母亲

“我们在十年前就在Craigslist的情况下，我们真的在Craigslist上找到了我们的家，那么克雷斯莱斯列表可能是少数可靠的社区市场资源之一。没有开放的房子。以前的老板在她的中期80年代。她的父母在她之前拥有它她。该房子建于1929年，曾被海军官员占据作为前海军基地的一部分。“

“我喜欢把我们的家想象成一个现代摩洛哥的宅基。它有一个非常活跃的觉得它拥有它的时代的形式。”

Curb Appeal front exterior makeover a few years ago. That was an awesome experience."

Charmin wears Rachel Comey clogs. Phoenix wears Hanna Andersson clogs.

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“房子的骨头造型得好，大多数事情在购买家时仍然在机场。唯一的问题是没有任何触及的问题。原来的油漆在墙上，所有的电气都是旋钮和管子，窗户都是原创的，管道被镀锌。我们首先解决了必须的一切，然后进入厨房，最终是房地产的外部空间。我们很幸运能赢得赢得HGTV抑制的吸引力几年前前面的外部改造。这是一个很棒的经历。“

魅力磨损雷切尔很好厚底木屐。凤凰穿汉娜安德森厚底木屐。

“我试图对我们允许在家里举行空间的故意。我喜欢既有功能的装饰物品，有一个故事让我们想起特殊时刻。我想我们的房子充满了迷你时间胶囊，但不是尘土飞扬的霉味。“

后院的手工搭建的树屋既是孩子们的艺术工作室，又是秘密聚会场所。

“我爱我们的邻居。那里的人很好地混合在一起。它在文化和社会经济上都非常多样化，有各种年龄和类型的家庭。我们把邻居视为家人。我们一起吃喝，我们的孩子们挨家挨户地蹦蹦跳跳。我还喜欢我们的社区离东湾区域公园很近。不到5到10分钟，我们就被开阔的空间、红杉、橡树、草地和新鲜空气包围了。”

“我爱奥克兰，我爱旧金山湾区，但很难看到这么多和我一起长大的人因为生活成本太高而苦苦挣扎。即使对我们来说，我们也被迫做出艰难的决定，比如去私立学校还是去旅行，或者选择双薪家庭而不是一人待在家里。更不用说，感觉我们生活在一个远离一切的世界，这使得旅行非常昂贵。感谢上帝，加州能提供这么多。我可能会住在洛杉矶，亚特兰大，或者国外的某个地方。不过，我知道我会想念海湾。”

Hawthorn, Owl N’ Wood, Maribel, Atomic Garden, McMullen, Crown Nine, Alameda Flea, Heath Seconds, and The Dry Garden. I get all my alterations done at Shirley Designs and Alterations—the owner is a former mechanical engineer and an amazing seamstress. Our favorite places to eat are Teni East Kitchen, Itani Ramen, Golden Lotus, Cactus Taqueria, which is great for kids, Mama’s Royal Cafe, Market Hall, Grandeur, and Arizmendi. When I want a drink, it's Bardo Lounge, Red Bay Coffee, Cafe 187, and in the dining rooms and kitchens of my friends' homes. As a family we like to explore the East Bay Regional Parks, museums including MOAD, OMCA, Exploratorium, Di Rosa, de Young, and the Old Oakland Farmers Market—it has a great selection and I love seeing my friends there. Spirit Haus Gallery is our spot for live music."">

“对于购物,山楂树那猫头鹰那马里贝尔那原子花园那麦克伦那皇冠九那Alameda Flea那希思秒,干燥的花园．我所有的改动都是在雪莉设计与改建- 所有者是一名前机械工程师和一个惊人的女裁缝。我们最喜欢的吃饭Teni东厨房那Itani拉面那< <金瓶梅> >那仙人掌taqueria，这对孩子来说很好，妈妈的皇家咖啡厅那市场大厅那宏伟,arizmendi.．当我想要一杯饮料时，就是Bardo休息室那红海湾咖啡那咖啡馆187.在我朋友家的餐厅和厨房里。作为一个家庭，我们喜欢探索东湾区域公园、博物馆等MOAD那omca.那探险者那迪罗莎那德年轻，而且老奥克兰农民市场-有很好的选择，我喜欢在那里见到我的朋友。Spirit Haus Gallery.是我们现场音乐的地方。“

“我喜欢看到自己和孩子们以一种美丽而意想不到的方式成长。孩子们张开双臂欢迎生活。他们无所畏惧、乐于接受、热情奔放、深思熟虑，丰富了他们所不知道的生活。我相信母爱是我与生俱来的。我的孩子们允许我分享这份礼物中最好的部分。”

“哇，只是关于一切。他们所说的是真的，你从来没有真正停止担心。你大多担心他们变老的东西。关键是不是让他们知道你一直都担心。”

"It’s interesting how some—not all—of their differences are really gender-based. I know that some people are pretty sensitive about categorizing people this way and I totally get that. But I have to say I notice distinct differences in the way that they communicate or fail to communicate or in the ways that they require my attention. Raising a son has definitely helped me understand my husband better. Or at least I think so, ha. I didn’t think I would care much about their genders, as I always just wanted to be a mom. However, I feel really blessed to be a mom to both a son and daughter. We knew early in the pregnancy."

Ian Johnson a couple of years before the twins were born. I love that piece, and I love the music of the artist who inspired the piece. Funny thing is that Mingus is a budding visual artist, but has yet to express an interest in playing an instrument! Much like his namesake, Mingus is a very thoughtful and multi-dimensional individual. He has a brilliant mind and a very tender and kind spirit." ">

凤凰是以希腊神话中的鸟命名的。她是我丈夫给她取的名字，很像她的名字。这是在她出生前几年他为儿子取的名字。菲尼克斯是一种力量，我经常受到她的动力、韧性和优雅的启发。明格斯是以著名的爵士音乐家查尔斯·明格斯命名的。我买了一幅当地画家查尔斯·明格斯的画伊恩约翰逊在双胞胎出生前几年。我喜欢那个作品，我喜欢灵感艺术家的音乐。有趣的是，明斯是一个崭露头角的视觉艺术家，但尚未表达乐器的兴趣！与他的名字一样，Mingus是一个非常周到和多维的个人。他有一个聪明的心灵和一种非常温柔和善良的精神。“

“这对双胞胎现在10岁了……哇!!”凤凰喜欢画时尚插图和弹钢琴。她还喜欢玩乐高积木，设计玩具。她创造了各种不同类型的场景。我看到过弹出式精品店、烘焙比赛、微型房屋建筑，当然还有我们自己的家和家人的场景，这些都是我最喜欢的。明格斯是一位科学家。他喜欢学习有关动物及其进化的知识。他也是一个历史爱好者，了解世界各地的情况。他很傻，也是我认识的最风趣的人之一。他喜欢画画，也喜欢电子游戏。”

Art Is Luv on a wish and a Google search. I want my children to have the resources that I lacked, right in their own home."">

"I really try to set a good example for my twins on a daily basis. I am their first love and probably who they trust most, at least for right now. Although I want them to see the best of me, I know that it’s also important for them to see my growth, how I rebound from failure and learn from my mistakes. I know that being a business owner is probably one of the best examples I can set for them. Entrepreneurship is empowering. It allows me to create something I love on my own terms. It yields a continuum of personal and professional growth and allows for endless opportunities to collaborate and build with others. I did not grow up knowing very many business owners in my community or family. I started艺术是luv.在一个愿望和谷歌搜索。我想让我的孩子在他们自己的家里拥有我所缺乏的资源。”

“没有，但我从来没有反对过这个想法。然而，我觉得我在快30岁的时候准备得最充分。”

Toast denim skirt. Phoenix wears an H&M dress. Mingus wears a J.Crew shirt.

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魅力佩戴A.吐司牛仔裙。凤凰穿一个H＆M.礼服。明格斯戴着J.Crew.衬衫。

"We actually lost a couple of pregnancies before the twins and they were both pretty tough. I don’t think families ever get over the loss of a child or anyone they love for that matter. But new life has definitely helped us embrace the goodbyes we’ve experienced along the way. My twin pregnancy was magical, exhausting, and hard as shit in so many ways. To this day, I smile when I think about the chocolate I was fed to wake Mingus up when he fell asleep right before heart monitoring, but cringe in agony when I still wake up most nights with lifeless, numb hands and fingers from the carpal tunnel that was exacerbated by my swollen pregnant body."

“我们对双胞胎感到高兴。我们是无所畏惧的！疯狂，对吗？是的，我们绝对不知道是什么是迈出的方式。”

“头两年半的日子非常艰难。我们睡眠不足，总是生病，但却疯狂地相爱。情况在3到5之间慢慢好转，然后相对地，从6到8.5。事情在9点左右变得更有趣了，哈哈!幸运的是，我们的家人都是本地人，所以两位祖母都能以自己独特的方式帮助他们。我公婆在我们工作的时候照看这对双胞胎一年左右，在接下来的几年里断断续续。我的母亲住在更远的地方，同时也在照顾生病的父亲，但她却不能以同样的方式帮助我。然而，当双胞胎五岁的时候，我们失去了父亲和母亲。到目前为止，除了她的父母外，我妈妈是唯一在世的祖父母。接送都很有挑战性。 After school care is a constant in our day-to-day life and dinner is usually served late. That being said, this balance would be much harder without the help of my extended community. Through my children, my family has grown well beyond its roots."

“我们的客厅是我们的家庭空间，而且我的意思是我们喜欢举办我们扩展的家庭和社区的地方。我们在沙发上有电影之夜和Homie Hoogouts - 我们不再被允许说'游戏日期。'家具和氛围必须易于耐用。然而，有了这一说法，我说，我在一个家庭中抚养了在客厅里的环聊，严禁玻璃咖啡桌上的指纹。虽然不是在我们家的情况下，我确实继承了你能训练孩子们尊重家具和装饰物品的哲学。我的妈妈仍然拥有我们童年的家具，这些家具在多年来的童年时代 - 即使没有塑料覆盖！“

Paintings by Kelly Ording. Painted gourds by Rosesharon Oates.

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“我爱我的床和夜总会的沙发。我的床是西榆树的现代美人床，床下有储物柜，这是很罕见的。我们的沙发是带折叠躺椅的组合式沙发。我们在h。d。巴特卡普清仓时买的。太便宜了!”

画作凯莉奥丁．画葫芦,Rosesharon oates.．

“我在奥克兰长大，在亚特兰大的克拉克亚特兰大大学和佐治亚理工大学读本科，在加州大学伯克利分校读研究生。我很感激这样一个多元化的学术经历。一路走来，我学到了很多，也遇到了一些非常了不起的人。我希望我的孩子也能有这样的经历。我要他们离开。我认为离开奥克兰对棕色和黑色的孩子尤其重要。我希望我的双胞胎会像我丈夫和我一样，至少考虑上一所历史悠久的黑人大学。对他们来说，把自己看成是成功的、有价值的人，能够克服各种困难，这很重要。”

Art Is Luv in 2014 after deciding that I loved the curatorial process so much that I wanted to practice my craft in multiple spaces around the Bay Area as often as possible. I love art. I love the people who create art and I love how art makes people feel. I always tell people that I became a civil engineer for the civil part of engineering and although I know that my work as an engineer is extremely important to the communities I serve, I don’t feel that it allows me to be as engaged with people as I prefer. In addition, I’m often the only woman or the only African American working in various settings as an engineer. It’s lonely. I don’t want to be that rare. Working with artists and organizations who support art programming is far less isolating and allows me to become a better community steward and problem solver as an engineer."

Charmin wears a vintage poncho from Maribel.

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“我的工作是土木环境工程师和艺术策展人/顾问。作为一名工程师，我在一个水务局工作。作为艺术策展人/顾问，我为大型非营利组织、基金会、私人和商业客户采购和策划本地艺术。我开始艺术是luv.2014年，我决定我非常喜欢策展过程，所以我想尽可能多地在湾区的多个空间练习我的手艺。我爱艺术。我爱创造艺术的人，也爱艺术带给人们的感受。我总是告诉别人，我成为一名土木工程师是为了工程的土木部分，尽管我知道我作为一名工程师的工作对我所服务的社区非常重要，但我觉得它不能让我像我喜欢的那样与人交往。此外，我通常是唯一的女性或唯一的非裔美国人，在不同的环境中作为工程师工作。这是孤独的。我可不想那么稀罕。与美术人员和支持美术编程的组织合作不会那么孤立，这让我成为了一名更好的社区管理人员和问题解决者。”

查敏穿着一件复古斗篷马里贝尔．

Adia Millett, Kelly Ording, and Nicole Dixon are on heavy rotation."">

“我80%的作品都是当地艺术家的作品。我喜欢从个人那里购买艺术品，我可能会和他们共用一辆捷运车，或者放学后去看他们。因为我们见过面，他们通过艺术分享的故事对我来说更特别。我喜欢这么多艺术家，很难选择一个最喜欢的。然而，我要说，我的女儿们阿布扎比投资局米勒特那凯莉奥丁,妮可迪克森旋转沉重。“

"We did have one room we referred to as the playroom. This will soon be Phoenix’s room. I think having a separate play space—if possible—is actually helpful. Even though we allow our children to roam free, it’s nice to have a space where most of the toys are stored, and also where visiting children can let loose a bit more freely. However, when it comes to books, every space in our home is a mini library, even the bathroom floor."

"It’s amazing to watch their closeness. They hug in the grocery store and have fake fights on the ride home. They enjoy separate play dates but genuinely miss each other during sleepovers. Twins are different. It’s fascinating to see them parent each other. I notice how their own personalities and their perception of my own partnership with their dad plays out in the way they relate to one another. A week ago, Phoenix made Mingus’ dinner plate—not her own—while he played video games: two tacos with sliced grilled chicken and his favorite toppings. I thought very critically about what to make of her act of kindness. I was careful to remind her to allow opportunities for her brother to become more independent, but remembered to applaud her thoughtfulness. Raising our girls to become compassionate leaders is a tricky balance, but well worth it. Altruism is one of our many super powers. It is embedded in our DNA."

Art by Janis Anton.

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“我经常处理妈妈的内疚感。它通常集中在当下。当我的孩子们跟我谈论他们一天的生活、一个无关动物的事实或一个最新的敲门笑话时，我真的很努力地让我的大脑停止思考晚餐菜单、计划外的玩耍日期、给家人回电话等等。”

艺术艺术Janis Anton.．

“我尽量不要为另一个牺牲一个。在这样做时，我发现当我真的需要它时，我难以寻求帮助。我觉得我不断试图证明我可以做到这一切。”

“母亲当然！（认真）。我喜欢听到来自所有不同背景和生活经历的母亲的恢复力的实际故事。母体社区真的感觉像女性及其家人的安全和无障碍空间。”

“我非常欣赏任何妈妈或母亲儿童的女人当他们的实际母亲不存在或无法开展母亲的责任时。所以，这几乎包括所有出生的妈妈，邻里妈妈，学校妈妈，医生妈妈和所有的妈妈都在。但是，如果我不得不选择最爱，递并，我的母亲，祖母，姐姐，以及凯尔·HUXTABLE。“

“我的童年充满了美好的回忆和一些困难的回忆。我的父母都很棒。我父亲是一名卡车司机，我母亲一直呆在家里，直到我12岁左右。之后，她在一所小学做全职学习专家。在我成长的那个年代，来自不同社会经济阶层的家庭仍然可以进入奥克兰。我步行去学校，用车票买了甜甜圈。我整个夏天都骑着自行车，和邻居们在一条死胡同里放国庆节的烟火。我玩了没完没了的捉人游戏和乌诺游戏。我还记得那些年的经济困难和不确定性，那困扰着我的家庭和我的许多同龄人的家庭。然而，我记得最清楚的是我的家人每次都能振作起来，走出困境。 I never went hungry and always had a roof over my head. It saddens me today that so many families, much like my own, don’t have a safe place to land and bounce back when they fall on hard times."

Adia Millett. Cloud painting by J. Shears.

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小房子艺术阿布扎比投资局米勒特．云画绘画J. Shears.．

“我的养育风格非常一致。养育育儿的挑战是因为我的孩子和我的发展而变化，但我的问题解决方法很稳定。我带着爱情领导。我不能感激我的孩子，当他们知道的时候很感激我的指导，纪律和钦佩来自一个坚定不移的爱情，他们更有可能得到我必须给予的智慧。“

“目前的政治气候肯定会与我的孩子从所有关于口袋妖怪，学校院子戏剧的孩子谈话转移，并测试乱七八糟的”我们有一个积极的射手钻“或”我们了解到我们的股权跨越了大多数和少数民族和包含圈子。I’m often sad and infuriated by what is happening in our country and abroad to women, people of color, the LGBTQ community, young boys, and so many others. However, I am grateful to live in a place where there are organizations, educators, and individuals who hold space for our children to openly discuss how these issues make them feel and how they can empower each other to help make positive changes."

“我们谈论无家可归和种族主义，不一定是彼此独一无二的。他们似乎似乎困扰着这个国家，更好地困扰着世界。我们谈谈建设社区与爱和支持他们的人的重要性，无论种族如何，社会经济，或性别差异。我也与他们谈论不仅在桌子上座位的重要性，而且还在桌子的头部谈论。我提醒他们他们正在雕刻一条别人，我们的投资在他们的教育和整体成功中不仅仅是为了他们。我认为我们经常常常专注于“我的时间”和“过着我最好的生活”。我正在提高我的孩子，成为社区管家，他们知道生活你最好的生活在你身上享受生活时享受生活。“

H&M romper.

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凤凰穿一个H＆M.romper。

“我知道它听起来很陈词滥调，但我会告诉一个女人有一个孩子期待意外的孩子。”

"You will always be a mother of twins. It's sometimes tempting to see them as only siblings, but they are more than that. It’s different. Embrace, respect, and nurture the bond they share. Plus, of course, 'Boss up!' It’s going to be a crazy but amazing ride."

“我确实采取了正式的产假。它的大部分是未付的，但我很感激我作为加州居民的津贴。”

“目前可能还没有。不过我之前确实考虑过。先生双胞胎的一个缺点是，多生孩子会让你有点害怕。不是因为睡眠不足或其他多重相关的挑战，而是因为怀孕和产后风险。我生下了这对双胞胎，并在分娩期间进行了剖腹产。在他们出生后的第4天，我经历了围产期心肌病。尽管通过心脏扫描我已经完全康复了，但我一直没有完全克服创伤后应激症状。一想到要再次拿自己的健康冒险，我就感到很脆弱。为了我自己和我的家人，我必须保持健康。”

Charles Blackwell.

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艺术艺术查尔斯布莱克威尔．

“在为双胞胎装饰共享空间时，我总是必须对他们不同的个性和美学进行超级思考。我试图使用非性别特定的调色板和设计。我也倾向于更永恒的风格，使其他内饰更加友好在房子里。艺术也是一个大的跳跃点。艺术选择和放置通常是我们家中每个空间的灵感。“

"Haaa! You mean Phoenix’s vision. She’s reading over my shoulder as I answer this question! When the twins were babies and young children, I had full creative control. Now that they are officially in the double digits, that’s no longer the case. And although Mingus could pretty much still care less, Phoenix is a whole other ball of wax. She actually enjoys the design process and is a budding artist. She has a clean and modern sensibility, which I really love and appreciate. She actually told me that she wants her room to feel like a one-bedroom flat. OMG, she’s already probably planning her escape to Paris!"

“从表面上看，他们似乎很高兴能把对方踢出去。然而，他们都认为，在正式断绝关系的时机到来之前，继续睡在同一个房间可能会更好。双胞胎几乎总是需要过渡性分离。”

“有趣的故事：当我们第一次与双胞胎讨论单独的房间时，我们告诉Mingus，他会搬到楼下的房间。他马上说，”没办法！我不想成为劫匪的第一个劫匪！'我丈夫和我丈夫说，'你希望他们能得到你的妹妹吗？“明士的回应是'不，但是......'然后是一个很长的暂停。菲尼克斯在楼下的卧室展示了楼下的卧室。她说，'它更接近厨房，有自己的浴室！'哈！我几乎试图说服她选择另一个楼上的房间，直到我意识到我只是在她身上投射自己的性别“规范”，而且通过这样做，我并不让她成为她真正的勇敢和赋权的力量是。”

LaQuita Tummings. Purple dream catcher by Phoenix Baaqee.

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被子拉基塔肚带．凤凰·巴齐的《紫色捕梦网》。

“我觉得当了妈妈后，我的风格绝对更简单，更永恒。我想我会叫它现代创意。我的情绪变化通常是由我穿的鞋子决定的。”

Rachel Comey, Bryr, Beklina, and No. 6. Although I’m always on the lookout for new designers!"">

"Clogs are for sure one of my most important staples. I’m 5’3” and usually prefer a bit of a heel. I gained 60 pounds when I was pregnant with the twins and my feet widened and flattened. Clogs are a perfect antidote for my post baby, hobbit-like feet. So far my favorite clog designers are雷切尔很好那Bryr那Beklina,6号．尽管我一直在寻找新的设计师!”

Ace & Jig top. Art by Adia Millett.

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一个卫生纸品牌穿一个ACE和JIG.上面。艺术艺术阿布扎比投资局米勒特．

Kiehl’s products, which I still love. Shout out to Maria at the Berkeley 4th Street location. What a beautiful person inside and out. For makeup, I usually wear a tinted moisturizer by Laura Mercier, a fun bright-colored or sparkly liner, Beautycounter mascara, and bronzer or blush by Fenty Beauty. As for wellness, I’ve practiced Bikram yoga for over ten years. I also run and take walks."">

“我经常换发型。我很无聊，但有时我的风格是由我的训练团决定的。如果你听到了，请喊一声!我喜欢我的头发自然和它给我的弹性。自然的头发经常是我女儿谈论的话题。她欣然接受自己的卷发，但当她的同学问她为什么头发看起来“卷曲”时，她肯定会有孤立和自我怀疑的时候。我的护肤程序通常涉及无数Kiehl的产品，我仍然喜欢的产品。在伯克利第4街街道喊叫玛丽亚。多么美丽的人内外。对于化妆，我通常会戴上有色的保湿霜劳拉·梅蒂尔，有趣的亮色眼线笔，Beautycounter睫毛膏涂上古铜色或腮红芬蒂美．至于健康，我已经练习高温瑜伽十多年了。我也跑步和散步。”

“我工作的时候有很多时间都不在孩子身边，所以我在家的时候真的很喜欢和他们在一起。当我不和他们在一起的时候，我喜欢园艺，和我的大家庭和亲密的朋友出去玩。我们一起吃饭、旅行，有时只是在对方的沙发上闲逛。”

Art Is Luv beyond the Bay Area, but, as always, connecting individuals and organizations with the talented artists living in their own backyards. I am also interested in building collaborations with individuals who can help bring awareness to the importance of buying local art and support teaching artists. Personally: I would love to travel more. My children are getting older and I want to have more opportunities to explore California and the world with them." ">

“专业：我很乐意继续扩大艺术是luv.除了湾区之外，还要始终如一，将个人和组织与生活在自己的后院的才华横溢的艺术家联系起来。我也有兴趣与个人有助于提高购买当地艺术和支持教学艺术家的重要性的个人合作。个人：我很想旅行更多。我的孩子越来越老了，我希望有更多的机会探索加州和世界。“

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