paying attention to and learning more about our skin in our mid-30s. We spent our childhoods through college in the water and sun, so we try to cover up as best we can now that we have the choice. We keep our routine super simple with a Vitamin C serum and face oil in the morning—something like每天油或者SW基础-with天然保湿防晒。我们不穿的化妆，但已经发现，添加了一点Beautycounter黑眼圈遮瑕膏，一个纯洁的颧骨从光彩夺目的亮光笔，眉毛的深度可以让我们，出于某种原因，对彼此更友好?口红和睫毛膏感觉很花哨，但我们不会每天都擦，以免不小心把它们擦得满脸都是。晚上我们用视黄醇精华液和天然晚霜轻柔地去角质。我们最好的朋友玛丽莎礼物我们证书面部几次year-otherwise我们伪造和我们计划继续给自己手部护理和美甲,直到有人打开一个晚上指甲沙龙,提供在线调度,阿拉巴马州的地图服务,支付员工,服务于酒精,感觉视觉和听觉或营养。有人想在波特兰开一家吗?”

KELTY:“汉娜买了我所有的美容用品。”

: KELTY:“我们都是高度敏感的孩子——过度思考者，强烈的触觉，容易焦虑，需要一些方法来平静我们的身体以稳定我们的思想。汉娜和她的丈夫六年前参加了一项超验冥想训练，这让我们在家进行了一项正念练习。她和我终于报名参加了一门以正念为基础的减压课程，非常棒。我们练习瑜伽，冥想，伸展，对我们的生活沉思，以免在混乱的时期自我毁灭。我们的身体已经受到高中和大学激烈的水球运动的影响，所以我们现在做低强度/压力的活动来滋养我们的身体和精神。我们走很远的路，我们谈论我们的感觉，我们和我们的伴侣去治疗，我们腾出时间远离孩子，并尽可能地安排好和伴侣相处的时间。我们能做的任何事都是有用的。”

L.F.Markey jumpsuit, a vintage cardigan, and Nike Air high tops. Kelty (right) wears a Richer Poorer tee, Wildfang corduroys, Cartonnier coat, and New Balance sneakers.">: 汉娜(左)戴着L.F.Markey连身裤，老式开襟羊毛衫，还有耐克空气高上衣。 凯尔蒂(右)穿着富裕贫穷球座，Wildfang灯芯绒裤子, 纸箱工外套和新的平衡运动鞋。

: 汉娜和KELTY:“作为一个强有力的榜样，是我们主要的养育超级大国。我们真的相信，我们的人生移动的方式影响我们的孩子如何成长，他们相信自己和世界比什么都重要的。我们总是在谈论如何我们的孩子就像是一个大的吓人屁股镜子，每天都将举办，以反映我们一定要长大自己，耶众多的机会！当我们可以学会忍耐，讲尊敬，同情那些我们的爱，问题通过斗争解决，道歉，并表明我们的错误是从未连接到我们的lovability或值得的，他们知道，太“。